yes. in a way, i know that we cannot have that happening, but adhereing to what i said earlier, i believe it's more to do with the individual than with the knowledge itself. the knowledge is passive, it doesn't hurt people as such, it makes us smarter usually. it's people who put that stuff into action. in keeping with SW and choices... luke rushes off to bespin to help his friends and ends up learning the truth about his dad. some people argue that this was a bad move. i think it was soso, it helped him understand more things and grow up about his past. i cannot emphasize enough how much knowing that vader is his dad prolly helped him see the light. i agree with you in principle... let's say the obi wan had told luke the whole truth from the beginning... do you still feel he would turn out to be a great jedi? they deliberately held back info in order to help his progress. he needs to have the right focus. he can't go around thinking that his father turned evil and "killed" his mother from the very beginning. his focus would completely messed up. you don't know yourself until you have experienced yourself in situations and with people. by just hanging around and twiddling your thumbs you will learn nothing about who you are. young jedi are given great responsibility and ability to learn from experience. look at anakin in aotc. he's not exactly twiddling thumbs... being in a relationship also allows you to see aspects of yourself. just like being alone does etc etc. it's social learning. you cannot simply ask everyone for celibacy and then say, we will tell you when you're ready. there's no ready for relationship, there's no ready for love, it just happens. and i argue that it's precisely this unpredictability which the jedi fear and want to do away with. there really are only two alternatives. either everyone is allowed to have relationships or noone is. once you open the door for some people and close it for others, greed and jealousy will grow. so what do you do? i say ban relationships of that type, it's a lot safer in the long run as proven by the track record. few actually fell victims to the dark side... of course. having a family is part of being in the world. it's what we do. we pass our knowledge and love on to our children. we thrive on feelings. responsibility that is only an abstract notion along with compassion is not enough. but jedi are not exactly like us. the closest thing we can compare them to in real life are buddhists imo -at least when it comes to the spiritual. a jedi is not a "normal" person. they aim for something beyond the "normal" and passing life. attachment is bad for one reason: it distracts you from your goal of reaching enlightenment. it feeds the ego, something the jedi try to destroy. it makes no sense to start growing attachments in order to get rid of it later. it might work for a very few people, but for most it would be counterproductive and make it even harder to get rid of the ego.