Thing is, the Jedi aren't high school teachers, and do have experience with strong emotion and conflict and the full series of the 'human' experience. These are being that are trained as diplomats, peacekeepers, mindhealers, healers, scholars, and a dozen other skills, while also travelling regularly to thousands of different worlds with different races, cultures, and highly emotional beings, and mediating in their problems. Their range of experience refutes that their inability to adapt to Anakin and others like him. It comes down to the arrogant refusal to acknowledge that any way but the firm adherence to a single way for everyone is simply flawed, more so in some cases than others. And that's before you even get into the moral issue of taking children from their parents. They are fallible, so what may seem like condemnation isn't really that. They did what they thought was best. And even if it was only because the Sith kept a low profile for thousands of years, they kept the peace for that long. Far longer than the KOTOR, who got decimated by Malak and then devoured/killed by the Sith Lords, and the NJO which ends at Ossus, as a proper Order, after around a 170 or so years. At the end we are perhaps getting a little too deep into something that was written as it was to reach a point (ROTS and the OT) rather than building logically. The series of events is built up 'if so-and-so does this, then we can get to this location' rather than 'what will happen of so-and-so does this.' The issue of having sequels occur before prequels.