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Jaina_and_Jag
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5/15 8:30pm
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[Weddings] Is marriage really worth it?
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My sister just got engaged in April and her wedding is going to be August 2nd. She finally got her wedding dress this evening, but that's only one small thing to check off the list of things that need to be done for the wedding.
As a bridesmaid, I have to help her with all of this crap and it really makes me wonder if it's worth it. In the long run, is having "the perfect wedding" something that really matters? If you don't have "the perfect wedding" is your marriage doomed?
Please explain this phenomenon to me. I just don't get it. I told my mother that if (IF) I get married, it'll be in Vegas and she'll just get a call saying that I did it. And I am absolutely serious.
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George_Roper
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5/15 8:31pm
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Do gays get to call it a wedding?
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GrandAdmiralStrife
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5/15 8:35pm
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
As a bridesmaid, I have to help her with all of this crap and it really makes me wonder if it's worth it. In the long run, is having "the perfect wedding" something that really matters? If you don't have "the perfect wedding" is your marriage doomed?
Sounds more like you don't want to be a bridesmaid.
It's your sister's wedding; she can have it set up however she wants. If you don't like it, politely tell her you don't want to be her bridesmaid.
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Lady-Brangaine
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5/15 8:38pm
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Marriage = tax write off.
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Jaina_and_Jag
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5/15 8:40pm
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GrandAdmiralStrife posted:
Jaina_and_Jag posted:
As a bridesmaid, I have to help her with all of this crap and it really makes me wonder if it's worth it. In the long run, is having "the perfect wedding" something that really matters? If you don't have "the perfect wedding" is your marriage doomed?
Sounds more like you don't want to be a bridesmaid.
It's your sister's wedding; she can have it set up however she wants. If you don't like it, politely tell her you don't want to be her bridesmaid.
I don't have a problem being a bridesmaid, truly I don't. What I have a problem with is Bridezilla. My sister is crazy. One day she has everything one way and the next she's screaming at you because it's all wrong. She just keep saying that she wants everything to be "perfect."
It just drives me crazy. Do all women get like this when they plan their wedding?
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MASTERPRENN
Title: JCC Man., who jus noticed his own title. You jerk
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5/15 8:51pm
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If I ever have a wedding, I hope it will be a really low-maintenance affair, maybe some friends getting together on a beach or something, for a chill, short ceremony. I don't plan on getting married by an ordained priest, either.
But, really, I'm the male, so if I ever get married, I'll probably have no say in what the wedding is like.
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Darth_Guy
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No, a big wedding doesn't really matter and it seems like a waste of money to me. If I ever got married I'd rather spend it on an awesome honeymoon or down payment on a house or something.
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evil_sockpuppet
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5/15 9:02pm
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
It just drives me crazy. Do all women get like this when they plan their wedding?
No. I was in a very fun, easy-going wedding three years ago as a bridesmaid to one of my best friends. It was really very nice, but still low-key. And she did not turn into Bridezilla. Her mother was much worse. 
MASTERPRENN posted:
But, really, I'm the male, so if I ever get married, I'll probably have no say in what the wedding is like.
This.
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Whitey
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I'll never get married if I even get the option to, so *sigh*
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Maulfly
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5/15 10:00pm
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Pfft... Perfect is over-rated. I did my best to make our wedding day as relaxed as possible...including giving my bridesmaids most of the deciding duties on how they wanted to decorate since they'd be the ones having to clean it all up aftewards. We did the ceremony and reception at the same place (a local dinner theater) and were allowed to bring our own geeky stuff to put on the big screen.
Hubby was especially happy since he got to have pizza at his wedding.
Not everyone can be satisfied with simply ending the day successfully legally bound to the partner of their choice. Some have been planning since they were impressionable youngsters and have an idea of what MUST happen at their wedding. That can turn even the most even-tempered person into a tyrant.
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Lord_Vivec
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I plan on having my wedding at a church. 
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Jabba-wocky
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It doesn't make sense to spend excessively on a wedding, no. On the other hand, these are memorable moments in many people's lives (for understandable reasons), so make sure it's something that you, personally, can be proud of and happy with for the rest of your life. For instance, I knew a couple where the husband proposed while they were watching some of the early coverage of the Clinton impeachment trial and hearing about the details of Monica Lewinsky and the stained dress. Are they still happily married? Yes. On the other hand, is that necessarily the memory they wanted to have associated with spending the rest of their lives together? Eh, not so much. And it wouldn't have taken that much more effort to make it better.
Similarly, don't just run down to the courthouse after coming off of a double-shift from work if you aren't going to be happy about that later on.
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Obi-Zahn Kenobi
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5/15 10:08pm
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Jabba-wocky posted:
Yes. On the other hand, is that necessarily the memory they wanted to have associated with spending the rest of their lives together? Eh, not so much. And it wouldn't have taken that much more effort to make it better.
Have it your way!
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Eleventh_Guard
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5/15 10:11pm
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This is an example of advertising at work. SOMEBODY is getting rich off these "perfect" weddings and it isn't the couple getting married. Rather, it's taught (socially, not necessarily by any individual) that all these frivolous things really matter, thus getting high-dollar business for florists, dressmakers, caterers, etc.
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5/15 10:13pm
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MASTERPRENN posted:
But, really, I'm the male, so if I ever get married, I'll probably have no say in what the wedding is like.
That makes me freakin angry in the pants! >:O There's TWO PEOPLE getting married! TWO! Not one crazy bird dragging some guy to altar! You both have to have a say!
*calm breath*
People go nuts about weddings. One of my bridesmaids did the Bridezilla thing for me. That was really "nice" of her. I didn't get what I wanted because I wasn't pushy enough, however, so you have to make sure that you are both open and easy going about the whole ordeal.
Otherwise ... KABOOM!
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Jabba-wocky
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Obi-Zahn Kenobi posted:
Jabba-wocky posted:
Yes. On the other hand, is that necessarily the memory they wanted to have associated with spending the rest of their lives together? Eh, not so much. And it wouldn't have taken that much more effort to make it better.
Have it your way!
Actually, don't John Edwards and his wife have their anniversary dinner at the Wendy's drive-thru, or something? I seem to recall that being trotted out occasionally along with the "son of a mill worker" bits to prove how blue-collar and real he was.
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