solojones posted:And I definitely think that climate has led to an increased incidence of objectification of female posters and harassment issues. It's bad enough to have to deal with this in our culture at large, where it's impossible to go out in the evening without getting whistled at/having inappropriate comments thrown at you. It's worse when a board that is regulated starts dipping into that kind of atmosphere.
lexu posted:I feel conflicted about this because I like that kind of humor, I'm not put off by joking around like that and even unmerciful teasing. My group of friends is totally un-PC. I'm sure a lot of you are like that, too. On the boards, joking around like that with other cool people is equally fun. Sometimes holding back just enough to stay within the realm of the TOS is like a game. However, there's a reason you usually only joke around about that kind of stuff with your friends because you trust them not to abuse the situation. When it's in public, there are always people who take it too far or take it as an opportunity for something sleazy. That's when you get the objectification and harassment. I don't want more rules. I'm all about the mods using their judgment--that's why we're selective about picking them, right? The only change I would make is to ask them to be harsher in dealing with the clearly problematic people and situations so that everyone gets a better understanding of where that line is.
harpuah posted:Ideally, yes... but I recall a recent thread when you said something insulting to Eeth, and I told you if you did that again, I would rip both sets of your lips off and feed them to you. Some people really got a bit bent out of shape over that, but you knew I was kidding, and joked right back.. posting a sad face and saying you were really looking forward to it, when I informed the group that I was, in fact, joking.. see what I mean? The line can't really be defined for as large of a group as we have here... we're all different.
lexu posted: harpuah posted: Ideally, yes... but I recall a recent thread when you said something insulting to Eeth, and I told you if you did that again, I would rip both sets of your lips off and feed them to you. Some people really got a bit bent out of shape over that, but you knew I was kidding, and joked right back.. posting a sad face and saying you were really looking forward to it, when I informed the group that I was, in fact, joking.. see what I mean? The line can't really be defined for as large of a group as we have here... we're all different. I wasn't quite sure if you were joking or not at first, either. After people said something about it, I assumed you'd either say it was a joke (which of course you did) or a mod would see it and take action. It was just the way you said it with a instead of a or even a . Usually in the JCC, is not nice.
harpuah posted: Ideally, yes... but I recall a recent thread when you said something insulting to Eeth, and I told you if you did that again, I would rip both sets of your lips off and feed them to you. Some people really got a bit bent out of shape over that, but you knew I was kidding, and joked right back.. posting a sad face and saying you were really looking forward to it, when I informed the group that I was, in fact, joking.. see what I mean? The line can't really be defined for as large of a group as we have here... we're all different.
Grand_Admiral_Grant posted: I actually remember that post, I had my finger hovering over the edit-button for a while trying to figure out what you meant with it. I finally decided to give you the benefit of the doubt as I know you a little. And luckily for me, I seemed to be right in the end, otherwise I'd probably had to deal with a couple of more complaints about it.
Grand_Admiral_Grant posted:So my question is: how would you suggest we deal with this? Start enforcing a zero-tolerance policy on this? Send the poster (or the "victim") a PM to ask for clarification? Or use a wait-and-see approach?
