Dude, in a perfect world, the man would bear equal responsibility for raising a child. But unfortunately, this is not a perfect world. I have rarely seen a family where it doesn't fall on the mother to do most of the work. Even in the more 'liberated' ones. Just the way it is. And yeah, legally, a man can be held financially responsible for his children. Meaning, he'll have to open up his checkbook atleast once a month and put some money towards bills. But unless you're Harrison Ford's ex, chances are you'll be getting less than half of what it costs to raise a child. Not to mention. the day in and day out responsibility of actually *raising* said child falls to you. That said? Give the woman some options!! Raising a child is HUGE, and if they're not up to the task, give 'em a choice. It's only fair.