Senate Mental Health Support Thread

It's 8PM here, and the day's over (French, and I start rather early... )

Turns out it's the night that's going to be a bother. I was numb yesterday; tonight, I'm processing.

 

So how long was it before you actually knew of your own diagnosis?

 

18 years plus change.

 

No way around it, that would **** me up. I would feel deceived. Really hope you take all the time you need to process this.

 

Hmm I was going to say by maybe giving him your last name as well, but that wouldn’t work really as then he could track you back.

 

I have recently received good medical news that has considerably improved my feeling of overall well-being, particularly after more than six months of constant pain and worrying about major injuries.
I'd had a particularly bad shoulder injury for a while now, and had already received a referral to see a physical therapy specialist before the pandemic hit. Needless to say, the appointment had to be rescheduled until further notice, and a few months went by when I was still in constant pain and also worried constantly about the possibility of a very serious injury which might require surgery or other types of extensive treatment.
After talking to the doctor, she has tentatively diagnosed it as a minor rotator cuff tear, and one that should most likely not need any surgery or extensive treatment. She thinks that with a bit of care it could be healed in 3 months or so.
This has been a great relief and takes a huge weight off my mind because as much as I tried to avoid catastrophizing the situation, it became very hard after the pandemic and related lockdowns just went on and on. At least now I know what I need to take care of the physical problem.
I have heard from a few friends offline who have experienced similar things, getting something like an injury or other physical problem which couldn't be immediately diagnosed or looked after and having a lot of medical health care facilities not being able to see patients quickly, many of them expressed it had resulted in a great deal of stress and anxiety even though there was a chance none of these problems might be as serious as they feared they might be.
I also walked 12,000 steps this morning, which also helped a lot.

 

I always find walking helps me back when I had severe anxiety in late 2019 are used to walk around 20,000 steps because of how anxious I was. Good exercise though

 

Oh I think it's a wonderful exercise, for me it's always been one of my favourites. And right now going to the gym isn't really an option that I feel safe with personally, so walking feels great.
Before the pandemic I was averaging at least one hour a day on the elliptical, and it really made a huge difference with stress and anxieties and all of that.
I really hope I'll feel it's safe to go back to the gym one of those days, tho.

 

I agree about the walking/running @Jedi Knight Fett
I hope you’re doing better emotionally

@Princess_Tina

I also wish I had access to the gym, I like to go when I have the chance
Glad to hear things are going well though and sorry you went through what you did

 

Thank you for the support - and for all the hugs

 

Well, as mentioned, I'd known for a while there was something big I hadn't been told, but I hadn't expected that one...

Being a bit obsessive ( ) I checked out why I'd have fit the diagnosis. I do seem to fit its picture remarkably well - and there's overlap with Asperger's.

The part that's going to take some getting past, though, is all the references and drops in conversations about that ("t'es schizo" - "you're a schizo" is something I heard uncomfortably often but thought did not have a deeper meaning...)

 

Wait are you saying you just NOW heard this diagnosis for the first time? **** I thought you meant you had already known for a bit.

 

I can relate to some extent @Lordban - I was severely misdiagnosed when I was in college and it cost me going for many years without an accurate diagnosis. It was an awful thing to have to deal with but I can't imagine how I would feel if I'd had a close loved relative conceal things from me pertaining my medical information.

 

His family kept it from him. ****ing unbelievable.

 

I got that, I just thought maybe he independently got that diagnosis before this.

So sorry man....that's such a ****ed up way to find out you have a mental health diagnosis. You gonna talk about this with a professional?

 

I'm going to have to. Two reasons. One, that diagnosis is 18 years old (yay, it can drive!), and the Asperger's diagnosis is a lot more recent (2015); I'd really like a consistent picture. Two, how the hell do I adress that with regards to my family? Plus, some of that is going to stay unresolved, my father took the secret to his funeral urn >_<

 

I had a job interview today, and some shrinks from my shrink's practice came out to tell me how nice I looked and wish me luck. I live in their parking lot and they want me out*, lol. As @Darth Punk said, "Once a deadhead, always a deadhead."

I totally nailed the interview. I'll be really surprised if I don't get the job. I will know, either way, next week. I have a job, but this one is better, and I want it.

* When I say, "They want me out...", what I mean is, these people are some of my strongest supporters.

 

So.glad to hear the interview went well. I know a more stable job would suit you better. You continue to amaze me harps.

And Lordban... Do keep in mind that Aspergers is a neurodifference, not a mental health issue. So it's certainly possible for your diagnoses to interact, but it's also possible they are two wholly different things.

 

Good news. Here's hoping it leads into great news.

Yep. And it's certainly not something that's going to get sorted out without a specialist.

 

My partner hasn’t returned since storming out on Sunday night. He’s ignored my messages of reconciliation. I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that he may be gone for good. And I’m surprisingly okay with that. I’ve given him everything I could. I’ve made efforts to improve myself and to change the aspects of myself that he found annoying. I’ve put in the work to change and grow into a better person. If he is in fact gone for good and our relationship is over, I can look back on it without regret, knowing that I did everything within my power to make it work.

 

Not liking this for the separation, obviously, but for the attitude and for taking care of yourself, after doing all you could.

 

Props to you @Vialco
I know that losing relationships is hard, but you had a life before him and you can continue to built it after him.

At least I hope you feel good about yourself as an individual. And if you still want reconciliation, nothing wrong with that either. I wish you the best of luck with either way.

 

That is always excellent advice @Emperor Ferus - I couldn't have said it better myself. Hope you, too, are doing well and please tell us if you need any support, I just hope things are getting better in your area with all those evacuations and that wildfire season will be over soon.

 

I'm honestly confused. I don't want to spill my guts about what what happened. What you folks are experiencing is more serious.

Sadly, my Eponym and I were exploited by someone. This person was judging me for my androphobia and being lesbophobic toward me. It has been hurtful, and I don't know how to process it. She called me a man. And just to be clear, I'm not androphobic toward any men on this site. You guys treat me better than men in Texas ever did. But this person was very hurtful and transphobic toward me. At any rate, my Eponym has been helpful to me. She's wearing glasses and going to take me to see Mulan at a friend's house here in Eugene. Don't worry. The person who was hurtful toward me lives in the Northeast. It's just so hurtful to be called a man by cis lesbians. I don't take it personally. I know they don't know any better and they don't know we're girls. But it's something that I've wept all my life about. I'm considered nice because I listen to girls when they complain about their boyfriends and husbands. But too few ladies understand I'm a girl outside of my alumni association. This person is, like, 27 or 28. I don't even know if their name was real, or if they were a man impersonating a female cis woman. It matters not. But they were judging me and calling me a man. I'm glad I have my parents, my Eponym, and my friends from college. And I'm grateful to you folks here on the JCF for being kind to me. I come off with a rough exterior because I'm guarded, and yet I'm impenetrable sometimes. It's just so hard to be a lesbian who's shunned by cis lesbians who don't see how I'm like them. They have cis privilege I never could have. I don't judge the gay girls I met in college who married men. I'm happy for them. I truly am. But my Eponym basically has to save me from being sad, and I'd never get ultra-depressed or anything. But even she has to do what my parents, who are now 81 and 73, never could. She is not maternal toward me. She's just a nice dork with an associate's degree who's nice to a lonely lady with a bachelor's (i.e. me), and I appreciate her shielding me from a world that lacks empathy for my experience.

And I'm sorry to anybody on the JCF if I seemed like I wanted to label the whole world bi or pan or straight or anything. None of that. I just feel like lesbians are neglected, and trans lesbians have hte worst. That's why I prefer being celibate and protected by this lady who's 8 years younger than a 34-year-old b like me.

 

It's not a competition, you know You've got very legitimate reasons to hurt, and there's nothing wrong in talking about them - that's the whole point of this thread. And you've found an admirable person to be your anchor, from what I gather.