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rumsmuggler
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5/15 10:18pm
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Having a chocolate wedding cake is one a few things that I'd like to have if or when I get married.
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jp-30
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Yeah, great excuse for a party and to surround yourself with people you love and care about. I've been to lots of "perfect" weddings, in that they suited the couple perfectly - but all were very, very different. And my wife and I planned ours together, didn't really trouble the bridal party or parents, we just did what we wanted to do. For us that was way less stressful than trying to ensure people who had been delegated jobs did what we wanted.
Wee had the venue tell us they absolutely couldn't do some of the things we requested (glass of champagne for each guest on arrival, pre-ceremony plus silver service on the parents/grandparents table to help with the grandparents and father-in-law with Parkinsons), but when we queried why they said "we'll need to hire an extra waiter". So we said "well hire and extra ******* waiter then, obviously we'll pay for it".
And so we got what we wanted.
rumsmuggler posted:
Having a chocolate wedding cake is one a few things that I'd like to have if or when I get married.
We had one layer fruitcake, one layer chocolate and one layer gin and lemon.
Yum (though it cost more than my bloody wedding ring.
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ellybeanjay
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5/15 10:41pm
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Your thread title makes very little sense to me - is marriage worth what? Your marriage has very little, if anything, to do with your wedding, so I'm not quite sure why you're asking about marriage.
I had a mid to large sized wedding (a little over 300 invited, just under 200 showing up) and really enjoyed it. For me the wedding was totally worth the stress leading up to it, though I think that I was probably a lower-stress bride (Dani could probably give a less biased view). I really don't think I was bridezillaish, though.
The wedding wasn't perfect, and I didn't expect for it to be. The most special part for me was the fact that we've never had, and will never have, so many people that care about us in one place. So, yeah, that was totally worth it.
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rsterling78
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5/15 10:47pm
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PulsarSkate posted:
MASTERPRENN posted:
But, really, I'm the male, so if I ever get married, I'll probably have no say in what the wedding is like.
That makes me freakin angry in the pants! >:O There's TWO PEOPLE getting married! TWO! Not one crazy bird dragging some guy to altar! You both have to have a say!
I've been married for almost 13 years. Yeah, it's two people getting getting married, but really only one gives much of a damn about the wedding ceremony: the bride. I know I sound like a sexist and I apologize, but this is an excuse for a woman to spend ungodly amounts of money (traditionally her father's) on something that could be done for close to free. It's the same female mindset that says you have to get $75 of slowly decaying vegetation on Valentine's Day.
A woman thinks a diamond ring that costs thousands of dollars is a wonderful gift. Now, give that ring to a guy as a gift. He'll have it on eBay in 20 minutes and use the proceeds to get a motorcycle. You know why? A motorcycle does something useful, a piece of crystalized carbon on a band of metal doesn't.
Women like to spend money and they like to spend money on useless things that have no practical purpose. An elaborate wedding combines these two ideas and injects them with anabolic steroids. Ridiculous, dysfunctional dresses. Expensive cakes that taste no better than a $9.99 cake from Kroger. Music that sounds like a funeral dirge played backward. It's a woman's dream.
As for you guys, here's your unabridged list of wedding day responsibilities:
Show up.
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swgurusgirl
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5/15 10:58pm
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
GrandAdmiralStrife posted:
Jaina_and_Jag posted:
As a bridesmaid, I have to help her with all of this crap and it really makes me wonder if it's worth it. In the long run, is having "the perfect wedding" something that really matters? If you don't have "the perfect wedding" is your marriage doomed?
Sounds more like you don't want to be a bridesmaid.
It's your sister's wedding; she can have it set up however she wants. If you don't like it, politely tell her you don't want to be her bridesmaid.
I don't have a problem being a bridesmaid, truly I don't. What I have a problem with is Bridezilla. My sister is crazy. One day she has everything one way and the next she's screaming at you because it's all wrong. She just keep saying that she wants everything to be "perfect."
It just drives me crazy. Do all women get like this when they plan their wedding?
No... I am planning my wedding and there is no screaming or hair pulling... I want the perfect wedding but I don't think screaming will help me!!!! Ask Tony there is no craziness.... He's helping me plan!!!
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ellybeanjay
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5/15 11:03pm
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My advice to you: stop planning the perfect wedding. Just plan a wedding.
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jp-30
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5/15 11:04pm
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rsterling78 posted:
As for you guys, here's your unabridged list of wedding day responsibilities:
Show up.
Wow.
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ellybeanjay
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rsterling78 posted:
I know I sound like a sexist and I apologize
Saying I apologize and then continuing on to say the exact same things you were saying that required the apology in the first place is kind of silly.
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rumsmuggler
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jp-30 posted:
rsterling78 posted:
As for you guys, here's your unabridged list of wedding day responsibilities:
Show up.
Wow.
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rsterling78
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5/15 11:11pm
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ellybeanjay posted:
rsterling78 posted:
I know I sound like a sexist and I apologize
Saying I apologize and then continuing on to say the exact same things you were saying that required the apology in the first place is kind of silly.
 
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PulsarSkate
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5/15 11:27pm
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sterling: I've only got my own wedding to go by, but I spent my own money, my rings in total cost $240, my dress cost us $80 to make and the boys suits cost more than getting my hair done. I'm pretty sure my husband gave a **** at the time, but I could be wrong. The thing that he was most worried about was 'Is there going to be a big enough tab at the bar'. He was more excite that I was 
The big girly someone else pays for it wedding does sound like fun, but I'm pretty sure that's where the stress comes from?
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ellybeanjay
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5/15 11:29pm
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rsterling78 posted:
ellybeanjay posted:
rsterling78 posted:
I know I sound like a sexist and I apologize
Saying I apologize and then continuing on to say the exact same things you were saying that required the apology in the first place is kind of silly.
 
Your point?
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5/15 11:31pm
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ellybeanjay posted:
...that picture made me choke on my food. 
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Darth_Guy
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5/15 11:32pm
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Don't insult what Carmen's husband wore!
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Darth_Guy posted:
Don't insult what Carmen's husband wore!
Hahaha...my husband wanted something like that 
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