Hey Everyone I wasn't sure were to post this after digging around for a while. So if this is in the wrong spot, please just let me know. I'm fairly new around here and perhaps most people don't care to hear about another person's woes. I do want to state that I realize that everyone has their own issues. I also realize that my issue is not the worst situation in this world. So with that said, this is my own personal experiences, trauma and issues. I do not speak for anyone else experiencing the same issues. But if you do have a similar issue or have in the past, please feel free to share. I'm always looking for people to may be able to relate because a lot of my closest friends haven't experienced anything like this. And when I talk about it, most of them are like "Well, I don't know what to tell you, sorry." Maybe I'm just screwed. Anyway, with that preface out of the way, this post may get really long and sort of rambling. If you need any clarification or more details on the topic, please just ask. I'm going to keep everything short and as brief as I can to help cut down on the overwhelming words on your screen. And if you've stuck through this so far and keep reading, I really thank you for your time and support. Okay, so to kind of begin, I'll give you a glimpse of what I've had to deal with in the past. I'm adopted and was adopted by great parents who did raise me well. As I got older, things of course happen within the family that may have, perhaps really damaged my own parents and maybe they should have had their own therapy for their own issues. There isn't an easier way to say it, but I was what most would consider emotionally and mentally abused by the time I was in high school until I moved out. I wont go into details so if you wish to know more, I'll expand on them. But in this case for this post, I'll keep it at that. I ended up moving to a different state where my Boyfriend (now fiancee) was living and I moved in with his family. That is where this story will continue from this point on. When I first moved in, it was obviously a stark difference from the life I had been living. His parents were great (His step mom and dad) and they helped us out a great deal in many situations. we lived with them for a year before moving in with my fiancee's aunt who needed help and unfortunately after 6 months or so, she ended up causing us a ton of problems and so we had to move out and ended up back in with his family. The reasons we did: - We had to move out quick because of the issues - There was plans for them to move out within the year to a different home and we were going to rent out of there. And at the time, we had no idea how bad things were going to get. After moving back in, things got super bad super quick. His parents had decided to foster a newborn right before we moved in and I knew that wasn't going to go well. Both of them have totally different parenting styles and they both had their own issues that never were worked out. So for the past year now we've had nothing but the two of them fighting, his step mom being terrible in the way of manipulation, pushing the baby on everyone (Despite her saying she doesn't want to and all that. ) and my days are spent cleaning up the house on my free time and getting pushed into babysitting or errands any chance I get. Now again, I'm being vague with no specifics because of the lengths of this post so once more, feel free to ask. But because of my past, a lot of tension has built because she's turning out to treat me a lot similar to how they did. I do want to say that I have NO issues helping out and cleaning and all that. But when it's expected from me all the time and she doesn't do anything hardly, that's when it gets to me. And her hypocritical nature is the worst. His dad is having major mental problems and has his own major issues. He does nothing but stir the pot and she sets him off more. The adoption for this little girl is planned in may. She made it clear that after the baby was adopted that if his dad didn't shape up that she'd leave him. And we'd be expected to help support them since she can't work and hasn't gotten her disability yet. I don't want my life to be ruined. And I have a feeling she's going to intentionally set his dad off and make it worse. Now the light at the end of the tunnel is they WILL be moving for sure in November. There were plans for them to move into her sister's home and it had gotten pushed off for a year because she's building from the ground up and paying out of pocket. I don't know how much more I can take. I work from home and I have to put up with her every single day with nothing but complaining and all that. I do my best to ignore her, as our room is in the basement. If you're asking why we don't just go get an apartment, I had been in between jobs for about six months and just started up. We don't have the money and this house would be perfect for the two of us once they are gone and much cheaper than an apartment. So the advice is how do I make it until November? What do I do? we can't say anything because it makes things a million times worse. my anxiety and panic attacks are worse than normal. I don't sleep. It's just a mess. Edit: I do want to confirm that after we ARE away from them that I plan on keeping my distance for a very long time. I realize that the first step in a toxic relationship is to move away or casterate it. However, that's currently not an option. I really am looking for possible ways to cope until then. Anyway, I'll leave it at that. If you've made it this far, you're a true friend. Thank you.