I maintain that no one should, under any circumstances, get married before the age of 30 (consequent, of course, of the magical forces) and that I have never, ever rubbed Valyn in any way.
fwiw, I completely agree with lexu... I also don't think anybody should even think about marriage until they've been together for at least five years.
getting married is fun. people should do it more often. you can always get divorced if it doesn't work out. it costs a few dollars.
if you're both poor and don't get any lawyers involved anyway. if you are rich you should probably not get married ever though.
If you're rich you have to get married so your spouse isn't forced to testify about you hunting people for sport on your private island.
Also because overpriced flowers and aisle runners are a really good way to get rid of that pesky money you have lying around.
This reminds me that Facebook has informed me that a certain JCCer had a Disney cruise ship wedding recently and it wasn't the one you would expect.
Yeah, my dream was a Goldman Sachs theme, but 'cause that's not a thing I went with the next best soulless corporate wedding.
Five years? That seems like an awful long time to wait if you both know you want to marry. It's not like the number of years together guarantees anything.
I mean, if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together, is five years really all that long in comparison?
I'm with Frieda, don't believe in a set minimum of time. I met my wife in 1997, she moved to New York in 1998, we were in engaged in 1999, married in 2000. What's more important, imo, is how that time is spent. the bigger mistake, ímo, is not spending enough time in the "real world" together, eg after college.
Probably there are people out there who do one thing and fail, and others who do that same thing and are successful; probably there are people who do something totally different than the thing those other people are doing and they are also successful, and others who are not. People have different approaches to relationships. I find this shocking.
Agreed with all your points. I had my first child at 33 and my second at 35, and would not have had them a day younger. The "look like a grandpa" comment annoyed me, as if everyone over 30 "looks like a grandpa," but WTH, it's the JC, worse comments have been made. It's easier to laugh at people who think that 30 is "old." Yep, because the life expectancy for men is 45 and women is 48 these days...oh, wait... The maturity of the person determines whether they're ready for a committed relationship (and also whether they are interested in a committed relationship beyond the initial highly-emotional "oh I'm so in love I can't live without this person" reaction, which is not the basis for any kind of relationship other than a purely sexual one). There are 20-year-olds who are mature enough and 50-year-olds who aren't, but that said, your point #3 is spot-on.
Why did I get made fun of for posting some personal opinions/history, when others are/have done the same?
