Wow. As much as I disliked Spiderman 3, I think you are really missing the point of the character. The most significant thing about Spiderman, what made him stand out among other superheroes, is that he had as much consideration for his humanity and normal life as he did for his alter-ego. The point is not some sort of asinine contest to see "who's problems are bigger." It's about him, as a person, being able to acknowledge and empathize with the emotions and life situation of someone he cares about. That's a very basic element of being someone's friend, let alone lover, whether you are a superhero or not.