Census Do you look people in the eyes when you talk to them?

Discussion in 'Community' started by EmpireForever, Sep 28, 2013.

?

Well?

Yes; it's important to look people in the eye to establish strong social bonds with fellow humans. 23 vote(s) 82.1%
No; I can neither trust or be trusted and should not be allowed to participate in society. 5 vote(s) 17.9%
  1. EmpireForever Chosen One

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    Mar 15, 2004
    star 8
  2. Darth Guy Chosen One

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    Aug 16, 2002
    star 10
    I am comfortable with looking people in the eye the entire time, but I often find that they aren't. They probably think I'm a serial killer.


    I am, but the assumption is still offensive.
  3. Zapdos Force Ghost

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    Jan 7, 2013
    star 5
    what he said^
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  4. Bobatron Jedi Grand Master

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    Sep 3, 2012
    star 3
    Yes, it is important to look people in the eye(s) to establish strong social bonds with fellow humans, but I often inadvertently don't look at people when I talk to them, and they probably notice it more than me. I don't know what the opposite has to do with trust; it's more about comfort. I have to remind myself as I'm talking to look at the person, look at the person as I talk. When the other person talks, I can easily look at the person but probably think more about how I look, like if I really look attentive or like I care what's coming out of the person's mouth, or think about what to say next. When I was younger I noticed I always looked at the mouth as someone talked. Why not? It's what's moving.
    This is one of many reasons I prefer communicating like this. No eyeballs and having to respond? (nod) to every little upseaking pause? ("uh huh") that people make? ("yeah") as they talk? ("uh huh") do you know what I'm saying?" ("yep") and all that annoying stuff.
  5. EmpireForever Chosen One

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    Mar 15, 2004
    star 8
  6. Bobatron Jedi Grand Master

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    Sep 3, 2012
    star 3
    Average conversation:
    Person: "what did yo do over the weekend?"
    Me: "I woke up, went grocery shopping, ate some oatmeal..."
    "Really?"
    "Yep."

    Perhaps according to you, if I looked right in the person's eyeballs as I told him that I ate oatmeal, he would have believed me, shut up, and not replied with the inquisitive "really?"
    If someone doesn't look at me as he gives me some information, I'm not selfish enough to think that person has some sort of problem.
    Last edited by Bobatron, Sep 28, 2013
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  7. Violent Violet Menace Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Aug 11, 2004
    star 4
    See, if you had looked him dead in the eye and said it with a dramatic air of desperation in your voice, he would have believed it straight away. It's hard to believe someone would eat oatmeal without some kind of drama in their life that forces them to.
  8. CT-867-5309 Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Jan 5, 2011
    star 5
    Yeah, sure. I don't stare at them the whole time, but I make eye contact at the appropriate times.

    Never making eye contact is unthinkable to me, like never smiling.
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  9. Zapdos Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Jan 7, 2013
    star 5
    When people are telling me something important/srs I will look in their eyes the whole time. I shift more when I do the talking or when the conversation is light
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  10. Arawn_Fenn Chosen One

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    Jul 2, 2004
    star 7
    But what if they don't have eyes? What do you do then?

    WHAT DO YOU DO THEN????????:_|
    Last edited by Arawn_Fenn, Sep 28, 2013
  11. xblackout Force Ghost

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    Jun 5, 2008
    star 4
    I have a hard time with it when I'm speaking to someone else, but then when I'm listening to someone I tend to make a lot of eye contact. That's pretty standard for a conversation with any introvert.
  12. Lord Vivec Chosen One

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    Apr 17, 2006
    star 7
    You don't need to look someone in the eye for them to see you.
  13. SWpants Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Oct 28, 2004
    star 4
    I try to especially when talking to a student's parent or on interviews. In class it's easier to look at foreheads. I don't turn bright red or laugh or freeze anymore when I do though. It's tough as a near-introvert
  14. Mortimer Snerd Force Ghost

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    Dec 27, 2012
    star 4
  15. I Are The Internets Chosen One

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    Nov 20, 2012
    star 7
  16. Zapdos Force Ghost

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    Jan 7, 2013
    star 5
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  17. anakinfansince1983 Chosen One

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    Mar 4, 2011
    star 7
    I'm a total introvert but I definitely look at people when I'm talking to them, or listening. I've been told I'm a good listener and I think that's part of the reason why.
  18. Arawn_Fenn Chosen One

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    Jul 2, 2004
    star 7
  19. I Are The Internets Chosen One

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    Nov 20, 2012
    star 7
    I only look at one of their eyes.
  20. Ramza JC Head Admin and RPF Manager

    Administrator
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    Jul 13, 2008
    star 6
    I've actually got severe chronic backstabbing disorder so, no, I really shouldn't be trusted anyway.
  21. Sith-Lord-Gunray Ex-Mod

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    Aug 20, 2003
    star 7
    I balance it out back and forth. If they're talking a lot I look a their shoulder sometimes, if it's back and forth I stay at their eyes. Important to efficient lying.
  22. epic Ex Mod / RSA

    Member Since:
    Jul 4, 1999
    star 7
    i look people in the eyes when talking, yes. and listening. but i will look away at suitable moments to break the stare, otherwise too much of it will get a little weird. there's usually plenty of opportunity to do this.
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  23. tom Chosen One

    Member Since:
    Mar 14, 2004
    star 6
    it depends. if they have a missing limb or a huge zit on their nose or something i'll usually just stare at that.
  24. Lazy Storm Trooper Jedi Grand Master

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    Sep 18, 2012
    star 4
  25. thebeanpole Jedi Grand Master

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    Aug 11, 2013
    star 2
    Yes. I do.

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    Last edited by thebeanpole, Sep 28, 2013