The point I'm trying to make is that regardless of how the Jedi phrase their "statements of fact" a kid is going to see them as personal criticisms - especially if their "statements of fact" are "reasons why we cannot let you join". And when those reasons are "emotions that Anakin feels" - the natural consequence is to make him ashamed of those emotions. The Jedi may not intend to "shame Anakin" or "criticise Anakin" but it seemed to me, pretty clear that this was what they were doing, regardless of what they wanted to do. Imagine yourself Anakin's age - put yourself in Anakin's head during both the "fear leads to the Dark Side" and the "he will not be trained, there is too much anger in him". Do you really think that, as Anakin, you wouldn't be feeling ashamed?