It is offensive to many women, and those women probably think that band is demeaning themselves and women in general. There certainly are women who tell other women not to demean themselves in such a way, as they believe it demeans all women. Many of them undoubtedly think we should get rid of that term. Some progress has been made; the word is not used as often as it was even 20 or 30 years ago, including by women. Still, men who refer to women as chicks face more social backlash than women do (like the difference between white and black people using the n-word). I'm pretty sure that referring to women as chicks, while demeaning, was not so oppressive, so painful, and so harmful that its continued use causes the same sort of unbridled fury that has resulted in riots, statues being taken down, or the social taboo around white people using the n-word. The history isn't quite the same. There are degrees of offense. Some offensive things hurt more than others. There is more anger toward some offenses than others. Chicks hasn't caused enough anger to inspire an overwhelming urge to "get rid of" the term completely. The anger just isn't there in sufficient quantity, among a sufficient number of people. Regardless of what should be, there is what is. Words are more offensive when coming from some people than others. Your family and friends can say things to you that strangers cannot. Everyone has to pay attention to social cues and educate themselves. With the tiniest bit of social awareness, they'll notice that certain groups of people can say things that others cannot. The reasons why don't really matter as much as you seem to think. Sometimes rules are just rules and that's enough. There really aren't any white people who don't understand that it is not okay for them to use the n-word. This sort of social etiquette is everywhere in society, it's not solely the realm of identity politics. It's not merely "political correctness". As I said above, there are certain things family members can say to each other that outsiders cannot. Well, white Americans enslaved black people for centuries, not allowing them any kind of freedom. Then, even after slavery was abolished, black people were violently controlled for another century. Maybe after all that, we're not comfortable telling black people what they can say, after controlling them so totally and violently. Maybe it's another form of oppression. And, maybe, some black people feel something positive, perhaps even some power or pleasure, in having the liberty to say a word white people cannot. I don't think they're taking too much liberty. TL, DR: This is all just basic group dynamics. Those within a group receive more good will, camaraderie, tolerance, and lenience than those outside it. Those outside the group face tighter boundaries, and harsher consequences for crossing them. This is particularly true between groups who have a history of conflict, animosity, rivalry, and violence. White people and black people, and men and women, have such a history.