ok I have this "friend" thats getting merried this week and about a year ago he asked me to be a grooms man and I told him yea surewhat ever cause we are not realy close and I thought it would be passed over as he was drunk when he asked me. we are not close friends at all. well since I lost my job I been telling him I dont think I can afford to get my tux as its very expensive and I can think of better things to do with my money like buy food and pay rent. I keep telling him I have no money and CAN NOT AFFORD be in his wedding. he told two months ago not to worrie he would get it for me. well we went to get fitted and he put down the deposit and left me with a bill for the other 80% to pick up.I called him again yesterday to tell him I cant afford it . he asked another friend of ours to pay for it for me and I could pay it back later. my question is what should I do? barrow money from a friend so I can be in this guys wedding or should I just tell him I wont be in it and sorry for the problem but I told you four months ago I wouldnt be able to do it? I think I should just tell him sorry but I wont be in it. make him mad but save others being mad at me for barrowing money I cant pay back.