JCC What do you do when you're broken hearted?

So...

Side note Phantom of the Opera is ending on Broadway in February. So "it's over now" is appropriate for how I kinda feel right now lol.

Okay so...I know I'm more emotional cause of my condition. But I am trying to be more open and vulnerable with everything.


But yeah tl:dr I'm dealing with a broken heart now too. Officially anyway. It's not that I did anything, we weren't really close honestly. All I intended was friendship, i never intended to like her morevthan a friend, but...I found myself falling for her when I was away in Korea. Being away makes you consider things. But that's no longer an option. Hey I get it, I'm glad for her, I am. I know she was interested in someone probably before she did lol. I sometimes have a sense about these things and end up being correct, can't explain it other than that.

But yeah, I'm really glad for her, she's been through a lot past year, so I hope it works out. I just hope to restore friendship and keep it that way in moving on.

But...it stings. It does. This was the first time since high school really having feelings for someone, so first in my adulthood. So I'm just praying the best for them and...that I get over it. Heal and move on.

It is...rough. But one day I have hope...

 

Sorry you are going through that. There is no easy answer for what to do. Time heals all wounds I guess, eventually.

 

Yeah, no two heartbreaks are alike, so it's pretty much impossible to tell you how to cope--everybody copes differently. Glad you are getting it off your chest, though.

 

Yeah, every heartbreak is alike, so it's pretty easy to tell you how to cope--everybody copes the same way, by playing survival battles on a SW messageboard. Glad you are coming aboard.

 

I shouldn't chuckle at that but I did

 

Hi Nick, that was dumb. <3

 

What is your condition?

Good advise. My only addition is give yourself time. You can’t make the feelings go away.

 

Got sunstroke in July, now can't talk.

 

There's not a ton to do, it just takes time. A couple things can help, or at least avoid prolonging it.

Let yourself really feel it for a night, which you're doing, which is good. Go ahead and cry it out if you feel like it. Go ahead and indulge and be melodramatic. Watch old romantic movies and cry along. Believe me, those tears will come. Put on the Backstreet Boys and cry, scrunch your face up in anguish and lip sync along. But try to get it all out in one night, or at least most of it. If you need another night, go ahead, but try to reduce the time you spend on it. Try to reduce the time you grieve every time you do it. Scream, cry, and curse into your pillow for 15 minutes, and then let it go and get some sleep.

You gotta get away from the person for at least a while. Can't get over it if you're around the person all the time. It just makes it worse.

Get with your bros and bro it out, but not negatively, which you're not, which is good. Gotta have fun and feel good some other way, to take the place of those good feelings you've now lost. Gotta remind yourself that this person isn't the sole source of happiness. I once had a blast at an all night arcade and forgot all about her. Went back to my usual self after that.

 

Yes. I’ve watched your videos. Didn’t realize that was you with the new icon photo. Hang in there.

 

Putting on the Backstreet Boys? What are you trying to do to this poor soul.

 

Trying to get him to feel, you robot.

 

I became a Marxist. Give it a try.

 

Eventually you become numb and it’s great

 

also

 

i sat in the dark and listened to sad songs.
don't be like me.

 

Now, seriously, you don't do **** other than trying to keep some perspective while you're on this low point. Life goes on. Eventually this wound you are feeling will become a scab and yeah, it will open from time to time when something reminds you of what you've lost and the blood will get ****ing everywhere and you'll be like "oh god I'm dying who will guard the Arlon now", but it eventually close and leave a pretty scar as a sobering reminder. Just don't use alcohol to disinfect it. I love confusing wound-related metaphors.

 

Sad songs? Yeah I'm doing it.








But this one...this is the one that will always remind me of her. It's just...too perfect

 

I am pleased and proud that CT Numbers stole my post with the Ruffin song.

 

What is your experience with heartbreak?

 

Jedi Angella once broke Wocky's heart, I think.

 

One time in my life I thought someone beautiful and magnificent was being unjustly excluded from proceedings. But then Bacon told me it was really just because they were a huge butthole all along.

 

Take comfort in the fact that at least she didn’t take you for $14,000.





She didn’t take you for $14,000, right?

 

No.

 

Nothing much to offer - every person and breakup differs - but a few pieces of questionable wisdom.

1. Give it time. Emotional pain always leaves something behind, but it fades as the road goes on.
2. In the mean time, don't be afraid to let yourself feel. Whoever says a man's feelings should be bottled up and they should man up is an idiot.
3. You're doing it right already - find those silly people you know, and smile when they are magnificent idiots