Thanks for comin' after me. Now I owe you one.

Discussion in 'Denver, CO' started by gra-co_o_hun, Feb 23, 2013.

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  1. gra-co_o_hun Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    May 5, 2005
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    I didn't want to miss the opportunity to THANK YOU all for sending me some much needed support from My 2nd Family. :)

    I received your warm wishes in the mail today and it brought good vibes for sure. :cool:

    I have been somewhat forth coming with a few of the Members of the Group but I wanted to let you know what has been happening here with My NEW situation...

    First, it's weird to be back here in California after being gone so long. The first few weeks were the usual thing anyone moving would expect... unpacking, learning the area, finding a job. etc. etc.
    Finding a job was the biggest hurdle at first, especially wanting to find a related job in my field which I figured might be harder to do out here and though the job I did find is all well and good and it is teaching me some things about production that I didn't know, I really want to be designing again for a company. I do freelance on the side but not nearly enough to make it lucrative.
    Not long after we arrived here, My Mom starting showing signs that she was starting to have more troubling health concerns and after several tests and even more tests, we learned that her body has been slowly breaking down but all over and her bouts with falling were becoming more frequent and then last August she fell in the bathroom and broke and dislocated her ankle in the same shot. I have repeatedly asked her to wake my every time she needed to go and put baby monitors in our rooms so I could always hear her as I am a light sleeper but she's Irish and Stubborn and decided not to wake me this particular morning and hence, her injury.
    I took her to emergency and they admitted her and did surgery the same day and a few days later she went to a rehab facility. Since that time in a few short months her health has declined and she never got better. Her ability to walk has fallen off and she is bed-ridden most of the time. She is located very close to my apt so I see her every day but it has taken quite a toll on Me watching her become marginalized more and more all the time. I am still very attentive to her but she now has 24 hour care in a way that she requires. She will be 84 next friday and I know she feels like she has lost much and is depressed often. It's hard to watch our parents reach their limits in this manner.

    I will not droll on but as you are My Friends, I wanted to share a little and explain why I have been MIA as it were, with Mom secure at this point, I feel some relief knowing that she is safe and cared for. I can focus a little better on other portions of my life that I have left on the wayside. It will be odd not attending Starfest for the first time in 15 years but I will return at some point...

    again, all my thanks and Wookie Hugs for everyone. I miss you all so very, very much. ^:)^[face_love][face_monkey]
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  2. catz44 Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Jul 25, 2004
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    So sorry about your moms health, if there is anything we can do please let us know. Just know we are here for you and we will keep you and your family in our thoughts.
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  3. PtrsonsZOO Force Ghost

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    Jul 30, 2001
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    What Catz said, and double hugs for all
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  4. gra-co_o_hun Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    May 5, 2005
    star 5
    Just knowing You All care is enough Courtney. Thank You My Dear.[face_love]
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  5. QueenHighMistress Force Ghost

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    May 8, 2005
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    My post from last night seems to have gotten eaten. Basically: [:D]
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  6. DieWompRatDie RSA: SouthWest US

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    Dec 2, 2008
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    Sorry to hear about your mom, dude. You're a great son to her and do everything you can. I'm sure she appreciates and we all hold you in such high esteem in your taking care of her.
    Your 2nd family will always be here for ya! Big Wookiee hugs right back atcha!
    MTFBWY
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  7. SITH__CHICK RMFF CR

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    Mar 25, 2002
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    Silly Pooh, you should always know you can lean on us if need be. You've gone above and beyond what most sons would have even thought of, I know how hard it is to watch someone you love decline in health. I know she appreciates everything you're doing, so keep that in mind. Hang in there and hope every thing else is running smooth for you as well.

    If not SF there's always DCC?????
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  8. nnaydolem Force Ghost

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    Nov 8, 2002
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  9. JawaJaka Jedi Master

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    May 24, 2011
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    Being a caregiver to an aging ailing parent is probably the hardest job in the world. I had to be one for both my parents. Just know you can cry, and please take care of yourself, too. You need a little time away for the things you love to do. I'm glad to hear your mom has 24 hour care now. We're still here for you. Please, if you can, DCC end of May (if only just for a weekend getaway). *HUGS*
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  10. Jomama Jedi Grand Master

    Member Since:
    Nov 3, 2009
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    Wish I could say I know what you're going through but I don't. I do know you've gone above and beyond the call of duty for your mom and she can't help but see that like the rest of us have. I hope she gets through this quickly and I'm sure the 24 hour care wont be keeping you away but hopefully it's taking a lot of the stress off of you. Starfest is going to be a little less cool without THE DUDE around but we all hope you can come visit soon..
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  11. Taeriel Force Ghost

    Member Since:
    Feb 9, 2003
    star 5
    I'm so sorry to hear this... watching a parent decline in health is a terrible experience. :( [:D]

    I'll be down in San Diego in July for comic con... if you are free, let's get together for dinner while I'm there. It would be nice to see you!
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  12. FanForced Force Ghost

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    Jun 15, 2007
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    More hugs and well wishes going to you and your family. We're here for you.
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