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Twenty years clean and sober!

Discussion in 'Archive: Your Jedi Council Community' started by J-Rod, Feb 1, 2012.

  1. J-Rod

    J-Rod Jedi Grand Master star 6

    Jul 28, 2004
    As of last call last night I have been clean and sober for 20 years. It blows my mind. The loss of my wife and the resulting spiral nearly ended me. I thought I was gonna die. I did some shameful things, but I didn't drink. Those were the darkest days of my life. It feels good to be back on an even path again. I have a new wife and we are closing this week on our new house. I'm letting my mom and my sister (who has terminal cancer) live in my old house. The hard times, it seems, are not over. But at least for now my self-distructive behaviour is.
  2. KnightWriter

    KnightWriter Administrator Emeritus star 9 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Nov 6, 2001
    Many congratulations, J-Rod. A lesser man, or even a pretty strong man in general, would have fallen off the wagon, and I'm not sure anyone could have blamed you. You've got some kind of inner strength.

    Well done.
  3. soitscometothis

    soitscometothis Jedi Grand Master star 5

    Jul 11, 2003
    That's a fantastic achievement and a testament to your strength of character, J-Rod. I hope things get easier for you in the future.

    LAJ_FETT Tech Admin and Collecting/Lucasfilm Ltd Mod star 9 Staff Member Administrator

    May 25, 2002
    Congratulations on your new marriage and your sobriety!

    Sorry to hear about your sister's illness though. I lost my dad due to cancer.
  5. Jabbadabbado

    Jabbadabbado Manager Emeritus star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Mar 19, 1999
    Congratulations! People like you give hope to those still struggling with the booze demon.
  6. ApolloSmileGirl

    ApolloSmileGirl Jedi Knight star 8

    Jun 18, 2004
    Congratulations on this achievement J-Rod, I'm not sure how long you struggled with the addiction, but I know you've had plenty of stressers that could have aided to you relapsing. I'm not going to add to the whole a lesser man or woman would have relapsed in those conditions, because frankly, I've seen close friends go through addiction, and know that falling of the wagon can happen to anybody. I am, however happy to hear you've been able to keep your sobriety through tragic times, and situations.



  7. J-Rod

    J-Rod Jedi Grand Master star 6

    Jul 28, 2004
    Thanks guys. I'm not sure that strength has much to do with it. I'm not sure that's how this deal works. I've had mentors, who've taught me how to do this, ultimatley fail. I suspect it has more to do with a simple willingness to go to any length. Faith, hope and when all else fails plain old stubborness. And a bit of luck...a weak moment doesn't meet opportunity.

    I'm not here to say,"Hey look at me!" I'm just here to show you guys that there is always hope. If I can do this, anyone can.
  8. Only-One Cannoli

    Only-One Cannoli Ex-Mod star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Aug 20, 2003
    I don't think I want to do any of what you just said, so I'll pass.
  9. KnightWriter

    KnightWriter Administrator Emeritus star 9 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Nov 6, 2001
    I certainly don't take this as a "look at me!" thing. Twenty years of sobriety is a long time and worth celebrating, particularly for anyone out there struggling with addiction or who has gotten clean and is more toward the beginning of a path like the one you've walked.
  10. Eeth-my-Koth

    Eeth-my-Koth Jedi Grand Master star 9

    May 25, 2001
    Good on you.
    So you visited a dark place but didn't drink...
    Please elaborate. What did you do?
    Spend insurance money on hookers?
    Murder homeless people?

    I need to know so I don't make the same mistakes.
  11. J-Rod

    J-Rod Jedi Grand Master star 6

    Jul 28, 2004
    LOL...the details are unimportant. I lost a lot of my integrity and many of those closest to me lost some repect for me. I didn't care if I lived and I suspect part of me hoped I didn't. And I lived like it. I was horribly selfish and hurt many people.
  12. hudzu

    hudzu Jedi Grand Master star 6

    Jun 1, 2003
    good job, man.
  13. FatFrank

    FatFrank Jedi Youngling star 3

    Jul 30, 2011
    They found out that you post on the JCC?

    That's it, isn't it?
  14. Boba_Fett_2001

    Boba_Fett_2001 Force Ghost star 8

    Dec 11, 2000
    Don't be silly. No one can recover from that.
  15. Rogue_Ten

    Rogue_Ten Chosen One star 7

    Aug 18, 2002
  16. Katya Jade

    Katya Jade Administrator Emeritus star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Jan 19, 2002
    Congratulations J-Rod. :)
  17. Spike2002

    Spike2002 Former FF-UK RSA and Arena Manager star 6 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

    Feb 4, 2002
    Congrats on your achievement, J-Rod. I'd suggest a drink to celebrate, but I guess that wouldn't be appropriate :p
  18. Kiki-Gonn

    Kiki-Gonn Jedi Grand Master star 6

    Feb 26, 2001
    Good job.
  19. anakinfansince1983

    anakinfansince1983 Nightsister of Four Realms star 9 Staff Member Manager

    Mar 4, 2011
    That is a fantastic accomplishment, and I'll reiterate what the others have said, people have relapsed over less. Congratulations. :)

  20. Rogue_Ten

    Rogue_Ten Chosen One star 7

    Aug 18, 2002
    ill down a bottle of jack in your honor this weekend
  21. DarthTunick

    DarthTunick SfC Part IV Commissioner star 10 VIP - Game Host

    Nov 26, 2000
    I like to drink/have a fondness for it, but am responsible enough to stray away from reaching addiction. I understand how one can get down that path, and respect the hell out of anyone who is able to get off it/keep it together for their remaining days. Many congrats, J-Rod. :)

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