Author Topic: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
Master_Keralys  6378 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 8:39am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct - Date Edited: 10/22/05 8:42am (2 edits total) Edited By: Master_Keralys
This is, I think, my last post on this thread. Nothing further I can say will be of any consequence, and I'll just be repeating myself.
PainRack posted:
The problem isn't showing common courtesy. Its the problem that many people on this forum has insulted the intergrity of several posters, whoose only "crime" is to point out that the numbers and rationalisations given to support 3 million are wrong. I know that many of the involved posters who have been wrongfully accused would GLADLY ignore any such ugly accusations if the discussion can be reverted to a meaningful one, including one where Karen returns to this forum.

You're completely wrong. The problem is not an either/or, PainRack. It is a BOTH. Yes, the integrity of certain posters on this forum was attacked. The fact that insulting and name-calling came out of a comment on Qu_Klaani is indicative of how heated the situation here is. ALL parties are at fault. NOT just us. NOT just you. EVERYONE.

Neither Havac nor myself has asked that you stop talking to Karen, that you stop arguing with her even. We just asked that you do it in a polite way, that you and your fellow maximalists just think about how you're phrasing stuff so it doesn't seem so confrontational. And most of all, realize that common courtesy is basically all we're asking for. When we said "leave her alone," we meant it basically in the sense of: If you don't want to talk to her, don't, but don't screw it up for the rest of us. If you want to talk to her, disagreeing or whatever, fine, go right ahead. Just do it courteously.
PainRack posted:
For the last time, its not about apologies. Its for people to stand up onto the line and either prove that me, Sharky, or any other number of person who has been accused of flaming Karen, or to show that this "Saxtonite" group has flamed karen.

No, he apologized because he found that there was no reason for such claim. As a courteous individual, he felt it behooved him to apologize for a mischaracterization that had been made that could be construed as character assassination - except he didn't intend it that way. When he found that there was no evidence that you had flamed her, he apologized for making the suggestion that you had. Why do you get offended over someone saying that as far as they can see, you're right? *confused look*

This thread has never been about apologies, and it's never been about silencing the (vocal) minority of Saxtonites/maximalists. It has always been about finding a place where we can all agree to let things be civil.

I'm sorry that some people don't care for the role-play in the ARC thread. I don't enjoy it that much, so I stay out of there. The legal side of it is pretty much irrelevant in this case; I don't think it was particularly necessary to bring it up. It does not affect this conversation right here. If someone is offended by what is clearly a game, then they do not have to participate in it. If they find it offensive, then they should say so - generally the Fandalorian gang is pretty polite about stuff like that, and when someone brings something up, they pretty much call it quits right then and there, from what I've seen.
PainRack posted:
However, as long as people interpret "disagreeing with karen" to be equivalent to name-calling, insults and etc etc, there isn't a point. And frankly, as long as this "people has flamed karen" attitude remains on this forum, there will always be this invisible witch-hunt out here.

I'm not sure how many times I've said this, now, but I'm going to say it again. No one wants you to stop disagreeing with her. Disagreeing with her is healthy. As Borleias pointed out, the less mods have to be mods the better (within reason; I personally have no desire to see this place look anything like SDN). People did insult Karen on this board after she left. The evidence is gone now, but I read the posts. Honestly, though, I don't really care about that so much - most particularly as neither does she.

What I do care about is this: this argument rapidly escalated into one of the most heated and furious debates, with name-calling at other posters on both sides of the argument - calling someone a "lying idiot" simply because they chose a different (yet viable) position to argue comes to mind. If we're operating, as some have repeatedly asked, on the assumption that the VIP's should get the same treatment as everyone else, then that's a pretty crummy standard, don't you think? I'd like to emphasize once and for all that all we're asking is that you pledge to be civil. Right along with the rest of us.

Not that you apologize.

Not that you flamed her.

Not anything except that you be civil to her.

What is the out-of-bounds marker? Insulting the VIP's character, intelligence, or ability to think. That's my opinion. You can disagree all you want. But don't call the VIP stupid because they disagree with you. That's the line. Don't insult someone for having a different view from you. Disagree as much as you want. Just don't insult them. Is that a clear enough statement of what we want?

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PainRack  442 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 9:10am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
Master_Keralys posted:

You're completely wrong. The problem is not an either/or, PainRack. It is a BOTH. Yes, the integrity of certain posters on this forum was attacked. The fact that insulting and name-calling came out of a comment on Qu_Klaani is indicative of how heated the situation here is. ALL parties are at fault. NOT just us. NOT just you. EVERYONE.

However, the issue has never been made clear. Frankly, as long as Kudzu insists that Karen has been flamed by the "maximalists", there is always the threat of the witch hunt.

Let me make this clear. There isn't a "all parties are at fault here". Nobody here insulted Karen. Nobody flamed her. Unless this is made very clear in any pledge used to entice Karen back to TFN, then I would be signing a lie. While I may not be John Proctor, neither am I Abigail.

No, he apologized because he found that there was no reason for such claim. As a courteous individual, he felt it behooved him to apologize for a mischaracterization that had been made that could be construed as character assassination - except he didn't intend it that way. When he found that there was no evidence that you had flamed her, he apologized for making the suggestion that you had. Why do you get offended over someone saying that as far as they can see, you're right? *confused look*

Except he was apologising for the "fanplay". Which is not the serious issue, but the "flaming" is. We all signed a TOS when we posted here which essentially says we will not flame anyone.

That is a pledge that all of us made. That pledge is a written pledge that can and should be submitted for our behaviour.
What this pledge fails to make clear is that it automatically assumes guilt for "flaming" on the part of either the Fandolarians and the Saxtonites. While the ARC thread did see a minor eruption, this was nowhere seen in the Insider Guide thread. Therefore, there IS NO BLAME.

As Borleias pointed out, the less mods have to be mods the better (within reason; I personally have no desire to see this place look anything like SDN). People did insult Karen on this board after she left. The evidence is gone now, but I read the posts. Honestly, though, I don't really care about that so much - most particularly as neither does she.

I read those posts. It was a comment about Karen actions, especially after Kudzu started the whole "saxtonites scared away Karen" nonsense. It clearly wasn't an insult, because what she did was sniping.

What I do care about is this: this argument rapidly escalated into one of the most heated and furious debates, with name-calling at other posters on both sides of the argument - calling someone a "lying idiot" simply because they chose a different (yet viable) position to argue comes to mind.

Only if the person in question didn't lie. QM explictly chose to obfusacte the issue by calling Ku a flamer, when he didn't flame Karen.


What is the out-of-bounds marker? Insulting the VIP's character, intelligence, or ability to think. That's my opinion. You can disagree all you want. But don't call the VIP stupid because they disagree with you. That's the line. Don't insult someone for having a different view from you. Disagree as much as you want. Just don't insult them. Is that a clear enough statement of what we want?

- Keralys

Except no one insulted Karen or called her stupid. No one insulted her character or intelligence.

Try and understand why people like me are responding, even though I wasn't even involved with karen.

NOBODY HERE DROVE KAREN AWAY. What this pledge does is assume that people here have drove karen away, and considering the slant of the forum, it automatically assumes that the maximalists did that. That is misleading.
You want to entice Karen to come back to this forum? Point her to the TOS where it states that there will be no flaming. Similarly, if she doesn't want to discuss about numbers, she doesn't have to post in the relevent threads, especially since none of the threads, prior to her leaving even directs any question at her actions. There isn't a need to say that the people of this forum "drove" her away because none of us did that.

You want courtesy? Its already given. Civility? Done. But don't expect me to sign a pledge that assigns blame to some non-existent people, because that would be telling a lie.

 

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Master_Keralys  6378 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 9:57am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
A few specific points:
PainRack posted:
Only if the person in question didn't lie. QM explictly chose to obfusacte the issue by calling Ku a flamer, when he didn't flame Karen.
Not even what I'm talking about. I'm talking about how that has been used in the debates regarding the three million count.
PainRack posted:
There isn't a "all parties are at fault here". Nobody here insulted Karen. Nobody flamed her.

You're wrong on that count. No one is at fault for Karen's leaving. That has already been made abundantly clear, repeatedly, by Havac and myself. But everyone is at fault for how heated the exchanges have been since. Both sides. Including you. Including me. Until we acknowledge that, there will be no forward progress. NONE.
PainRack posted:
Except no one insulted Karen or called her stupid. No one insulted her character or intelligence.

You know what? It doesn't matter. I repeat that again. All I asked for was you and everyone else to promise not to attack Karen. In asking for people to promise to keep it civil, we're not saying that any particular individual did or did not do anything. We are noting that the boards became extremely heated, and that we were trying to iron that out.
PainRack posted:
But don't expect me to sign a pledge that assigns blame to some non-existent people, because that would be telling a lie.

We don't. All we ever expected you to sign on to was the concept of civility and courtesy. That's all this pledge has ever asked for, however misinterpreted it has continued to be. As you've already agreed on those, I don't think we have anything further to discuss/argue about.

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Kudzu  6437 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 10:02am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
PainRack posted:
I have repeatedly asked what is the out of bound marker. You and others has defined it essentially as "don't disagree with the author."


Bull. We've defined it as "don't disrespect the author", and there's a frellin' fine line between disagreeing and disrespecting. If you cannot differentiate between the two, you might consider stepping back and analyzing for a moment. Disagreement and disrespect are quite different, and while I can certainly handle people disagreeing with me, it irritates me to no end when people launch personal attacks on me for my argument, especially over such ridiculously trivial matters of science fiction.

And Ms. Traviss has stated that she feels the same way, so maybe if you take a step back from your preexisting bias, you can see where the side supporting her return is coming from.

 

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Commander5052  3504 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 10:05am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
Lock this thread, someone.
It's gotten way out of hand.
PainRack, I was apologizing for both the fanplay and the flaming that had occured.

 

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Master_of_Ossus  457 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 10:18am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct - Date Edited: 10/22/05 10:20am (1 edits total) Edited By: Master_of_Ossus
Painrack, settle down. None of the people who originally advocated the pledge now believe that Ms. Traviss was flamed during her stint here--I think they've all acknowledged that. In fact, none of them are even accusing you or anyone else of driving her off the boards--that view was abandoned long ago in this thread when it was recognized to be false (mainly through Keralys' efforts).

 

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Havac  14251 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 10:54am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct - Date Edited: 10/22/05 10:56am (1 edits total) Edited By: Havac
Master_of_Ossus posted:
Painrack, settle down. None of the people who originally advocated the pledge now believe that Ms. Traviss was flamed during her stint here--I think they've all acknowledged that. In fact, none of them are even accusing you or anyone else of driving her off the boards--that view was abandoned long ago in this thread when it was recognized to be false (mainly through Keralys' efforts).

Thank you for being a voice of reason, sir. *Salutes*
Neither I nor Keralys (I don't believe I can speak for anyone else) are trying to blame anybody. We're trying to get everyone, whether originally involved or not, to agree to be civil. If you read Karen's blog in the link I posted a page back, you'll see that the reason she gives for leaving is the amount of anger and rudeness on the boards. The problem exists. It's a fact. We're trying to remove that problem. We're not interested in assigning blame. We don't care what anyone did in the past. We only care about what you'll do in the future.

EDIT: Kudzu, Q_M, please step back. I realize you're frustrated. But it isn't helping. Your behavior is the kind of thing we're trying to get rid of. Civility, please. No baiting. No veiled insults. peace

 

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Kudzu  6437 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 11:13am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
Havac posted:
EDIT: Kudzu, Q_M, please step back. I realize you're frustrated. But it isn't helping. Your behavior is the kind of thing we're trying to get rid of. Civility, please. No baiting. No veiled insults. peace


I haven't baited or insulted anyone, veiled or otherwise, in this thread.

 

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Havac  14251 posts
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Date Posted: 10/22/05 11:27am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct - Date Edited: 10/22/05 11:47am (1 edits total) Edited By: Havac
Kudzu posted:
Bull. We've defined it as "don't disrespect the author", and there's a frellin' fine line between disagreeing and disrespecting. If you cannot differentiate between the two, you might consider stepping back and analyzing for a moment. Disagreement and disrespect are quite different, and while I can certainly handle people disagreeing with me, it irritates me to no end when people launch personal attacks on me for my argument, especially over such ridiculously trivial matters of science fiction.

You're breaking the pledge at least -- "ridiculously trivial." I'm just saying to make sure everyone sticks to the pledge and doesn't put too hard an edge on any replies. peace hugs

EDIT: Aww, I thought we were making some headway. Oh well. I'm just glad T2Q is on top of things!

 

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Date Posted: 10/22/05 11:37am Subject: RE: Making the Boards Safe for Ms. Traviss's Return: An All-Around Pledge of Good Conduct
Alright folks, I let this run for a couple days in the hopes it'd let some of you get what you neede doff your chests and prevent thus general discussion fromc ropping up elsewhere in lit.

And now it's time to bring this to a close. Sometime over the next week I'll address the issue in a post about what has happened and what will be done in the future.

 

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