JCC My Fiance dumped me

Discussion in 'Community' started by PRENNTACULAR, Sep 30, 2012.

  1. AaylaSecurOWNED Jedi Master

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    You aren't answering wocky
  2. harpua Chosen One

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    Yeah, this changes things on my end. "I want to be single so that I can find myself" is quite different from, "I ****ed somebody else." I now kind of want to thump you on the head for going on vacation with her.
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  3. Darth Guy Chosen One

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    I'd make the drive if I weren't so lazy.
  4. lexu Jedi Grand Master

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    I sort of stopped feeling sorry for you as soon as you said she was 20. Now don't go proposing again until you've stopped being a dumb kid (which, hopefully, will occur at some point in your 30s), and prepare yourself for the even worse break-ups you'll experience in the next decade. Cheers!
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  5. jp-30 Manager Emeritus

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    Some guy drank himself to death while watching the new Twilight movie here in New Zealand. Took the soft option, I think.
  6. Valyn Jedi Master

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    Why are the 30s so much better an age to get engaged? So that by the time he has kids he'll look like a grandpa?
  7. yankee8255 Jedi Grand Master

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    Well thank you very much :p

    [IMG]
  8. George Roper Jedi Knight

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    Fixed?
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  9. lexu Jedi Grand Master

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    Yes. So he'll look like a grandpa. You sure reasoned that one out all on your own. Good job, buddy.
    Last edited by lexu, Nov 20, 2012
  10. Rogue_Ten Force Ghost

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    so you can enjoy your twenties traveling or beginning a difficult career or playing world of warcraft all day without having to worry about neglecting your baby
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  11. harpua Chosen One

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    Also, so that you have some life experience and knowledge, so that you don't have to turn to a message board for assistance for everything from small purchases, to planning a princess wedding, and finding a good divorce lawyer.
  12. JoinTheSchwarz Comms Admin & Community Manager

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    Disney weddings in your 30s are kind of creepy, though. I see Valyn's POV.
  13. Rogue_Ten Force Ghost

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    if you're marrying a cat lady...
  14. harpua Chosen One

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    Last edited by harpuah, Nov 20, 2012
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  15. JoinTheSchwarz Comms Admin & Community Manager

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    Sarcasm detector is broken today, Harpy? And don't you dare editting your post. :p
  16. harpua Chosen One

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  17. Darth Guy Chosen One

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    I don't want a Disney wedding. I just want a ceremony where a man hands his property (daughter) over to me. Esmerelda can be the Gypsy entertainment or something.

    In case you couldn't tell, @harpuah, that was sarcasm. Hopefully it was dry.

    @Juliet316
  18. harpua Chosen One

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    Dry, like the wasteland that is your soul.
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  19. Rogue_Ten Force Ghost

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    i like my sarcasm like i like my women: dry and biting
  20. Juliet316 Force Ghost

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    Huh? How did I get tagged up in all this. All I did was ask why he thought it was a good idea to see the torture that is/was Twilight?
  21. Darth Guy Chosen One

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    I dunno. It's a compulsion.
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  22. DarthTunick SfC Part III Commissioner

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    What was he drinking?
  23. Valyn Jedi Master

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    Foot, meet mouth.

    And touche everyone, with the exception of Lexu.

    Experts swear that couples have the best odds of making it to the long haul if they wait until 25...

    and..

    those who marry in the early to mid-20s are slightly happier and less likely to break up than those who marry in the later 20s, but are significantly more satisfied with their relationships than those who marry at 30 or older.

    There are many more sources emphasizing that the mid-20s are the best target age for a full-committed relationship (engagement, marriage, what have you). Those were just the top two in the search list.

    As for myself turning to the JCC for "every small purchase and decision," I don't think that's much different than consulting Amazon/cnet/yahoo, etc reviews. Many of you do this, but enough about me treating the JCC like Amazon.com.

    Back to the point of this thread and my initial remark. Lexu's comment just rubbed me the wrong way (as Lexu is wont to do). She's unsympathetic because this guy didn't wait until he was 30 or older? Because in her expert opinion, anyone younger than 30 just isn't capable of a committed relationship? Well, the Internet is full of contradicting information. And the world.

    IMO, all you really need is financial independence and reliability (in addition to the obvious: loyalty, honesty, love, etc, etc).

    Maybe Lexu was just exercising typical JCC thorniness to a wounded person ("I'm on a distant computer, so your pain is tonight's entertainment!"). But either way, this JCer had something tragic happen to him. And age shouldn't matter there. Women cheat on their husbands and partners even after they're 30. Heck, one such case is all over the news right now (the Petreus scandal).

    Just because someone's 30 or older doesn't suddenly make them a better person than someone 29 or younger.
    Last edited by Valyn, Nov 20, 2012
  24. yankee8255 Jedi Grand Master

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    A few (semi-) serious points:

    1. My daughters were born when I was 37 and 39. I often wish I had been a bit younger, and had a little more energy. My wife and I have decided to stop at 2, would almost certainly have gone for a third if we were younger.

    2. On the other hand, I look back at my own experience in college, where I had a pretty serious girl-friend for a good chunk of sophomore and junior years. Had we atyed together, we probably would have gotten married within a year or two of graduation. Alto of my friends got married to their college girlfriends. All are still together, and have had wonderful lives. That wasn't for me -- I probably would have had a happy life if I had stayed together with that girlfriend (she married the guy she dated after me, they have three beautiful kids, the eldest of whom is now at our alma mater, Notre Dame), but I was no where near ready for that. I ended up going to business and law school, took a long time to figure ot what I wanted to be when I grew up (whenever that finally happens :p). If we would have stayed together, I wouldn't have had that opportunity. Maybe things would have worked out anyway, but maybe not.

    3. I also know quite a few people who committed to relationships early (a cousin with whom I'm very close foremost among them) and, well, they're happy, but I know they look back and realize that they committed too soon. It's not really even about the other person in most of those cases, it's just that they look back and see how many opportunities they've had to pass on as a result.

    In the end, you're the only person who really knows if you're ready. Maybe you are. But if she's only 20, I really doubt she is.
  25. Valyn Jedi Master

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    Btw I'm not arguing anything but the notion that 30 = magically ready

    Edit: I've also had to pass up on opportunities, especially career wise, but I'm doing ok.
    Last edited by Valyn, Nov 20, 2012