Discussion in 'Midlands and Wales' started by Jairen, Jul 10, 2005.
You need to be a combination of cool, yet caring. You don't want to come across as one of her girlfriends or a "nice guy". I mean that in the worst possible way. You need to show that you are interested in more than being friends but are willing to take it as slow as she needs.
No, I mean she would have to be a pretty dumb girl to want to go out with me. At the moment, I have no job, no money, a car I have to share, I'm overweight by about 20lbs, and I still live at home...Yeah, I'm a real catch!
I love smart women!
Oh, I don't know...I'm just feeling the frustration at the moment.
Ah yes, Joe, the infamouse "nice guy" that gets you into the "friend zone". That's me all over.
Wow now that's a loaded statement!
Ok guys now it's time for the woman's POV:
Jango: Joe is on the right path but I didn't see anyone find out if this relationship of hers ended on a bad note or not. If it ended badly, she is going to need time to recover, alot of time. If she is going to be fooling around now, it's just a rebound and the last thing you want to be is the rebound guy.
Ninja: If you don't think your a catch, no girl is going to want to be bothered either. Change what you need to change for you and you only. You have to be happy with you before you can be in a serious relationship. Somtimes it is good for us to fix ourselves when the time arises, we become better people on the other side.
Ok I need a drink!!
Already ahead of you. I've decided to go to the gym a lot more than I usually do in order to lose the weight I have, and I'm going back to University in September so I can get a degree in a field where there are jobs with good pay.
I'm just impatient, I suppose!
I don't know...maybe I'm just low on confidence right now.
Everyone has times when their feeling down.
Hell I was just handed some news today that brought me down as well.
You're not talking about the email I sent proclaiming my love are you?
Are you okay?
I'm fine, just a bruised ego.
I went on a date roughly 2 weeks ago with a guy who really seemed to like me only to find out that he just regards me as "pal". Told me today he was going on a "real" date this weekend.
That's a rude thing to say.
Want me to break his ankles?
Nay, no need for that, just find me a good man.
Thanks for the advice guys...her last relationship did end on a bad note n have been there for her ever since then...like i was with her previous bf......so appreciate the advcie...its made me think of my approach abit more....
Just be careful, you've been down this path before? If enough time has passed, why not take her out for a nice evening, dinner & a movie or something like that, but no pressure just yet. Keep remembering she needs time to get over the ex still.
Yeah I will do.....was hoping to see her tonight but she hasnt replied to me yet...was gona go bowling! (hey her idea!) And once again yes i have been down this path before and bin in love once before until i found out she was sleeping with one of my friends.....which broke my heart and it took me ages to get over...so i know how she is feeling
its nice to know a girls perspective
Here's a thought, does she know how you feel about her?
Yes she does....I've told her enough times!
I don't know wether to rename this board Tom's love line or just call the samaritans! Tom I've told you so many times that all you really need is to be yourself, without the needy bits and the trying to be cool stuff and you'll be fine, all this I need be something other than what I am nonsense is going to get you into trouble. Just be who you are and what you do best which is YOURSELF !
/me shakes his head.
Will they never learn ????
Ok so how long has it been since she got out of this last relationship?
Wendy, I'll have a double vodka and diet coke, thanks muchly!
I make a few drinks and now everyone thinks I'm the hired help! Thank god I work for peanuts!!
Sure sweetie anything you say Phil.
*Slides Phil a double vodak & diet coke*
thought this was the pub for a moment
*Hands Lord-Wiz 2 pint glasses and a bottle of Brandy*
Pour me one dear while your at it, god knows I need a drink!
hang on, isnt the pub over there?
help i`m catching oldness from martin!!
is this the green-grocers?
Well the pub is expanding, yeah that's it expanding since you guys are asking for drinks in other theads now!!
Oldness, well yes let me tell you about it. It all started back in 1971 when men had long hair and . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . checked trousers or Pants as our American friends like to call them . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . and that's why you can't buy Opel Fruits or a Marathon anymore.
That was 2 minutes of my life I won't get back.