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JCC new best friends club thread

Discussion in 'Community' started by tom, Dec 15, 2014.

  1. SuperWatto

    SuperWatto Manager Emeritus star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    I'm slow. I'm only starting to understand now.

    So you said to your daughter "you don't have to wear that", and then somebody who's not her parent basically said "ignore your mother, wear it"?

    I can't even imagine.

    Maybe you did become too friendly with them then. Give them the cold shoulder for a while.
     
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  2. harpua

    harpua Chosen One star 9

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    If you are getting all the feedback, they are cave people. Mike needs to step up have a talk with his fam.
     
  3. A Chorus of Disapproval

    A Chorus of Disapproval TV Screaming Service / FFS! star 9 Staff Member Manager

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    Thanksgiving is coming. It's a splendid opportunity to give in-laws food poisoning.
     
  4. solojones

    solojones Chosen One star 10

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    This year I don't have to see hardly anyone at the holidays due to COVID. Silver Linings.
     
  5. DarthTunick

    DarthTunick Game Host - SfC Part VI BOFF star 10 VIP - Game Host

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    Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, so I’ll be incredibly bummed that it won’t be the same this year. The silver lining for me is that my JC anniversary falls on that date, so there’s that. :p
     
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  6. JediYvette

    JediYvette Pacific RSA emeritus star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    I meant to talk to Mike about it last night but fell asleep before I could. Here’s to trying again. I’ll have to at least explain why I am not interested in multiple visits a week anymore.

    Edit: I forgot about thanksgiving. I’ve been so focused on Christmas. I’ll make turkey my upcoming happy thought.
     
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  7. Princess_Tina

    Princess_Tina Chosen One star 7

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    You'll definitely have good cause to celebrate then! [face_party]
     
  8. Diggy

    Diggy Force Ghost star 8

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    Really, he should tell them to back off.
     
  9. JoinTheSchwarz

    JoinTheSchwarz JC Head Admin & Community Manager star 9 Staff Member Administrator

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    The only milestone you should worry about is the Moro reflex one. Bunch of garbage.

    Agree with everyone. Get Mike involved.
     
  10. A Chorus of Disapproval

    A Chorus of Disapproval TV Screaming Service / FFS! star 9 Staff Member Manager

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    Thank you! It is the most logical course.
     
  11. Diggy

    Diggy Force Ghost star 8

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    The milestone thing is perplexing to me. It’s such a “now” concept, and yet so Victorian.

    Yvette, I bet you’re an extremely nurturing, loving parent. You aren’t raising a brat at all, you’re raising someone who will know they are loved and springboard off of that. These in laws seem to want you to be a control freak. That will not end well.

    it’s also none of their business.
     
  12. epic

    epic Ex Mod star 8 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    also, multiple visits to/from the in laws a week? that sounds a tad overbearing.
     
  13. harpua

    harpua Chosen One star 9

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    Do they show up unannounced? They sound like people who do that.
     
  14. A Chorus of Disapproval

    A Chorus of Disapproval TV Screaming Service / FFS! star 9 Staff Member Manager

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    Do they hunt the poor for sport?

    Because they also sound like people who would do that.
     
  15. Diggy

    Diggy Force Ghost star 8

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    They just sound like typically overbearing, always have to be right, Australians to me.

    Ender @};-
     
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  16. PymParticles

    PymParticles Manager Emeritus star 5 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    You know your kid, while your in-laws only know their own standards and norms, which have absolutely nothing to do with you or your child, and by all rights sound outdated and actively harmful. In this case, mom really does know best, and your in-laws can go get bent if they have a problem with it. Worst case scenario, the wildlife in Australia is large and scary, and always in search of older, slow-moving snacks.

    You mustn't look at it as "hunting the poor for sport." They're giving the impoverished the opportunity to rise above their peers by not being hunted first. Would you deny the proletariat their upward mobility? Checkmate.
     
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  17. JediYvette

    JediYvette Pacific RSA emeritus star 7 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    I super appreciate the thoughts and support, guys. You are the best, my besties. [face_love]

    Wish my luck with the awkward conversations!
     
  18. Princess_Tina

    Princess_Tina Chosen One star 7

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    Best of luck, Yvette!
     
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  19. harpua

    harpua Chosen One star 9

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    Standing up for yourself is not mean. Take some of that niceness and direct it at yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect.
     
  20. epic

    epic Ex Mod star 8 VIP - Former Mod/RSA

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    and parenting is a partnership, if they're only directing criticism at you, that's a problem; if mike doesn't see this happening himself or is somehow not wanting to get involved or stand up to his parents, that's also a problem. you should stand up for yourself definitely, but you shoudn't be having to deal with this, or them, yourself.
     
  21. Jedi Ben

    Jedi Ben Chosen One star 8

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    I'm limited on this as not a parent and as a kid my development was all over the place.

    In-laws are tricky relationships to manage.
     
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  22. A Chorus of Disapproval

    A Chorus of Disapproval TV Screaming Service / FFS! star 9 Staff Member Manager

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    It's not as difficult as some think.

    The next time they visit, open the door and sprinkle them with holy water while muttering some Latin. If they pass that test, invite them in and press a crucifix against their foreheads. Only before the third test do you blatantly tell them that, for the safety of your family, they have to pass several more tests proving they are not demons. Prior to the third test is also the appropriate time to take their coats and ask if they would like something to drink.

    Inform them that you feel you have little choice but to do this every time they call and you will see them far less.
     
  23. Jedi Ben

    Jedi Ben Chosen One star 8

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  24. harpua

    harpua Chosen One star 9

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    Cross.posted from the mental health thread.

    Big ****ing day... I submitted my applications for an apartment and two grants this morning. I could be housed as soon as the first, if all goes as planned. I need this to happen (and I think it will).
     
  25. CairnsTony

    CairnsTony Force Ghost star 4

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    Best of luck! =D=
     
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