Yeah, you're really reaching here. Anakin's return to the light side had nothing to do with Shmi. Anakin was able to turn back because he responded to Luke's willingness to sacrifice himself for the greater good rather than make the choice he once made--commit evil in order to save someone. Because they have powers we can't begin to understand. I actually won't argue with you on contact with parents, and I think some Jedi were allowed to do so, per the EU. There is a story about Aayla Secura going to her home planet to save an uncle. However, the idea is that the Jedi Order is their family now. As I mentioned, it can be compared to an adoption in our world. In some situations the child is allowed contact with the birth parents, in some situations the child isn't, but in both situations, the birth parent is no longer the child's primary family. As far as why they can't have a wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend or children--TF.N does not have the bandwidth for me to post all the examples from our world of people acting completely irrational and ape**** over romance. And that's just people in the public eye. In universe Exhibit A: Anakin Skywalker. A better question would be, and this goes back to my question about the westernized viewpoint--why are we assuming that it is either an ideal or an inherent right to have a wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend? Why are we assuming that the Jedi is being so badly treated by this rule being in place, especially given that if he or she finds having a wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend so damn important, there is the option of leaving the Order. Which is what I think Anakin should have done at the end of AOTC. It's called "rules." And yes, it governs their entire lifestyle, but as I said...they have powers that the rest of us don't have. (And besides, there are multiple real-world examples of jobs with rules that govern employees' outside lives.) As I said in the ST forum, I won't mind if it is depicted as a means to increase Jedi population, or if Luke simply didn't know about the rule. If the ST goes out of its way to promote the perspective that "we're going to count the ways the PT Jedi suck and how Luke is going to change the Order," I'll be pissed. All the Jedi in the PT have skills that they can use to make a living outside the Order. Anakin certainly did. And if it's really that hard for the Jedi to leave, he/she has the option of staying in the Order and obeying the rules. I definitely assumed they lived separately from the rest of society, precisely because they were so very different. I didn't see either Obi-Wan or Yoda having a family outside the Order. Good thing they didn't then. You mean that line that was never mentioned in the PT about Anakin wanting Luke to have his lightsaber? I'm not even sure what you're arguing here. The Jedi were not required to be celibate. The idea that sexual activity must mean a committed relationship is also very westernized, maybe unique to America. Because those who made that complaint were either not paying attention or viewing them from the romanticized view that a boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband is essential for survival or happiness. I didn't feel that way. I hated ROTS, but the Order 66 scene is the creepiest, most horrifying scene in Star Wars. Or it was until TCW tried to ruin it. LOL wut? Monks don't have feelings? Since when? Nobody can ban feelings, and nobody in the Jedi Order tried to do so. I'm not sure when a rule indicating "You need to learn emotional control instead of expressing your emotions any way you damn well please" became "banning emotions." The ending of The Phantom Menace demonstrates that the Jedi both have emotions and allowed to express them in appropriate ways. Obi-Wan cried over Qui-Gon. The Jedi held a funeral for him. As far as the earlier comments about mourning the loss of someone...Yoda was trying to get Anakin to reach an ideal, one which Anakin did not feel like reaching. At my grandmother's funeral, someone read the poem that began, "Do not stand by my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep." The same philosophy behind what Yoda told Anakin. Is it OK to tell people at a Christian funeral not to mourn their dead, but not OK for a Jedi to say it? Yes, mourning is healthy, but dwelling on loss is not.