Is that all you've got? Satine is not a major character: the series is not The Loves of Satine. She could be sleeping with a different man every night while pining for Obi-Wan as far as we KNOW. For that matter, maybe both Obi-Wan and Satine have a bit of mourning going on for what they cannot have together: each has a duty and each is putting that duty ahead of the other and self. If they're both doing it, why is Obi-Wan the bad guy - because he's male? Why does Satine get a pass - because she's female and therefore more susceptible to emotional damage?