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[Infidelity], Which is worse: Kissing or sex, or are both equally bad?
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soitscometothis
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Jul '03
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Date Posted:
6/10 4:13pm
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RE: [Infidelity], Which is worse: Kissing or sex, or are both equally bad?
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Sex is worse, simply because there are greater consequences in terms of disease and pregnancy.
Quix, if she has told the other man that they are in a monogamous relationship, then she is cheating. If she is lying to him about where she is and what she is doing when she is with you, I don't see how you could see it any other way. Unless they are in an open relationship.
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Healer_Leona
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6/10 4:17pm
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Jedi_Hood posted:
ophelia posted:
And Quix, if you knew this woman first, I think that you are the man, and the other man is the other man. I mean, there's only so far "I saw her first" will get you, but if she's not fully committing herself in either direction, I'd say that you have seniority.
Again, QFT. Seems like too many people these days have that "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" mentality. Damn disloyal, if you ask me.
Not really all that surprising in our instant gratification world we live in. It takes work to maintain a relationship.
As to the topic, the betrayal of either is painful, but I find kissing less damaging then sex.
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Ambassador Cara Jade
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6/10 4:21pm
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imperial_dork posted:
The breach of trust is the worst, regardless of the physical act.
This.
Really though, I'd say that they're about equal. If your significant other is doing either with someone else, it's cause for concern.
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VadersLaMent
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6/10 4:22pm
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Quixotic-Sith posted:
I'm not sure how to answer this, considering I am, at the moment, "the other man" in a relationship of this type. In my case, I've known this woman for seven years, we've had our on-again/off-again periods, we're talking about our long-term options (dating, marriage, kids, location, jobs, etc., etc.), and she's currently in a relationship with someone she's known for about two years (with whom she shares less interests, no long term plans, etc.). Long and convoluted story (suffice it to say, we date, break up, date other people, get back together after realizing that we work better together, lather, rinse, repeat over the past few years). We hooked up on Friday afternoon, met by accident today (kinda - she hunted me down), and do all of the above in the thread title.
So is this infidelity?
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Jedi_Hood
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6/10 4:24pm
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Healer_Leona posted:
Not really all that surprising in our instant gratification world we live in. It takes work to maintain a relationship.
Exactly. Too many people are ready to bail on the other person at the first sign of difficulty.
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jp-30
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6/10 4:29pm
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Sex (which always comes with kissing) is way worse of an act than kissing alone.
Either way though it is a break of trust.
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Eleventh_Guard
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6/10 4:33pm
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I agree that it depends on the situation. I'm not a fan of enforced monogamy and wouldn't be likely to tell any boyfriend of mine that he can't sleep with other people - I'm willing to share, as long as everyone's being honest. But assuming that this wasn't the case, or there was lying going on - sex or kissing, it's about the same. The question is whether it was a stupid one-time mistake (likely forgivable if it's the first time it happened) or an ongoing relationship on the sly (goodbye).
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Go-Mer-Tonic
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6/10 4:37pm
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Vortigern99 posted:
Go-Mer-Tonic posted:
Nothing is worse than marriage itself.
If we wouldn't make promises we couldn't keep, there wouldn't be any infidelity.
Good lord. As a happily married man (who recognizes the reality and inevitability of extramarital attraction, but not necessarily infidelity), I must wholly disagree with the above sentiment.
I wish you the best, but it's against nature.
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Vortigern99
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6/10 4:40pm
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Maybe you're against nature, didja ever think of that? Huh? Didja? Well, how 'bout it?
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Kyle Katarn
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PrincessChattyCathy posted:
You can have sex without kissing? What fun is that?
Sometimes you're in a bit of a hurry to get the act done, get her paid and get out of Tijuana before it gets dark and the banditos roam the area, because man, sometimes those banditos can be a bit - unsavory...
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Jedi_Hood
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6/10 4:40pm
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Go-Mer-Tonic posted:
I wish you the best, but it's against nature.
Though I don't entirely disagree with your skepticism of marriage (in large part due to what I said earlier in the thread), it should be pointed out that civilization is against nature.
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Go-Mer-Tonic
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6/10 4:46pm
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See now -you- get where I'm coming from.
Civilization is primarily an enslavement tool used by the man.
Society, religion, marriage, it's all there to keep us isolated and powerless against the status quo.
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Jedi_Hood
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6/10 4:52pm
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I'm sorry, but once you said "the man", I couldn't take you seriously anymore.
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Suzuki_Akira
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6/10 4:53pm
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Eleventh_Guard posted:
wouldn't be likely to tell any boyfriend of mine that he can't sleep with other people - I'm willing to share, as long as everyone's being honest.
EDIT: It appears that you are a dude.
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Go-Mer-Tonic
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6/10 5:01pm
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Jedi_Hood posted:
I'm sorry, but once you said "the man", I couldn't take you seriously anymore.
That's okay, your response was pre-conditioned by the man.
It's not your fault.
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