FF:QLD Men these days

Your post seems to suggest that they are two seperate entities, which is what I disagree with. I don't think that it is possible to seperate them. IMHO the only way to get an objective opinion about the physical attractions of a person, while you are dating them, is to ask someone else. And anyone else finds different things attractive.

 

Two seperate entities? Perhaps my grasp of the English language is not as good as I like to think. However I'm not saying they are seperate, only two halves of the one whole as it were.

 

Which is effectively what I said in my earlier post.
I would like to know, however, how you would consider yourself to be someone who values both equally. IMHO that isn't possible. In my experience dating someone who, while not dating, I would consider to be physically attractive is rather rare. But then maybe I'm just fussy.

 

It's not looks, it's your attitude that counts.

 

I don't know how you can hit the nail on the head so precisely and STILL think you're lacking in some way.

 

Well said.

This is lifes funniest game. It is a combination of so many things, have you considered that the person just happened to present you with what you required at that time, be it a companion, guidance, someone to look after, reflected self esteem ?


I like how honest you all appear here, kudos for opening up and letting it rip. We all become wiser form this.

 

*puts down soapbox and gets on* people should never marry out of fear of being alone nor should they settle for second best... if you don't think that this person is competely right for you and you could happily spend the rest of your life with them, then what are you doing???

as yoda said (I've changed it a bit) do or do not... there is no maybe *hops off soapbox*

but as for dating.... sure, maybes, possibly and all that is fine

 

Here's the thing: in dating somebody, you tend to know her/his physical attributes that you notice the subtleties much more. It's easier to appreciate the little things. (The eyes, for instance.)

Furthermore, being in a romantic relationship means the sight of the other person alone should be enough to bring some level of happiness. This emotional reaction is often mixed with that of physical appearance, and so it is impossible to see attractiveness in the same way when love is involved.

I don't really think the following phrase does this sensation justice, and in fact it's almost derogatory... but as they say: "love is blind".

 

If someone makes you happy then that is all that counts-.

Not withstanding that previous comment, I'd have to assert that I think that *good couples* COME from a match of intellect, personal values etc, and obviously there is an element of physical congruency in the mix , ie I'm not a big guy and thus I'd kinda feel awkward dating a really tall girl

Personally, I prefer *emotional* and intellectual any day over the physical-hey the physical soon dissipates with age .

Personally, once again I'll state that intellectual and emotional compatibility are what I look for in potential relationships . My best ever girlfriend was thus a genius -(Infer from that what you may ).

{I really should refrain from posting}

 

I found a very informative website about how to pick up girls for frustrated loners like myself. I know that at least a few guys on this site may be interested (I won't name names ). I can't post the link for fear of banning by the mods, so if you want it, PM me.

 

Textbooks can teach you some stuff...but on-the-job is where you actually learn.

 

For a start you don't pick girls up.

You meet them and they choose to spend more time with you. The activity is from them.

 

I agree with the above statement. Us ladies seem to do all the work these days. I don't know whether that is a good thing or not... *shrug* But I suppose it does get rid of the difficult situation of having to turn a guy down.

 

I turn men down all the time -

 

Oh turning guys you just met at the bar down is just fine. What I hate is doing it to friends or friends of friends. It always makes me feel bad and makes it somewhat uncomfortable the next time you go out with them.

 

Hint ... men should NOT wear pink. Metrosexual or no, I'm still going to assume that you don't like girls

 

What about two pink shirts?

 

please don't make me answer that.

 

A true man can withstand his primitive instincts and strive to become a 'better' human - more in league with the intellectual side of things. I do not believe in reproducing oneself, or the personal prisons of 'relationships' and 'marriage'. I believe the 'chasing' of women is a pointless rat race that in the end achieves nothing but a loss of self-respect, freedom and dignity.

But there is the need for love and affection - something which can become particularly painful. You must have extreme mental control and endurance to be able to overcome it.

I think I have attained a mental state that sets me above probably about 99% of the population.

I will live forever whilst the rest of you chumps can go about trying to 'please' women in what will ultimately prove futile!

Hee hee hee... Don't you just love it.

 

They can please you too.

Some people love giving just to see someone they love happy.

Hiding in yourself, however stoic you feel is not going to make you any better than anyone else.

Humans are rational and irrational, thats what makes them fun.

You should experiment with risk.

We all all know it hurts when it falls over, but memories are forever.

btw, I am in the same boat as you at the moment, avoiding the complications of relationships and not wanting to damage friendships. Its safe but not really the best way to live, its cool being all zen and tao about it but please be carefull not to push away potential interdependance.

No one should die alone, Apart from kahli who wants to (Edit).

 

Everybody dies alone.

 

From a certain point of view.

Its how you feel that is important, if you feel alone then you are.

 

^ has obviously not seen donnie darko

 

Geez, you must be obsessed with that movie.

 

I have too seen it, but that was a few years ago and I dont have the script with me.

I do however have the soundtrack with me.