There is a difference between murder and self-defense. However, a woman must be in reasonable fear for her life to be acting in self-defense. In a case like this, the woman should be allowed to decide to choose her life over the child's. *** When the woman does the deed, she is fully aware of the consequences... When compared to your analogy, the only time she can really still pull out without denying her responsibility for any consequences is before she does 'it.'