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Sha
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5/16 8:41am
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I'm getting married in six weeks. I had a few things I was adamant about having but have been fairly flexible about the rest, delegating out a lot of responsibility so there's less to worry about. I know there's no such thing as a "perfect wedding" and I fully expect something will go wrong somewhere. If getting these darned invitations together didn't make me turn bridezilla I expect nothing will. And aside from the utterly incomprehensible complicity of invitations, I've had a lot of fun with the planning. So yeah, in my opinion it's been completely worth it.
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Jaina_and_Jag
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ellybeanjay posted:
Your thread title makes very little sense to me - is marriage worth what? Your marriage has very little, if anything, to do with your wedding, so I'm not quite sure why you're asking about marriage.
It was late at night... I'm not really sure where I was going with the title. But it was something along the lines of 'Weddings are stressful. Did you go crazy before marriage?' haha.
And the thing I've noticed about my sister is that she asks for everyone's opinions and help, but when people give their opinions and try to help she freaks out. This wedding started out as a small affair. 75 - 100 people. Now the number's are creepy up toward 300 and my sister refuses to acknowledge that the church and the reception place she chose are entirely too small for 300 guests. I've tried to tell her that maybe they should get bigger venues but she just screams at me about how this is "her wedding."
This is the first wedding I've ever really been involved in (I was in my aunt's but I was only 4 and the flower girl ) and I just hope that the next person that gets married isn't as crazy as my sister.
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I've not been a major planning asset in many weddings(I've only been hit up for advice in two), but the closest thing I've seen to a Bridezilla attack is my cousin Debbie's insistence upon her and her husband wearing Mickey Mouse ears at the reception.
Then again, maybe it's the circles I run in ...
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Girl...you are NOT crazy! The whole "perfect-lifetime-wedding-event" is completely out of control. I just went to my brother's wedding in March where the bride and bridesmaids had professional make-up artists do their make-up and stylists do their hair at the church.
The wedding lasted 30 minutes, but the reception started at 4:00 P.M. and was still going at 9:30 P.M. when we finally gave up and left! It's crazy and it costs thousands and thousands of dollars! 
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My sister's estimate for total cost for the wedding is 14,000 - 17,000. Is that high? haha. I'm not really sure what a lot of money is for a wedding. That seems like a lot to me, but I could be wrong.
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Sha
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O.o
That is a lot of money. But sadly about average for a wedding these days. Mine is probably only going to end up somewhere in the 6000-8000 range.
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I just got engaged earlier this week. We haven't done a whole lot of anything in regards to planning it. We haven't even set a date. We have just been saying that it'll be in the next couple of years. I don't want a high cost fancy wedding. I'll be fine with going to the Justice of Peace and doing it that way, then inviting friends and family somewhere to celebrate.
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Weddings have to be perfect. If anything goes wrong, the results can be disastrous.
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Quixotic-Sith posted:
Weddings have to be perfect. If anything goes wrong, the results can be disastrous.
I thought he was a virgin birth.
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
My sister just got engaged in April and her wedding is going to be August 2nd. She finally got her wedding dress this evening, but that's only one small thing to check off the list of things that need to be done for the wedding.
As a bridesmaid, I have to help her with all of this crap and it really makes me wonder if it's worth it. In the long run, is having "the perfect wedding" something that really matters? If you don't have "the perfect wedding" is your marriage doomed?
Please explain this phenomenon to me. I just don't get it. I told my mother that if (IF) I get married, it'll be in Vegas and she'll just get a call saying that I did it. And I am absolutely serious.
Since you asked I will make my case. If/when you get married, it is totally worth it.
My wife is not your typical Bride Magazine, etc. type girl who you would think would be all into that kind of thing but our wedding was the funnest day of our lives.
The key is to try and make it that perfect experience (everything you want) WITHOUT letting anything that goes wrong/falls short bother you.
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Jedi_Hood
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No, it's not worth it.
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I'm getting married in four weeks.
We're having a simple, traditional wedding ceremony at a church with close family and friends, and a simple lunch at the church afterwards. I let my 2 bridesmaids pick out what they wanted to wear in the color I chose, and I paid for it. Ladies from the church will help us set things up and clean things up. Afterwards, my fiance and I are going to a bed and breakfast.
At most, the entire thing will cost 3500 dollars, and my bridesmaids have repeatedly asked me if they need to be doing anything--but honestly, they don't. All I want is for everyone to show up, be happy, and have a good time.
I hope it will be as calm and simple as I have planned it to be.
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
My sister's estimate for total cost for the wedding is 14,000 - 17,000. Is that high? haha. I'm not really sure what a lot of money is for a wedding. That seems like a lot to me, but I could be wrong.
That's about right. Of course, money does not = a great wedding but we wanted certain things and it does add up. Our bill for the reception alone was $10k. Then you add the photographer, flowers, DJ, etc.
Again though, it's about what you want your wedding to be.
The perfect wedding is whatever you want it to be. Ours was exactly what we wanted. We went for elegant and fun. The reception wrapped up at 4:00am 
Man, just talking about this is making me feel all nostalgic.
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PulsarSkate posted:
... I didn't get what I wanted because I wasn't pushy enough, ...
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Jaina_and_Jag posted:
My sister's estimate for total cost for the wedding is 14,000 - 17,000. Is that high? haha. I'm not really sure what a lot of money is for a wedding. That seems like a lot to me, but I could be wrong.
That's about right. Of course, money does not = a great wedding but we wanted certain things and it does add up. Our bill for the reception alone was $10k. Then you add the photographer, flowers, DJ, etc.
Again though, it's about what you want your wedding to be.
The perfect wedding is whatever you want it to be. Ours was exactly what we wanted. We went for elegant and fun. The reception wrapped up at 4:00am
Man, just talking about this is making me feel all nostalgic.
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