JCC P E O P L E Interviews, Issue LXXIX: harpua, part IV

Well, that was quick—I didn’t think we’d be back so soon, but here we are!

Kristie and I got to catching up earlier this week and eventually we just sort of decided to make it another interview! She’s been going through a rough time and she had a lot to share with all of us. We conducted our third interview almost twelve years ago, and a lot has changed and happened since then, in Kristie’s life, in the JC, and in the world.

Read on and remember.

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How are you?

Things are... interesting. I've been homeless for the last year. I'm close to not being homeless anymore, but for the time being, yeah... living in a Honda.

I’ve read your updates in some of the threads, particularly your horrible experience with Amazon. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have gone through what you’ve been through—but I’m glad it sounds like there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you in Colorado? I read that you were on the east coast at one point...

yeah, i moved to Virginia for a year. I loved it there, but it didn't work out. My depression was really bad at that point, and i just couldn't pull it together. Really, it all.started to go downhill in 2012, when i broke my leg. it's been a long downward spiral since then. really working on turning all of that around, though.

Don’t forget to give yourself lots of TLC! What’s your plan?

My plan is to do what I've been doing, working and looking for a place. I'll be okay.

Did we really do Part III all the way back in 2008? Holy ****

yes, my first was in 2006... that's nuts.

Wish that Crem interview happened. He's so shy.

I was trying too hard—it was probably painful for him.

Actually, Watto and I both attempted to interview each other a couple years ago and we just ended up irritating ourselves

lol Watto is a rare breed (in a good way). He's easily annoyed. It must be a Holland thing. Debo is the same.

I asked him if he ever wanted to throttle a customer, and he said, “No, I’m not violent, are you?” Very literal, lol...

[harps and I gossiped here—we talked about everyone, including YOU. And then we talked about Tina, and harps remembered how Rae used to be her nemesis. And then she mentioned that she stayed at Rae’s house]

My son and I slept at her house, last year.

Oh I remember you and Rae, lol, I haven’t forgotten. What was it like at her house? There was no crazy bat flying around I hope

Chief's stuff on tjr walls, game consols, and a puppy. Typical bachelor pad. In all seriousness, it's a nice house. She fed us pizza and "pop" (as she calls it), and fed me a muscle relaxer that knocked my ass out ( I have two rods and four screws in my lower back, so after 10 hrs of driving I was in pain).

Jesus, just reading that sounds painful... two rods and four screws? What are they for?

I was in a car accident in 2014. A lady who was texting at the time rear ended me going really fast. ****ed up my back for life.

Were you able to sue her ass off

her insurance company, yes.
I got fifty grand. I bought my car (first time I've ever paid for a car in full, in cash). My son and I took a drip to Washington DC (he's really into history), then moved to my hometown, Pueblo, CO, to "start over." I paid for a two year lease in cash, up front. I gave it a good try for two years, but Pueblo is a ****hole, where jobs are really hard to come by. We ended up moving to Virginia, where Brian and Chelsea Souder helped me with an apartment, so I could get on my feet. Honestly, I think it was my depression and anxiety that did me in, in VA. It got so bad, I couldn't really function on anything else.


Is it just me or has the JCC gotten closer than ever in the last couple years, especially these last several months?

Yeah, it's nice. Don't quote me on this, but it's since Ender was ousted.

I've been focused a lot on my mental health (well, illness and health), for the last several years. I've lived with depression and anxiety for decades, and was just recently diagnosed with adhd. I've been in therapy since 2011, I'm on therapist number 9 now. I've been taking various medication since 2014. I think I finally found the right combination. Hopefully the adhd treatment will fit in well.

I’m glad you’ve focused on mental health—it’s so incredibly important, as I’ve discovered myself in the last couple years. I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and prescribed with Lexapro. I’ve felt so much better in the last year, and especially in the last several months.

But it’s ridiculous and dismaying how little attention mental health gets in mainstream media.

Were you hyper as a kid?

No, not really. I've never been hyper. I just have a super short attention span

Going back to Ender, can you imagine how unbearable the JCC would’ve been if he’d been around during COVID?

Ender and I have a really complicated relationship. In the past, like 2007/8, we frequently chatted off boards, and were actual friends. Then Endergate happened, and he took off for four years. When he returned he was different, angrier. I was also different, around that time. I had been in therapy for around a year and was starting to explore trauma, etc, so I wasn't in the best place, either. He and I are a lot alike, in some ways, and polar opposite, in others. His "ragging on murica" thread exists because I suggested he make it, we have a history. We started getting on each others' nerves with more frequency. Then, in his ragging thread, he was talking about fat Muricans. There had just been a UK JCC meetup that he attended and pictures were posted. I not-so-jokingly suggested that, being he, himself is a fatass, he probably shouldn't be pointing fingers. That was pretty much it, for us. I got him directly in the ego, and he couldn't deal. We were pretty much frenemies after that. I don't think he and I will ever actually hate each other, but we're like two beta fish. We will kill each other, if we are allowed to.

Oh my god that’s epic

I’m blanking on Endergate, though... was that the whole genocide thing?

Honestly, after all these years, I still don't know wtf that was all about. Senate drama, I think.

Nicest thing anybody's ever said to me.

Where has he gone? I miss his shtick

He got 'Permananned," but not really. He trolled Bazinga'd relentlessly, and eventually got banned for it. He can come back, but he has to agree to stop trolling him, and that will never ****ing happen, so stalemate.

Who would be amongst the content evacuated by a JCC enema? lol

oh man... I would say Tino, without a doubt, but when I think "enema" (and I do... often) I think of severe constipation, and Tino is more like diarrhea, so it doesn't fit. Honestly, I think the "Great JCC Enema" happened when Ender was banned... an Enderma. Then there was wannasee... he got enema'd too.

In all seriousness, I don't think anybody needs to go anymore. The boneheads make this place interesting sometimes. I mean, where would we be as a community without the amazing thread by the guy whose sister found out about his furry porn habit?

https://boards.theforce.net/threads/sister-found-out-about-my-porn-habits.31546810/

The JCC needs idiots. wtf would we do without them?

I mean...

"there a huge problem many charity that are said to shelter the homeless and help children are not what they appear. i'm first going to list the charitable organizations that are created by satanist and then some stuff that the satanic church does then some of the evil stuff that these charitys do. and then what there doing why there doing and then extra disgusting thing that are being done or have been done. this is not a conspiracy everything i am saying is fact."

Come on...

and don't forget OZK's foreskin... we as a community endured that trauma together, and we're stronger because of it. <3


List all the ways you are the nicest!

no u

Oh that’s right Frieda’s the nicest!

Seriously, though. "harpua" is not 100% who I am. I'm actually pretty sentimental and sensitive. I don't know why we feel the need to present as 'tough guys' online, but it's definitely a thing, and one that I am guilty of.

I'm a mom. being a mom has changed me (for the better). My son is about to turn 18. That's ****ing crazy, to me.

As for listing things, I really don't know how to do that.

Ah, I won’t give you a bullet journal for Christmas then

It’s the “nice” people who you have to watch out for, isn’t it?

I can’t believe your son is 18... I think I remember you talking about him in your first interview. Was his name... Jaden?

Yes, Jaiden. He's an amazing guy... crazy intelligent. We actually found out (though I had suspected) that he is high functioning autistic. The diagnosis doesn't change much, he's the same guy he's always been, but it does explain a few things. Here's a picture.



What has this whole journey been like, being a mother, how that’s changed you?

Being a mom... geez, I can't even begin to describe that. It's primal, that's the best way I can explain it. As for how it's changed me, I can't say right now, because I'm still in the middle of it. I'm still changing, and he and I are dealing with the biggest change we ever have, living separately. We've always been together. This last year alone has changed who I am, at the core. It's humbling to be in this situation (homeless, I mean). I've learned how to maintain dignity while being in a ****** situation. I'm approaching a year of this. I went into the hospital last September 1, because I was suicidal. After I got out is when this whole journey started. One thing I will say about my son, he has never once lost faith in me, during all of this, and that is incredible, to me.

Are you stronger because of him?

I've always been strong, but he has helped me to discover aspects and strengths that I was previously unaware of, for sure.


Whatever happened to the Team Creepy gif? Did you retire it

Team Creepy, and some of my favorite JCC imagery...





























Omg all the sudden I’m back in 2008!

I don’t remember the last one... what was that about?

HELLSCAPE is Wormie Saber's movie. It's ****ing terrible. It was the very first movie the JCC watched together. We were very drunk.

I didn’t know that was wormie’s movie! I mean, I saw it on the list of movies that the JCC has watched, but never put two and two together...

Does Bowen know there’s a more successful filmmaker on these boards than himself?

She even has an imdb page! I seriously doubt she can bench 250 pounds, though.

For your viewing displeasure, HELLSCAPE



Do I really want to watch that

Absolutely not. If Dave plays it again, join, but otherwise, nah.

Ok for our newer JCCers could you briefly digress on WormieSaber, so they can get a sense of who she was

wow... okay, sure.

Wormie is a perpetual college student. she says she's got a bunch of wacky degrees.

First and foremost, though, she is a [terrible] film maker. I have shared the movie, do yourself a, ahem, and experience Fake Arm in all its glory.

She also self published a book about Michael Jackson. When she heard of his death, she was, like, "WHAT"

Also this:



Got a hotel room for the night, so I can actually type on my laptop.

Comfy!

What’s the number one thing people don’t get about being homeless?

That the homeless aren't allowed to be, like, anywhere, ever.

So where do you park your car when you don’t have a hotel room?

I actually park in my therapist's parking lot, under a big tree. I'm very supported in that way.

Oh, that’s rather nice, or at least as nice as can be in such a situation.

Is your car nice, at least?

Yeah, I got it with my back settlement money. It's pretty comfortable, as far as cars go.

My therapist is pretty awesome. He's got ADHD and PTSD (as do, I, along with Severe, Recurrent Major Depressive Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder). We've met in person a couple of times, but most of the time we talk on the phone. His favorite word is f, I am absolutely sure of it. He gets me through each week pretty well. I take meds, usually. I haven't been, lately, and I'm not sure why. I guess, when my depression gets to a certain point (and it's there, right now), I take care of myself less, and routine things like brushing my teeth, checking my email, and taking my meds fall by the wayside. It blows. I filled all my scripts this week and am about to start again. Not to be all cliché here, but I really am my own worst enemy at times,

I remember you said you were tearing through therapists; I’m glad you finally found one that works out.

But I know what you mean about losing the motivation or getting too depressed to take medication, because I’ve been there. Why is it so hard for people to understand that?

Not really tearing through them. I've just moved around quite a bit in the last ten years, so I've switched therapists each time. This one is my 9th.

It's hard because depression isn't something that is visible. You can't look at somebody, generally, and diagnose them. So, people who are often too depressed to function get held to the same standards as everybody else, and it puts them at a disadvantage,

As for people not getting it, you simply can't, unless you've truly lived it. So, it's pointless to expect that of people, I think. I've explained my depression to people (I'm doing it right now), because I'm in a place now where I'm comfortable and confident in doing so. I think mental illness needs to be normalized. It's not.

Spot on about mental illness needing to be normalized... do you think it’s just because people still associate mental illness with frothing-at-the-mouth lunatics in straitjackets?

Oh yeah, and a lot of people believe the mentally ill are dangerous, when in reality, most just want to be left alone. It's happened to me; I've mentioned my depression, and the person clutches their purse a little tighter.

I had a neighbor in Virginia, young kid, who tried to convince me that I was going through a mid-life crisis, and that I needed to go out to bars.

It’s like you announce that you’re a serial killer or something, the way some people react.

Have you killed anyone, btw?

Yes, Bono, in that Sleepy game.

You were the best killer those games ever had! Also ASG was in one of those...

What is your advice to other, maybe younger JCCers who struggle with mental illness?

My advice is to face it; don't run from it, don't be angry with it or ashamed by it. Reach out for professional help.

Therapy and medication aren't cure-alls, though. I suspect I will always live with depression, in some form, for the rest of my life, and I'm becoming more okay with that. This thing is accurate...



Omg that comic is dead on

Isn’t it the thing about asking for help? It’s so simple but for some it seems to be so hard, or even inconceivable

It's not simple, though, by asking for help, you're acknowledging you need it, if that makes any sense. Acknowledging "weakness" (and many, many people perceive mental illness as weakness, I have no idea why) and trusting somebody else to help you sort it out is ****ing scary.

Early on in therapy, I had this idea in my head that one day everything would just click and I'd get it. Yeah... it took time to realize that doesn't actually happen, and that it's a loooooooooong process. it's like pealing an onion, tears and all. For a lot of people, that process is too long. We live in a culture of instant gratification. Putting in the work that therapy requires is not an easy thing to do.

Now speaking of therapy, I think I remember you indicated that you wanted to be a therapist for teenagers. Is this still the case? Or have you set your sights in something else?

I'm three semesters away from my psych degree. I don't want to be a practicing therapist anymore, though. What I really want to go into is case management. Finishing my degree is most definitely in my current five year plan. I've got to get my **** together first, though.

Why the change?

Lots of reasons, but namely the potential for burnout is high, and I'm sometimes easily triggered. When I'm triggered, I sometimes have difficulty controlling my facial expressions. I just realized I would probably be a terrible therapist, and I likely would grow to not enjoy it.


How many JCCers have you met in RL?

Only a few, actually. I've met Grimby (slept on his couch), s65horsey, solojones, Souderwan and evil sockpuppet. I was scheduled to meet Crem, but I got sick... still bummed about that. I'll meet him one day, though.

I've talked to many on the phone though

Were any of them a total surprise in real life?

Honestly, not really. Grimby and horsey were typical SW dorks, Brian and Chelsea (and their fabulous daughter) are adorable and some of the very best you will ever meet. Rae was taller and quieter than I expected.

What about sockpuppet? I remember her vaguely...

She is a genuinely kind and compassionate person. She and Souderwan are, hands down, very best JCC couple.

Oh, ****, that’s right—I forgot Souderwan and sockpuppet are a couple

Sure don’t see hide nor hair of them on here anymore, though...

They have a three year old toddler. They're busy af.

Excuses excuses

ahem so did you see TROS?

I did! I've seen it exactly once. I didn't hate it, but I didn't love it. It was good to see Ian McDiarmid again. He's always great, even when he has **** dialogue to deliver. I could have done without the kiss... awkward and pretty icky, and it was too long. I had to watch it in segments.

I meant, the movie was too long, not the kiss,lol

JC has been around over 20 years... think we’ll be here for another 20?

Honestly, I think it's pretty likely. The regulars are pretty ****ing regular. This board is still new and snazzy, new server, etc, I don't see why not? This place is pretty special.


How are you managing with the whole pandemic thing?

I've been tested (really ****ing unpleasant experience), and I'm healthy. When the lockdown happened, that was pretty surreal, being stuck out in the world when everybody was stuck inside, and everything was closed, crazy. I managed to stay pretty isolated during that time. I want to stay healthy. It's been challenging listening to people bitch about all the changes. I avoid both covid threads, for that reason. The world has irreversably changed, and people are losing their ****, trying to will things to go "back to normal," but this is now normal.

Oh did you take that test that goes all the way back to tickle your brain?

Oh god, yes.

Well at least the test was negative

Btw what is your avatar? It’s some sort of moon man

It's a sheet of Jerry Garcia blotter acid.

Huh

I’ve heard acid is quite an experience

Yes, did a fair amount of it during my late teens and early 20s. It's been 20 years since the last time. lol, it's a young people thing.

Am I too late at 32?

No way in hell am I giving you LSD advice.

Seriously though, it's a pretty personal decision, so willingly go through something like that.

What, am I too straight-edge?! I can be totally uh counterculture man! //dons a tie dye shirt

yeaahhh!

Really don't see it.

You see Charles Manson, though

I like Manson, though. He's fascinating, to me.

lol, I recently watched the trailer for "Charlie Says" (Manson biopic, starring Matt Smith), which led to me watching a clip. His Merican accent is SO BAD. It sounds like Doctar Whose trying to sound like a redneck.



Have you seen the episode of Mindhunter where they visit Manson?

No, never heard of Mindhunter. I don't watch much tv these days (though I do have Netflix on my phone). Last tv I watched was this last season of Better Call Saul.

Oooh you should watch Mindhunter, great show, doesn’t get enough attention.

Why is Manson so fascinating?

At this point, it's just stuff from my youth. I read Helter Skelter when I was 16. I guess I was fascinated by this hillbilly hippie who was able to manipulate people into murdering for him.

Who on the JCC is most likely to be a serial killer?

Slowpoke, hands down.


What JCCers long gone do you miss?

Oh man. dizfactor, first and foremost. Siobhan too (ambassador cara jade).

Did you mean dead, or just gone? Because Dani has been gone for a while, and I miss her.

Holy **** I forgot all about Ambassador Cara Jade and that she died... now I feel bad...

I just meant gone, not dead

Kerr_Plunk
-G-O-A-T-
Pulsar Skate
Yvette needs to post more
Kate
Espy (talk to her all the time on fb, but miss her here)
Varouj (same thing, see him all the time on fb, miss him here)
mrsvos needs to post more
Souderwan
****ing PETE
dudeski (just kidding)

That Wascally Droid (rip) asked me if "harpua" was supposed to be the sound of vader breathing, and I still can't unhear it.

Let's see... Vin needs to post more.
Sebulba-X
kukbacca
evil sockpuppet
I kind of miss FlareStorm, on his good days, but his bad days outnumbered them
lexu
Mortimer Snerd needs to post more
Angel_Jedi_Master
xblackout
rogue ten (though I get why he's gone)
Whitey
obiwan-jr
darthtenbiscuits
Crem needs to post more

I know I'm missing people.


It’s amazing how the JC had developed its own cultural ecosystem over the years. How do you think one makes their mark here, culturally, whether to widespread acclaim or mockery?

okay, that's a hell of a question. gonna take some time with it.

I kind of want to talk about something else though. I recently (June) discovered that I am Two Spirit. For the longest time, I have described myself as "androgynous," which is close, but not. In the simplest terms:

"Traditionally, Native American two spirit people were male, female, and sometimes intersexed individuals who combined activities of both men and women with traits unique to their status as two spirit people. In most tribes, they were considered neither men nor women; they occupied a distinct, alternative gender status. In tribes where two spirit males and females were referred to with the same term, this status amounted to a third gender."

This is totally me.

I've been thinking about it a lot, and nothing really changes with this revelation. I'm just me, I guess. Here is some information about Two Spirit people.

https://www.ihs.gov/lgbt/health/twospirit/

That’s amazing! It was like an “aha!” moment of epiphany for you?

Yeah, it really was like that. I made more sense, right away, which has been pretty great.

Congratulations! It’s so important to have these breakthroughs! I’m really happy for you

So what are some little things in real life that kind of added up like one plus one to mean... “hey, I’m two-spirit!”?

It wasn't really like that. It was a completely random thing. I came across and read that page I linked from the Indian Health Service, and it really hit me over the head. Like I said, "androgynous" was the closest description, before.

Two-spirit... just the phrase itself sounds beautiful. I wanted to talk about your Native American background, and this is a great opportunity to segue to that. What tribe(s) are you descended from?

I am Chippewa on my mother's side (grandfather) and Pueblo on my father's side (grandmother).

We didn't really celebrate our heritage growing up, though. My grandparents' generation was taught to hide their heritage... to blend into white society. It's actually pretty ****ing sad. There is a lot that I don't know about my family history, and it bums me out.

What do you know?

Literally what I told you, pretty much. My paternal grandmother's father worked in coal. They are from Salida, CO. She never talked about them. If you asked her about her heritage, she's huff that she was "an American." She once told me she would "disown" me if I dated a black man (wtf, right?) Here's a picture



My maternal grandmother was an orphan, raised by nuns, true story. Nothing is known about her background, but here is her picture.



I once suggested doing a 23 and me on her. I don't know why, but it bummed out my family. I'm seriously considering doing one on myself.

Here is my maternal grandfather, Ortiz. I have absolutely no memory of him.



I guess I don't have a picture of my paternal grandfather, online, which is weird, because we were very close.

Manuel looks like he could’ve been in adventure films!

What’s your view on Mt Rushmore?

It needs to be returned, and pretty much this:



I mean, the sculptor was a ****ing white supremacist. The thing was funded by the KKK.

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/sordid-history-mount-rushmore-180960446/

Have you thought more about that JC culture question?

I think JCC culture is a refreshing blend of intelligence, ***hole, moxy, sarcasm, talent, stubbornness, wit, and charm. When one can hit all those notes, they are in the JCC sweet spot.

Some people lack one or more (or all) of these things, and that throws things off.

As for what makes people rise or fall (sink or swim), I think the ability to laugh at yourself is a deal breaker.

Sorry, I feel like my answers are really short. I'm on my phone.

No, it’s alright, I think that’s a great answer.

And what happens when it goes really wrong and you become the stuff of JC infamy? What do they all have in common?

Inability to detect sarcasm
Refusal to listen
Ignorance
Meltdown
Penis, when you say you have a vaginor.
Foreskin
Wocky

Oooh, name drop idea!

What if you rated people on a scale from the more positive things you indicated to the more negative?

Noooo... I hate rating ****. I had this friend, growing up, who rated ****ing everything. He had piles of lists. It drove me insane.

Haha, scratch that, then...

Tell me more about this friend...

Oh man, I've known him since I was 12 years old. He's probably my oldest friend. He's gay; taught me how to give a beej.

My current view, that's the tree i park under, in my therapist's parking lot.



Name drop... want me to ask Punk for ideas? I've had guests in my interviews before.

Yeah let’s try that, asking Punk

Should we invite him to the conversation?

Maybe, I'll wait for him to respond. In the meantime, ama

What’d you have for breakfast

Pineapple slices and a croissant.

He said he's going to think on it. Why are namedrop questions so hard?

Hmmm

Alright how about this—it’s not super fancy creative but it’s simple and elegant:

What JCCers will you never forget?

Eh probably too list-y, right?

No, I can do that

Gonna take a nap and then i'll do it

It's too hot to sleep, so I got tacos. Ima eat those and then do this



tom, because of jcc 101 https://m.soundcloud.com/sloe-t/jcc-101

vin, because of the beaver and msn chats

duncan, because crazy bff

zapdos, because kvlt af

rogue ten, because carrot video

Tina, because I'm pretty sure she's a dude

spanish dave, because omg https://boards.theforce.net/threads/i-dont-know-whether-i-like-sonic-youth-or-not.25452910/

jp, because jp

Pete, because one day I will preserve his pickled head in a jar as a memeto

gabe, because lol

frieda, because squirrels

kerr plunk, because of her poetry

crem, because he was the first friend i made here

Ramza, because he's ****ing hilarious

mrsvos, because she mah wife

espy, because she's awesome and beat cancer like a boss

Pulsar skate, because i love her

Juli, because panties

super watto, because psychonabble

Punk, dude is a badass

diggy, because reasons

YVETTE

I know for a fact I forgot people (I have a terrible memory), but I suppose it is a list of people I wont forget, so there you go.

Punk's question:

Who would you unban, and why?

I was going to say Pete, but he's not actually permabanned (he's just stubborn). So my answer is actually darth boy, who, ironically, got banned for trolling you, If I remember correctly.

Why? He's ****ing funny... obnoxious, but funny.

by "you" I meant you, Cor

Punk had one more question:

Dedicate five Grateful Dead songs to five JCC’ers, and give reasons why

[see supplementary post after this one. I was constrained by the five-media-pieces-only limitation]
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Thanks for reading (for some of you, that’s quite possibly twice in one night ), and a huge thank you to Kristie for as ever being one of the most funny, sincere, lovable, sweet, courageous, wise, kind, outgoing, special, unique, irreplaceable, inimitable, ineffable, and irrepressible, and beautiful Two-Spirit people on this forum and community, and for being such a delightful interview, which is so jaw-droppingly awesome because it’s been the fourth time, and this might be the best issue ever.

Past Issues

73. Point Given (scroll to bottom for complete list of issues 1-72)
74. Princess_Tina
75. Vaderize03
76. Ramza, part II
77. 3sm1r
78. Lord Vivec, part II

~Cor

 

Here is Kristie’s response to the last question:

For Tunick, Walkin' Blues, because he will never drive.



For mrsvos, Scarlet Begonias, because, because.



For Punk, Cold Rain and Snow, because he's also lived in a car and gets it.



Ramza, Dark Star / Morning Dew, 24+ minutes long, because philosophy



J-Rod, Wharf Rat, because he's been there.

 

Apologies for the quote, but it's too accurate to let it pass without one.

 

Agreed.

 

Well then, the next interview should obviously be with Ender.

 

Dispatches from St. Helena? (hat tip to @Coruscant)

 

This Ender really is legendary. I'm kind of sad that I arrived too late to see him.

 

You’re not, you just don’t know it.

 

He used to be a pretty great mod/poster, then he took some time off, and when he came back he turned into a gaping *******.

 

As a relative noob to this neck of the woods, I'm fascinated by these interviews, and grateful of the candid responses. It shows what a great little community this has become, even if it wasn't always so.

Great interview!

 

Heading out soon to work, which means a little over an hour walk to my bus stop. Niiiiice song; incredible interview. @harpua I'm happy, even in your current circumstances, that you're able to keep-it-together as well as you can, and that things are going in a better direction, especially concerning therapy. Really glad to hear, too, that your son has had your back this whole time; that's a hell of a thing.

 

HARPIE!!!! <3 <3 <3

 

You can watch him in reruns.

 

@harpua many thanks for sharing so much of yourself. I am glad to hear you’re doing well. I think it’s wonderful how gracefully you are handling life right now on all fronts. Two Spirits is a wonderful way of describing a person of both genders.

A wonderful conversation and I am glad your son is always there for you.

Thank you both.

 

Best one yet.

 

Harps, I love you. I honestly didn't even remember when we were enemies, but it's probably because I was a dumb kid.

Congrats on coming out as Two Spirit. I personally know finding your identity is a big deal. I hope it brings you a little peace.

And lol, typical bachelor pad is definitely an accurate description of my house. I am not always quiet but I am the type of person who takes a while to open up I guess. But yes, I am tall, 5'10"... And I am sorry I made you sleep in a room with Chiefs stuff everywhere, not knowing the name offends you. Yeeeesh.

Anyway, lub you Kristie. Hang in there. And welcome to the queer club.

 

Oh, I've been in the queer club since I was a child (I'm bisexual)

 

Oh **** I forgot about that! Well welcome to having queer gender anyway.

 

Great interview guys.

 

I love Kristie’s blunt honesty. Some of these interviews get a little fluffy and fake.

Also I post the exact right amount @harpua
I probably lurk more than I should. I mostly just post in the few things that hold my interest. I wrote a long post in the fat thread last week but decided against posting.

 

Awesome interview of an awesome person!

 

Why? Have you read that thread? A long Vin post is exactly what it needs.

 

there were no replies when I was going to post. It’s too late now.

 

I disembarked from the Calypso and drew my overcoat more tightly about me—St. Helena was a chilly island that bypassed the bone and cut straight to the soul. Just a week ago, I didn’t even know I was to come here, but I was met late at night by two strange hooded men who said an excellent interview opportunity awaited on this forsaken island.

I ambled uncertainly up the dock and found my way eventually to the port authority where the aforementioned interview was to be conducted. The inside was scarcely warmer. “Hello?” I asked the empty building. Then I heard dull footsteps from the floor above—I traced them with my ears as they moved toward the stairs—the flimsy stairs groaned as the feet clunked down them. I stayed rooted to the spot, still dripping from the rains and the sea spray.

Then the owner of those footsteps appeared at the bottom of the stairs. He was human, aye, but he may as well not have been at all for my memory of him. My mouth dropped but no sound came out.

“Well? Did the Atlantic Ocean strike you mute, you ****? Ask me a question!”

My soul hollered through my mouth as the much delayed scream finally arrived.

 

Thanks, I'm still figuring out what this all means, etc

Like, nothing really changed. I discovered a name that truly fits me, yes, but as for what that means, still pondering. My pronouns don't change, I don't really experience gender dysphoria or anything, so nothing really changes there. I guess I'm just me still, with a name/identity that fits better.