Who can joke, who can’t?

sigh... I was trying to avoid this, but okay. The staff member I went to was an admin.... our current head admin actually (he was just an admin back then, though). When an admin says "no," then what?

 

It wasn't a specific post that could have been reported. I went to him and asked him to talk to Ender because he was severely stressing me out.

 

Frieda, he was breaking rules.... he was doing the exact same thing he did to get banned this time. You're reading all sorts of things in my posts that I'm not saying. Quite frankly, the dismissive attitude you're displaying right now is not a good look.

 

He makes some amusing remarks, but he has a nasty habit of singling people out. He did that to me quite a lot in 2014, and if anyone remembers (hopefully not) 2014 was a pretty rough year for me. Consequently, I did post excessively and make idiotic remarks. I mean, I still do, but not to that extent. During that time, several people reached out to me on here, via PM with wonderfully thought out condolences but also comments along the lines of "it's his shtick, he goes after everyone" and "maybe put him on ignore". While I'm still very grateful that I received those PM's, I never agreed with those suggestions and still don't. I'm not going to laugh with someone because their, frankly, toxic behavior is "part of their shtick" and I'm not going to ignore the behavior either because it makes me feel bad. Maybe I should have been more assertive. Maybe I'm overly sensitive. Who knows.

It's just troubling that that's the common reaction towards his behavior is that it's "his shtick, put him on ignore". I hope something is done about this, but it's a messy situation.

 

Yeah... I was told,

"I know, and I'm not telling you to avoid it fully
Maybe you could go crazy with the ignore function?
Not saying any of this is your fault, okay? At all. Ender is an ass."


But anyway..... I think I've talked about this enough. I'm glad that discussion is happening, and hope that something will actually be done about it

 

And? what did you come up with?

 

Ender has to change his profile picture

 

I wasn't really asking about Ender, though... we were told there was a policy discussion going on, and then we were told the discussion was "mostly concluded, and everything handled." That's what I was asking about.

 

Awesome... thanks.

 

i just read the thread and the entire thing is very specifically about ender, so this is kind of amusing. anyway i guess i'll be the one voice to say that i hope ender isn't permbanned. getting rid of double standards and no longer tolerating bullying or offensive behavior are obviously the right things to do. but ender should at least be given a chance to post to this new standard imo. obviously you guys can do what you want, and i don't know if he's even permbanned, but it just seems unfair to tacitly condone, or at worst mildly punish the same behavior and worse for years upon years, then suddenly ban him forever and afterwards say "oh yeah we decided that's the new policy".

 

To be fair, I reply to all and every board-related questions on my personal FB and Twitter (and most of the time on any related groups) with creative variations of "no, **** you and leave me alone" because you all should know better than hound me on social media about the Jedi effin' Council. What's next? Following me into clubs yelling about the profanity filter? Texting me to complain about post edits? Wait, that last one happened already!

Let this be a lesson. Keep your e-lives separate, kids. Draw the line yourselves, because other people won't.

 

Personally, I’m pleased with this consensus. It makes me think of a situation a few years back when pictures from my wedding were posted by someone who was not there without permission from myself or my husband. Although others have been banned for posting pictures without permission, she was just warned because that is just how she is. A poor excuse for bad behavior, imo.

 

Was that me? It feels like something I would do.

 

I actually agree with this. He should be given a chance to change his behavior. We'll see if he actually can/does, though.

 

So, how many chances does a person get after near a decade of said bad behavior? 1,000? Ender directly insulted me several times and after the Report button failed to get results I insulted him back and got banned inside of a minute. He got off. Didn't even get edited. I complained up a storm and finally, I feel very reluctantly, someone said something to him and he sort of backed off. But it never really stopped, and I am certainly not the only one this has happened to and certainly not the only one who has complained. For. A. Decade.

So, finally everyone will be treated the same? I guess that's a step. I didn't think JCC relaxed rules meant open season for some to break the TOS and not others. 10 years.

 

so...

users: Administration! do something about said user!

*administration does something about said user*

same users: you shouldn't have done that!

 

I don't think anybody said anything like that, dude.

 

Fair enough.

Seems to me though that it's one of those situations that TPTB are stuck between a rock and a hard place. And whatever outcome they have decided or yet to decide will not please everybody.

You also have to keep in mind (which nobody has commented on) that said user is an ex-mod. He should know the rules inside out, especially when it comes to bullying, etc.

But since this thread states that individual banned users cannot be discussed here, that's all my input on the matter.

 

I mean, doesn't it say something that so many people have had so many issues with this person for such a long period with this being true? Shouldn't a former moderator know to act better?