In that actual chapter of the book, it's really got nothing to do with male/female at all. It's about recognizing both "good" and "bad" in the creator, realizing the creator is also a destroyer, but loving it anyways because you're one of the few who understand it. The unworthy person who tried to approach this being (called the "goddess" in the book) would instead be consumed or worse. Think of the Nazis when they found the Ark of the Covenant, or the Soviet lady played by Cate Blanchett when she found the aliens and asked for knowledge. Only the worthy is capable of encountering the "goddess" and coming out intact, but will still be forever changed. In the OT, Vader was essentially this figure. Luke was able to recognize Vader had both good and bad, realized he's a creator and a destroyer of the galaxy as it is, but loved Vader anyways because he was one of the few in the position of understanding him (when he stopped striking Vader, looked at his hand, and threw away his lightsaber). All who encountered Vader before were unworthy of doing this, of being in the position to understand and love him. And then Vader fulfilled his role, and destroyed the Emperor he helped create, while saving Luke and allowing the re-creation of the Jedi, again forever transforming the galaxy.