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debeautimous  1956 posts
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Date Posted: 12/3/03 9:09pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
If your personality is reserved she may need reassurance of your feelings. Women are more verbal than men. Sometimes silence feels lonely.

 

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SamwiseGamgee  1226 posts
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Date Posted: 12/3/03 9:13pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Yes but as I am discovering it can be damaging to be overzealous in your expresions of emotions. I suggest you find the appropriate balance. pouring your heart out could scare the poor girl, and she seems to be wanting to distance herself from you.

 

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CUBIE_HOLE  1458 posts
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Date Posted: 12/3/03 9:28pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
You can pretty much just wait. She gave you her reasons, but more importantly, since she left, she didn't won't to be with you anymore. That's why you have to wait. Trying to get her to come back will probably just make things worse, because you'll be forcing something that she doesn't want right now.

If she does change her mind, then you need to put forth some effort to keep things going so it's more like a relationship, and not just two people hanging out and fooling around from time to time. You might want to, if you don't know, find out things you did, stopped doing, or didn't do at all. Things don't work out. It's kind of a common theme with relationships, but at least you can learn from it so you'll be ready when something comes around next time.

Samwise, no harm. Don't worry about it. I don't even know who this girl is, or anything about the FF group thing. I just occassionally post random rants. It's a simple, happy existence. silly

 

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SamwiseGamgee  1226 posts
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Date Posted: 12/6/03 8:42am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large - Date Edited: 12/6/03 8:57am (1 edits total) Edited By: SamwiseGamgee
Ok well I did the one thing I never thought I would be able to do. I let go. I forgot about my own emotions and for the sake of her happiness I set her up with the guy she cares about most. And now I have to watch them happy and together. It wasn't easy, but I hope it was the right thing.

 

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Connemara  12844 posts
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Date Posted: 12/6/03 11:56am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Xizor- I agree...you don't want to be too overzealous with your feelings, but what you want to do if she's feeling you guys aren't close is prove you want to be! Ask her to do stuff with you, even if she doesn't want to date you. Give her little gifts now and then, just to show you care.

Samwise- I think you did the right thing. And remember, you did this for her. She won't forget it. If things aren't meant to be with this dude, she'll turn to you next.

 

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Rampani  1340 posts
Registered: Feb '03
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 7:07am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Wow. I haven't posted here in a while. Anyway, here it goes.

About 5 years ago a really good looking girl moved in next door to me. I had a crush on her at first, but that went nowhere and faded over time. We were still friends though.

Fast forward to about last Wednesday. We're both in high school now. I don't talk to her much, but sometimes she asks me for a ride home. Whenever she sees me she always has this weird smile on and gets really shy. And I was supposed to give her a ride to school Wednesday, but I ended up going to the hospital for my appendix. Anyway, my mom had to take her to school and apparently, this girl came out of her house looking like, in my mom's words, "a million dollars". And that when the girl got to the car and saw that it was my mom, she got kinda flustered and started asking where I was.My mom told her I was going to the doctors for possible appendicitis and the girl got really worried.

Fast forward to yesterday. I was sitting at home recuperating and the phone rings. It was this girl. She wanted to see how I was doing and to check up on me and see if I needed anything. Realize, she did not know it was my appendix. Many of my other friends did. I did not get any calls from them. In fact, other then her, the only call I have had was from my grandmother. Anyway, she was really kinda quiet on the phone and sounded nervous.

So does this mean anything? Or am I totally off base?

 

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Terpmaniac09  3062 posts
Registered: Jan '03
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 7:39am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
There is a girl I really like on my Indoor Track team. I'm prtetty sure she somewhat likes me because we have hung out a lot and talked online a lot, ect... So the other day I ask her if she wants to go and see a movie sometime and she said sure, and we could get a group of people together. Thats the last thing I want. I just want to go out with her, not with 10 other people. So I guess the next time I metion it, I should say that I just want it to be the two of us.

 

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gwaernardel  2472 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 7:40am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Did you just post the exact same message in two threads?

 

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Terpmaniac09  3062 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 7:44am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Yeah, but I thought I might get better advise in this thread.

 

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BultarSwan  25525 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 7:51am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Terpmaniac: Make sure that when you suggest that it be just the two of you, she's comfortable with that idea. Might sound weird, but think on it. Also, when you ask her, do so casually. Don't make an intense, 'is this your final answer?' thing.

Hope that helps at least a little bit. happy

 

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Terpmaniac09  3062 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 10:04am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Thanks for the advice.

 

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Rampani  1340 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 10:41am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
I was gonna give you advice, Terp, but mine usually turns out bad.

 

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debeautimous  1956 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 11:17am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Rampini - I think she is definitely feeling somethin. Keep spending time with her and see what she does. Very cute!!

 

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Terpmaniac09  3062 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 2:57pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
I want all the advice I can get, but I probably don't need it too much.

 

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Terpmaniac09  3062 posts
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Date Posted: 12/7/03 5:57pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
Up.

 

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