JCC We just lost our next baby

Discussion in 'Community' started by Valyn, Sep 5, 2012.

  1. Valyn Force Ghost

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    Two months ago, we found out we were pregnant again. We wanted to give our daughter a sibling close to her age, so we were excited. Two months of name selecting, of telling friends and family, of predicting how our daughter would react, of anticipating what our new addition would be like, of what his/her smiles would look like, of the joys we'd be welcoming in our lives...

    During a routine check-up and sonogram, the doctors found that our little one's heart stopped beating.

    We're now having to go through the miserable aftermath that comes with miscarriage. Foremost on the list, the procedure to remove the dead fetus from the womb.

    But even worse is the heartache. We work with a pregnant woman who smokes, who drinks soda like it's going out of style, and who knows? Maybe she drinks at home. But she's almost nine months now.

    We're devastated...we did everything clean, just as last time. No caffeine, no alcohol or smoking, vitamins and healthy foods, talking of and to our little one in the womb.

    And now he or she is gone...and while I'm still struggling to accept that, my fiancee is a wreck over everything else.

    Even our daughter suddenly started to scream when the doctor told us.
    Last edited by Valyn, Sep 5, 2012
  2. Obi-Zahn Kenobi Chosen One

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  3. anakinfansince1983 Chosen One

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  4. Souderwan Force Ghost

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    Damn. There just aren't words to describe...I'm so sorry. My heartfelt condolences.
  5. Veloz Force Ghost

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    Aww i'm so sorry for your loss, Valyn :(.
  6. Juliet316 Chosen One

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    *hugs* I'm so, so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
  7. PrincessKenobi New Films Manager of DOOM

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    I am so sorry for your loss Vayln.
  8. Rox Administrator Emeritus

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    I'm so sorry for your loss, your family will be in my prayers tonight.
  9. Darth Tunes SfC Part III Commissioner

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    No family, mother, etc. should have to go through an experience such as this... sorry to hear about this, Valyn.
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  10. jp-30 Manager Emeritus

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    I thought you had left your wife. At any rate, I'm very sorry to hear the news.
  11. Jabba-wocky Chosen One

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    My condolences to your family.
  12. Valairy Scot Force Ghost

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    Condolences and @};-. It's a devastating loss, for sure.
  13. Juliet316 Chosen One

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    Was this really the post to ask that JP?
    Last edited by Juliet316, Sep 5, 2012
  14. timmoishere Force Ghost

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    PK EDIT: Not appropriate.
    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
  15. Juliet316 Chosen One

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    Please tell me you were referring to @jp-30 asking about the state of valyn's marriage.
    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
  16. PRENNTACULAR VIP

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  17. Sith-Lord-Gunray Ex-Mod

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  18. Adam of Nuchtern Force Ghost

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    I'm really sorry for your loss, Valyn.
  19. harpua Chosen One

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    wtf? Jesus, have a little bit of compassion.

    Sorry to hear, Valyn. Take your time to heal from this. Maybe seek out some counseling (individual and couple) to help you guys get through the immense grief you must be feeling.
    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
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  20. timmoishere Force Ghost

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    EDIT: Inappropriate Post
    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
  21. PrincessKenobi New Films Manager of DOOM

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    This is the only time I will post this. Be respectful. There is a time and place. Anything else that is posted that is troll-ish in nature will result in a break from the forums.
  22. harpua Chosen One

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    There's not much you can do about any loss.... that doesn't mean that you should go around being a chode when somebody is expressing their grief.
    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
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  23. Juliet316 Chosen One

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    Last edited by PrincessKenobi, Sep 5, 2012
  24. zigazigahh Jedi Master

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    I am so sorry for your loss Valyn. I'm wishing you and your wife peace, and I hope that the rest of your thread will be *** free. (Am I allowed to say ***?)

    Nope.
    Last edited by JoinTheSchwarz, Sep 6, 2012
  25. harpua Chosen One

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    Anyway, we've fed the troll enough... sorry that happened in your thread, Valyn.