With all the talk going on about VicFF not adhering to its meet quota. I thought I'd take the opportunity to share my thoughts on all this because there is a good reason why meets are a struggle to organise and why people don't attend. As has been covered before, meets for VicFF should be easy to arrange because there are already SW social club meetings taking place once every three months. We all know that. So the question is, why is it so hard for forum members to get together at these events ... or anywhere for that matter? Now before I give you the answer I'll share with you a real life scenario. Once upon a time VicFF did in fact go a Skyforce meeting en masse, in fact around 8 members turned up. The cool thing about this meet is that it was the first time members ever met each other in real life. Considering these boards were full of chatter and activity it was reasonable to expect that everyone would be rapt to see each other face to face. So what happened when everyone got together? Nothing. In the absence of a monitor, keyboard and anonymity, no one knew what to say, so they said nothing. I remember this really well because I walked past the group and found them standing there like lost sheep, so I said "guys talk to each other". You know what the problem was? Everyone was majorly out of their comfort zone. And that's why meets fail. Forum members live in a virtual world, a world dominated by words on a screen where people can be who they want to be and say what they like. No matter what you believe, we're all sitting in front of a screen by ourselves talking to no one, but yet we are comfortable. A meet on the other hand requires people to step away from the comfort of the screen and keyboard and to actually make a point of travelling to a place to meet those names they know so well, to see their faces and hear their voices in the flesh. It's at this point I'm willing to bet everyone has built up a profile in their mind of how everyone looks and sounds, and no doubt these images will be incorrect. So how do forumers deal with this shock to the system? Easy, just go back to the safety of the keyboard and screen and that virtual world. You may tell yourself otherwise, but given the option I bet you'd prefer to talk to forumers in this format than any other way. Now I'm willing to bet that someone here is going to say that I'm full of myself, that I'm talking rubbish and that I'm totally wrong. For those who stand defiant let me ask you some questions: * Do you consider your fellow forum members friends? If so, do you believe you could arrive on their doorstep one day and say you need help in a crisis ... and they would? * Do you ever ring them up to talk on the phone? * Do you actually know what your fellow forum members look like? Would you recognise them on the street? And finally. * If by some chance the answers to all the above is "yes", then why is it so damn hard to organise a meet to see them! To prove my point. I'll have a chat to LordVaderFF and we'll organise a catchup in the coming weeks and give everyone here plenty of notice. It'll be nothing fancy, just a dinner somewhere at a pizza place. LordVaderFF and I are face to face friends already so we don't have any comfort barriers to overcome, let's see who else turns up.