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CUBIE_HOLE Registered: Jun '01	Date Posted: 12/7/03 11:04pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Rampani, she might have a thing for you. Is she normally not very shy, and that's in reference to not only you, but other people in general? Does she dress up really nice fairly often? Does she seem like the type of person who would call just about anyone she knows that had some sort of possible major problem? Hopefully, you can figure out the answer to those questions, or better yet, already have. While some of the things you mentioned are nothing to scoff at, I think the biggest thing is that she called you. It's just one of those things that doesn't usually happen out of the blue. Sure, it wasn't totally random, since you had the medical thing going on, but she could have waited until she saw you at school or something. Regardless, it does seem like she might have a crush on you. There's only one real way to find out, and that's for you to take some action, that is, if you want to. Crushes tend to go away as quickly as they come on, when there's no response from the crushee. Terpmaniac09, the idea of going with a group might not be such a bad idea. Maybe she would like for it to be just the two of you, but was apprehensive about saying so, or maybe she's just a little nervous about doing that now. Social settings can really help out during the beginning of things. In such a setting, you can still focus a lot on one another, and yet, it's not exactly like you both have the spotlight on you constantly, and that can help ease awkward situations. It can help make that first one on one date a lot less tense. The both of you will be a little more comfortable being around one another, so the two of you will be yourselves more, instead of two people who are anywhere from anxious/nervous to complete wrecks internally, but trying to hold together their external composure. -----signature----- Do unto others, then run like hell. I don't suffer from stress. I'm a carrier.
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Connemara Registered: Nov '00	Date Posted: 12/8/03 1:40pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	I hafta say, I totally agree with Cubie Hole here, and don't have a whole lot else to offer to either of you. Good luck Rampani, I would defnately act on it, thats' the only way to know for sure. And Terp, yeah, sounds like she wants to go slower than you, doesn't mean she's not interested, just be casual. -----signature----- @~`~ So you think you can love me and leave me to die? RIP Jeffy- clear skies from here on out
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Rampani Registered: Feb '03	Date Posted: 12/8/03 7:13pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	CUBIE_HOLE:Rampani, she might have a thing for you. Is she normally not very shy, and that's in reference to not only you, but other people in general? Does she dress up really nice fairly often? Does she seem like the type of person who would call just about anyone she knows that had some sort of possible major problem? No, she's normally not shy and since we've known each other for a long time, she shouldn't be around me. No, she normally doesn't dress that nice. And no to that last question also. -----signature----- A weapon for a more civilized age, eh? Well guess what? Times have changed.
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CUBIE_HOLE Registered: Jun '01	Date Posted: 12/8/03 9:38pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Well, there you have it. -----signature----- Do unto others, then run like hell. I don't suffer from stress. I'm a carrier.
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debeautimous Registered: Jan '03	Date Posted: 12/9/03 12:25am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Rampini - I think it is cute because she is acting the way I would when I have a crush. -----signature----- I am sure an opportunity will present itself - Qui Gon Jinn I love Qui Gon http://boards.theforce.net/Fan_Fiction_Stories--Classic_JC_Board_(Reply-Only)/b10016/10629801/?382 Please read my story!
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jedi_john_33 Registered: Sep '03	Date Posted: 12/9/03 1:23am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	im 200 miles from the person i want to be with. how do i push this aside? -----signature----- LEROOOOOOOOOOOOY JENKINS! I miss Mortimer_Snerd http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8feelxiFlw
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Terpmaniac09 Registered: Jan '03	Date Posted: 12/10/03 2:31pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	She definatly has a thing for you. -----signature----- "Ward I Think You Were A Little Hard On The Beaver Last Night." - Mrs. Cleaver "I Can't Wait To Eat That Monkey." - Abe Simpson -Attack of the Clones Trivia Contest-
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I_AM_A_CLONER Registered: Jun '03	Date Posted: 12/10/03 6:39pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	at what age is a female too young for a 21 year old guy to date??.....in my position there are two girls that are more beautiful than some females at my college.... ...the cloner -----signature----- LotR is a banquet for the eyes and the heart. The Matrix is a feast for your mind. SW is Thanksgiving for all three. I'm down for all three series, and if you have a problem with that you can sick my duck. That's right. My duck is over there. Sick 'em.
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Jedi_Knight_Jonas Registered: Sep '03	Date Posted: 12/10/03 6:44pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	um...i'd say about age 10. any younger and the cops mite get interested. -----signature----- When they come for me I'll be sitting in my desk with a gun in my hand wearing a bullet proof vest singing "My, my, my how the time does fly when you know your gonna die by the end of the night."
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jedi_john_33 Registered: Sep '03	Date Posted: 12/10/03 6:47pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	that is wrong dude...i'd say 18 man, right at the legal age -----signature----- LEROOOOOOOOOOOOY JENKINS! I miss Mortimer_Snerd http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8feelxiFlw
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I_AM_A_CLONER Registered: Jun '03	Date Posted: 12/10/03 6:52pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	dammit...thats what everyone says......its kinda complicated with one chick....she is the little sister of a girl i work with...the girl i work with is my age but she dates a 30 year old which i find disgusting.....the little sister is a senior in high school and will be 17 in february...she's also a model.....the other chick is a senior in high school and she is like a friggin brain child.....super smart for her age.....got accepted to harvard....and she runs cross country which is like a super plus for me.......but damn they are both so fine....ahh what to do what to do.... ...the cloner -----signature----- LotR is a banquet for the eyes and the heart. The Matrix is a feast for your mind. SW is Thanksgiving for all three. I'm down for all three series, and if you have a problem with that you can sick my duck. That's right. My duck is over there. Sick 'em.
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WMCoolmon Registered: May '02	Date Posted: 12/10/03 11:21pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	I have a somewhat stupid question... Sometime in July, I asked a girl out to a movie. Somewhat miraculously, nothing serious went wrong. Except, perhaps, that I wasn't really able to start a conversation with her. Of course, I'm not a very good conversationalist anyways, and I had ~10 minutes to talk with her outside the movie. And she did seem to enjoy it, too; she laughed at all my jokes during the movie except one, which she didn't get. But afterwards, she said that she couldn't stay any longer (was expected) and would be gone/busy the next week, but mentioned that maybe we could figure something out. So a bit later I called, got no answer, did that a few times, finally left a message. She eventually called back, said she'd see me at school (Which started again in about a month). I replied I'd keep in touch, amd called once after that. She said she couldn't talk then, but I think she later called. I never returned the call, by then pretty sure that she really didn't want to be around me, but felt like she should act like she did. I saw her once after that, she said "Hi", but I couldn't work up the nerve and didn't know what to say; I figured she'd be annoyed at me for never calling back. Later, I did work up the nerve to call and apologize for acting so stupid - she didn't sound angry at all. In fact, she sounded sort of relieved. Now that the whole history's done, here's the problem - I would like to ask her out to lunch sometime. She does have a close guy friend, which also complicates things. Soo...I guess my question is whether or not she did want to go out with me, or if she really just liked me as a friend? Or would it be a bad idea to even try and reopen relations with her? I'm not very good at dealing with women who don't don't like me . My current opinion is that it isn't a bad idea; there is no gain without risk. But I would like a different perspective. -----signature----- "Do you really believe that?" "I do" "Are you willing to die for that belief?" - Serenity Sex happens. Deal with it.
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CUBIE_HOLE Registered: Jun '01	Date Posted: 12/10/03 11:33pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	It seems like it would be a waste of your time. It never hurts to try though. Just venturing a guess, but maybe you just didn't do it enough for her, once the two of you were together. You kind of just got blown off. It doesn't mean she hates you or anything like that, but she doesn't like you in an intimate relationship way. Have you ever had an interest in someone, but once you're with them in some sort of situation, things just don't click for you? You don't have anything to fuel your interest in the other person, so your attention goes else where. That's what this seems like with her intentions towards you. -----signature----- Do unto others, then run like hell. I don't suffer from stress. I'm a carrier.
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DarthBane420 Registered: Jan '03	Date Posted: 12/11/03 1:27am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	WMCool, One thing I have stressed in this column, and I would guess my colleagues would agree with, is that there is no better way to turn a girl off than to be clingy. Now don't take this as an insult, I would venture a guess you have nothing but honourable intentions in mind with this young lady but your approach will still be interpreted as desperation. After you have made "first contact" you must assess the results objectively. This girl has had numerous chances to talk to you and now even has a "male friend" and we all know what that means. He is no doubt another suitor. One could guess that she is interested in him and the feelings might be mutual. Now is the time for you to cut your losses, move on to another more receptive female. -----signature----- AHBY/Knight of the BYS The Big Blue Bane of 3SA and Plunderer of the Pabst AoE Please join me in an effort to bring back serious posting to TFN EPC Representative to Comms & JCC
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Connemara Registered: Nov '00	Date Posted: 12/11/03 5:54am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Jedi-John- Well, is the feeling mutual? Does she love you, too? Because 200 miles isn't so bad. You guys can get together occasionally. I have a good friend who is engaged to someone who lives about 3,000 miles away from her. If they can stay together as long as they have, I am sure you can, too, if you care enough about the girl. And if you don't, if things just don't click, then it means you're not meant to be, no matter the distance. Cloner- There are exceptions, but I think the 18 rule is good generally. I woudln't openly look for girls under that age, if you happen to have a special connection with someone who's like, 17, then that's fine, but I would never go any younger than that, and I would only consider a relationship with her if there was a very close mutual bond. Coolmon- I would, not to pun, but, play it cool. She might still have some interest in you, but it is true, your clinginess will totally turn off any spark that was there. You don't have to cut her enitrely out of the picture, you can be friendly, say "hi" occasionally or whatever, but I woudl also be looking around for other potential dates, maybe someone that is a better match for you anyway. -----signature----- @~`~ So you think you can love me and leave me to die? RIP Jeffy- clear skies from here on out
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