FF:WA I'm sorry ...

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  1. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    Whatever I did to offend/annoy people here, I'm sorry. I know I must seem like an intrusive newbie to people here, having only recently moved over and joined in with things here. So I'm sorry for whatever I do that offends you all - be it making lame jokes, managing to find a way to fall over every meet, my loud nasal laugh or my complete lack of tolerance for other people's disdain.
    I attempted to fit in, however lately it seems that people try to avoid me as much as possible. So I presume my attempts have failed, and I'm sorry - I won't attempt to do anything off the boards, or contact people via ICQ. I suppose that, like every other group I try and make friends within, I have failed to fit in, and I'm sorry.
    I know people don't want to talk to me. I'll ICQ so many people, and never get replies - and I know they get my msgs, because they're talking online to my boyfriend 2 feet away. People, I'm not that stupid. I can actually utilise verbal communication quite well, so please don't lie to me and tell me you'll "Be back later" when in fact you're just trying to politely cut off conversation. If I annoy you, just say so! It's much more polite than merely ignoring me.
    When I'm at social events, no one will ever attempt to talk to me unless I address them. And even then, people are edgy, and try and end a conversation quickly.
    So next time, just tell me to bugger off. I know I seem like just an attatchment to SM, but surprisingly, I actually have emotions and feelings. I suppose I just wanted friends, and since I don't go to school or anywhere else, my only way of making friends is right here.
    So I'll not trouble you by going to meets and stuff again, or talking to people on ICQ. I'll still post here, because it's the only thing to keep me occupied at the moment. I just won't go to meets - I'm perfectly capable of staying at home, my hand is not grafted to SM's. I'm just sorry I didn't take the hint earlier.
    Bye, now.
  2. Shara_82 Administrator Emeritus

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    Jan 10, 2001
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    I'm so sorry to hear that, Gecko, and I'm sorry Fanforce hasn't been as much fun for you lately. :(
  3. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    Jun 26, 2001
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    Meh, life is like a toilet block, and people are like toilets. Each person is filled with a different amount of poo, some more than others, but it's still a lot of poo when you put it all together.
  4. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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    Hey SG your more than welcome to talk to me on ICQ, when I'm on. As is SM if he so wishes. :)
  5. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    I'm not really talking about non-WA people, M-M. I still talk to people in NSW who'll talk to me. Just it's nice to actually talk to people that live near where you do. You know, actually socialise.
  6. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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    Dec 23, 2000
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    Yeah it can be hard making new friends. I'm sure you'll win people over. If you don't then there not worth being friends with!
  7. Pigalek Jedi Grand Master

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    May 23, 2001
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    Clare listen to me you have nothing to be sorry for. You are my best friend and I love you like a sister, you are also one of the most amazing people I know. You're talented, beautiful, caring, gentle, crazy, intelligent and one the closest people to me in the world.

    Any one who doesn't see these things in you are obviously blind or stupid probably both.
    To those of you who seem to have some problem with my best friend how about you go to hell?

    If you couldn't be bothered to get off your arses to get to know someone truely worth knowing then what right do you have to make Clare feel unwanted?

    Clare you have every right to go to the meets because you are a part of WA now. You are better than they are because you always make the effort to make someone feel welcome.

    For those of you who have decided to make clare feel unwelcome you are not worth the **** that comes out of your various oriffices and that includes your mouths.

  8. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    Unfortunately, though, I've always found it extremely hard to make friends with people. Most of them just take one look at me and decide I'm not their type.
    I guess the gothic image doesn't help, but I'm not about to stop being who I am. Having people like you for an image that isn't yourself is even worse than having no friends at all.
  9. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    Linda; there's no point in going to meets if no-one cares. That's why I'm not going, not because I dislike people.
  10. BoNgSaBrE Jedi Youngling

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  11. Pigalek Jedi Grand Master

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    The people who take one look at you and decide you aren't their type are superfical pricks who you don't have to give the time of day to because you are better then they are. I'm not saying jsut cos I'm your best friend I'm saying this cos its true
    *hugs*
  12. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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    I totally agree with Pigalek.

    When I first met you I didn't even consider what you looked like. Actually I thought you were a bit shy, at first. ;)
  13. Sith Magician Force Ghost

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    ok, it's been said before there are some attitudes that need to be adjusted here,
    Since Clare's been here, she's been treated like "a dumb little girl" with most input from her on matters at meets either dismissed, or just invalid.
    This certainly hasn't been the case with everyone, but there definitely is a clique of guys here who have been here for some time.
    There are individuals here who seem to have a total lack of any kind of respect for someone who may be "one of the new ppl" to quote one unwelcoming member.
    I know I ain't the most popular guy around here either, but you get that with certain ppl if you dare to have a different idea, or expectations of how something like a club should go...
    I don't know if Clare's feelings in her post are misinterpretations of ppl here, or if anyone has deliberately gone out their way to make her feel unwelcome.
    But she is far, far more than just an extension of me, and is quite frankly the most amazing person I have ever known.

    I do have a very good idea why we seem to have ppl, in particular young girls, come here, and then quickly leave.
    One is that they see the meets, and until now most have been just that, meetings, and lose any interest.
    the other reason is one I've known about for some time, certain male members relentlessly hitting on younger, usually much younger, women who post in here.
    In one case, a friend of mine who started posting in here had been on the boards for a day and a half, before she showed me the suggestive PM she recieved from a much older forum member.
    And before anyone goes and points out the fact I'm somewhat older than Clare, She hit on me. ;)

    But Clare, I do understand why you feel this way, and I'm sorry that your experience in WA, as far as OR meets and such go, hasn't been all that fun.

    So, I haven't decided if I can be bothered with meets anymore yet, but I can't imagine leaving Clare at home while I go off to them, that definitley won't be happening.

    But the crap with the official club aside, all you "oldbies" who were around for the good ol' UBB days are just continuing to get more cliqueish, more sexist and more degrading, and unless ppl can start to make "new ppl" feel more welcome, and less made fun of and, in some cases, less hit on, then you're not gonne get to have many new ppl here at all.





  14. Sith Magician Force Ghost

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    Actually MM, when I first met Clare, the thought that went through my mind was something like, wow, who's this? she's cute :)

    Then I found out it was someone I'd been speaking to on icq for 3 months :)
  15. FaLLeN-AnGeL Jedi Master

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    I understand how Gecko feels, it all does sorta go with the Goth territory, people looking at you and not wanting to get to know you further. I guess I don't mind it so much because I enjoy time by myself. I'm not much of a people person (years of "fat" jokes will do that to a person) but hey, Gecko, I'm here if you ever wanna hang out... Hurry up and get older so I can take you to Dominion / Nevermore!!! :p
  16. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    Um, SM, actually I was at UBB longer than most people here were, just I was posting in the New Zealand boards.

    As far as people here, I should have really guessed when I realised there was a female minority and a large chauvinistic male dominance within this group.

    Oh, well.

    Live and learn.
  17. Pigalek Jedi Grand Master

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    May 23, 2001
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    First time i saw clare I thought she was older than me so I never went up to talk to her being the shy little 12 yr old i was. Finally me and another friend got up enough courage to ask her to sit with us me and clare were best friend fairly quickly after that and I got alot the major shites with alot of my 'friends' cos they acted in the same way certain people are now...

    Is there some about leaving high school and a certain period of time that makes people revert back to the pettiness of yester year?

  18. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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    Actually it was probably me that was the shy one. :)

    I experienced nearly all of what you are going through now when I was at school. I didn't play footy or cricket and I loved Star Wars. Consequently I don't have that many close friends. People can be very shallow.

    But you move on, realise those people are not worth it and make friends elsewhere. I made a few friends in Scouting and I'm making friends now with the people I meet and converse with on these very boards. Age, looks, opinions have nothing to do with it either. Besides differing opinions makes conversations so much better.

  19. Sith-Gecko Jedi Master

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    M-M, I think most geeks know how that is.

    But is it usual to be given the miss by a bunch of geeks? ?[face_plain]
  20. Pigalek Jedi Grand Master

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    May 23, 2001
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    When they is superficial idiots yup
  21. slaveone_2 Jedi Grand Master

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    Jul 1, 2001
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    I wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy, thats just wrong.
  22. Shara_82 Administrator Emeritus

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    Bah! They don't deserve you. :)

    We love you, Gecko. [face_love] :D
  23. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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    I suppose the problem could be that none of us are 'traditional' geeks. ;)

    No one sees us coming, although as a group they definetely can see and hear us!!
  24. Sith Magician Force Ghost

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    Sep 14, 1999
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    Clare, I know how long you've been here, but others in the past have made references to you being "new" because of the regi date of your new name.
    One idiot in particular comes to mind.

    There are only a very few, to my mind at least, who behave like this over here, but unfortunately they do have a dominance, and will happily leap on anyone they consider new, and can post here just like anyone else, how dare they when they haven't been to the very first meet?

    *end sarcasm mode*

    Seriously, this place needs to be sorted, and having ppl who post only to start flame wars, of which I've been a target many a time, or only come out of hiding every 6 months to be a smart ass doesn't help.

    Aren't we supposed to be having fun here?
  25. mauls-menace Force Ghost

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