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Teniel Djo Registered: Apr '00	Date Posted: 1/7/04 5:17pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	CUBIE_HOLE, It's true that it doesn't have to be a serious relationship. I never said I was expecting him to marry me. I'm just interested in him. However, I don't agree with: As bad as ending some sort of relationship can be, there's not much that can heal it better than a new spark of interest in someone else. If he doesn't seem to be past the previous situation, then, as far as things concerning you go, I would tend to think there's nothing there. When my boyfried broke up with me I was interested in other guys long before I was completely healed. It was a relationship that I wasn't interested in getting into right away, just like him. Of course, I admit I probably have something of a bias considering I would want to hope he'd be interested in me. But it is truthfully my experience that new interest doesn't mean you're over the last person. Space_Man, More wise words. That is usually what I try to convince myself of, that I'm only respecting his wishes by not telling him. And it's good to see someone feels that way about alcohol. I very much agree. -----signature----- "Nous écrivons des choses éternelles."-- le geographe *** "That name no longer has any meaning to me."--Darth Vader
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Connemara Registered: Nov '00	Date Posted: 1/9/04 12:38pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Actually, I do agree with Teniel there. After my first serious relationship, I was pretty messed up in the head. I had a good friend then, that was a guy, and we had a sort of casual interest in each other. I liked him, but I didn't really feel that I liked him that much, and I coudln't imagine it ever going anywhere. We dated on and off a couple times, I just wasn't ready, and I felt that when I was, I probabbly wouldn't be getting into a serious relationship with him. After I broke it off and told him I wanted to be just friends, he backed off completly and gave me space. He was still my friend, but he never tried to be more. He never pressured me, never even brought it up after about 2 weeks after I told him i wasn't interested. Fast forward a few months. I realized I had fallen in love with him. My wounds were sufficiently healed that I could feel strong emotions for someone else, and they had fixed on this guy, he was my friend, he was always there for me, so he was the logical choice for me to turn to. It may work differently for guys, but from my perspective, if he seems to value you as a friend, and you're backing off romantically and focusing on the friendship only, you're setting things up perfectly for romance with him in the future. And worse comes to worse, as long as you keep your cool, you'll always have him as a good friend. -----signature----- @~`~ So you think you can love me and leave me to die? RIP Jeffy- clear skies from here on out
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Space_Man Registered: Aug '03	Date Posted: 1/9/04 5:00pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	It may work differently for guys... While I hesitate to speak on behalf of all male-dom, I will at least recount a similar story: I knew a girl in high school, who started out as a friendly acquaintance, and soon became a good friend. At one point (me in the first year of college, and her in her senior year of H.S.) she expressed that she was interested in something more, and I -- regretfully, in hind-sight -- pretty much turned her down cold, but she persisted in maintaining our friendship, nonetheless. Years went by...we fell out of touch...I finished college, started some masters-level courses...she (it turned-out) joined the Navy...one day, she sent me a letter to check-up on me & see how I was doing. Ironically, in the interim, I had begun to regret the way I had brushed-aside her romantic interest when she had first expressed it, and had come to regret that I hadn't more deeply appreciated the importance of her friendship (by then, I had finally figured out that "love" wasn't all fireworks and raging hormones; it was -- if I wanted something that would last -- something that was more about, well, friendship; about being in love with someone who was just like a "best friend"). I eagerly responded to her letter, and we finally got together, and got re-aquatinted after so many years (we hadn't seen each other in about 4 years). We started to get serious. I eventually asked her to marry me, and we've been together ever since (with one daughter, and another on the way)! -----signature----- Seek first to understand...and then to be understood. ~ Stephen R Covey
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Teniel Djo Registered: Apr '00	Date Posted: 1/9/04 8:03pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large - Date Edited: 1/9/04 8:07pm (1 edits total) Edited By: Teniel Djo
	Actually, I do agree with Teniel there.--Connemara I never tire of hearing that. And that's cool, Space_Man. You rock. Sigh . . . it just gets to me that so much of love seems to be luck. It's something you can't predict or plan for. I'm a person who likes to know what's going to happen and how things will turn out and no matter how much you study you'll never know who will end up being with you for the rest of your life--or if there'll even be anyone! It's this sort of thing that drives me mad. -----signature----- "Nous écrivons des choses éternelles."-- le geographe *** "That name no longer has any meaning to me."--Darth Vader
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DerthNader Registered: Feb '01	Date Posted: 1/9/04 8:26pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	I'm a person who likes to know what's going to happen and how things will turn out and no matter how much you study you'll never know who will end up being with you for the rest of your life--or if there'll even be anyone! Believe me, if it were possible to know how everything would turn out in any given life, half of all problems in the world would instantly be solved!!!! But as for finding someone, depending upon what's supposed to happen for you, it's usually a 50/50 proposition. If you do find someone, then hopefully it will be the kind of person you want. If you never find someone, hopefully you can look upon it as the best thing that could happen to you. -----signature----- Genderfrak.
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GameQuoter Registered: Oct '03	Date Posted: 1/9/04 10:31pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large - Date Edited: 1/9/04 10:36pm (2 edits total) Edited By: GameQuoter

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Handmaiden Registered: Jun '99	Date Posted: 1/9/04 10:39pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	simply awesome. -----signature----- Oh look you earned your wings Are you an angel now Or a vulture? Constantly hovering over Waiting for a big mistake
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GameQuoter Registered: Oct '03	Date Posted: 1/9/04 10:48pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	simply awesome.
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ratmankey Registered: Feb '02	Date Posted: 1/10/04 3:53am Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Best. Sock. Ever. -----signature----- take off every sig
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Connemara Registered: Nov '00	Date Posted: 1/10/04 3:14pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Ok folks, you have the entire JC to goof around in, but not this thread. This thread is for serious contribution to the discussion and counciling of romantic problems. Thank you. Teniel- The thing is, if you knew how everything would work out, it would take the excitement out of life. It might seem nice now, but believe me, if you could see every detail of your life, it wouldn't be worth living any more. THere's always the hope of something just around the corner to look forward to. There's always the expereince gained from the unexpected to educate us. There's beauty in the mysteries of life, and while it is hard for me too, we must cherish these mysteries, and have faith that in time, the answers will be revealed. -----signature----- @~`~ So you think you can love me and leave me to die? RIP Jeffy- clear skies from here on out
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SithMaster12 Registered: Aug '03	Date Posted: 1/10/04 6:05pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Ok, I have been dating this girl for about 2 months and I can't get her to wear any thongs. I personally think they are super hot but she thinks they are too uncomfortable. I have bought some for her from Victoria's Secret but it has been a waste of $$$ because she wants nothing to do with them. Any advice?
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debeautimous Registered: Jan '03	Date Posted: 1/10/04 7:45pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	We have spent all our lives keeping our underwear out of our butt why would we purposely buy something that does that. Couldn't you find something that you both enjoy?? I would rather wear nothing. -----signature----- I am sure an opportunity will present itself - Qui Gon Jinn I love Qui Gon http://boards.theforce.net/Fan_Fiction_Stories--Classic_JC_Board_(Reply-Only)/b10016/10629801/?382 Please read my story!
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Teniel Djo Registered: Apr '00	Date Posted: 1/10/04 10:07pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large - Date Edited: 1/10/04 10:14pm (3 edits total) Edited By: Teniel Djo
	Teniel- The thing is, if you knew how everything would work out, it would take the excitement out of life. It might seem nice now, but believe me, if you could see every detail of your life, it wouldn't be worth living any more.--Connemara You're talking to the girl who commonly asks her sister if a book ends happily before she reads it. Seriously, I know what you're talking about but I really don't think it would be asking too much for me to at least know if I'm gonna have a happy ending. I know that a happy ending is what I make it--blah, blah, blah--but I'd like to know if I'll ever meet someone I'll spend the rest of my life with. I'm not even asking to know who, or even when, really. All I'd really like to know is if it will happen at all. Or if I'll end up living in a house with fifty cats and find myself glaring bitterly at children as they play outside. shudder SithMaster12, I'm gonna have to agree with debeautimous's above stated sentiment. I'd rather where nothing. Any sane girl would rather wear nothing. What's this obsession with having stuff shoved up your girlfriend's butt, anyway? You should feel lucky she wasn't so insulted after you "wasted money" on something she very clearly didn't like, that she chose to cease being your girlfriend. I would have. She's obviously more forgiving than I am. Count your blessings and wear the thongs yourself. Maybe then you'll have a better understanding of her objections. -----signature----- "Nous écrivons des choses éternelles."-- le geographe *** "That name no longer has any meaning to me."--Darth Vader
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ShasaWaterwalker Registered: Oct '03	Date Posted: 1/10/04 10:48pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	I like that idea. Have the guys wear a thong, before they buy one for their lady! -----signature----- Happy Jedi come from California You can kiss an Irishman, but its a Scots man you want to take home. WANTED: A kilted man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rogue 6
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Teniel Djo Registered: Apr '00	Date Posted: 1/11/04 4:18pm Subject: RE: Love/romance advice lounge- no question too small, no question too large
	Yup. Men can't go through childbirth but this they can do. And will, if they are to truly understand. -----signature----- "Nous écrivons des choses éternelles."-- le geographe *** "That name no longer has any meaning to me."--Darth Vader
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