Ack, this is awkward.

Ok, so I have this pretty good friend at school. He goes away to a camp, meets a girl he really likes there, and tries to start going out with her. Well, it doesn't work, but they stay really good friends. He introduces her to me via the Internet, and we start talking a lot.

Well, she's been giving me these subtle hints lately about her liking me, and I've been trying to ignore it, since my friend's still into her. But, tonight, she gave me the biggest, most unignorable thing she possibly could have without coming right out and saying it.

Now, I like her too (obviously I don't know her well enough to like her THAT much yet, but you never know), but I'm not sure what to do. I myself am still kind of hung up on another person that's pretty impossible for me, so this could be a way to help myself get over it, but I really don't want to create any negativity between my friend and I, or upset him in any way (he's kind of in a perpetual mild-depression stage).

Before the jumping down my throat by saying, "Asking the JC is the first bad move.", etc. etc., I'm just getting other people's experiences and opinions. Has anyone else had this kind of...run in?

 

This happened on Dawson's Creek!

Sorry, I haven't been there myself. If I was you, I'd go out with her.

 

But, tonight, she gave me the biggest, most unignorable thing she possibly could have without coming right out and saying it.

What was it? ?


Anyways, the best thing right now is to not do anything and wait for any further developments.

 

She sent me an e-mail about finding the "girl that I've been looking for", and she said, "You should come to my youthgroup, I have a feeling she'll be there...".

 

Talk to your friend, tell him what happened. At least you won't be going behind his back....

 

Maybe she just wants to introduce you to her dateless best friend? Y'know, the one that has braces and everyone calls pizza face....

 

She sent me an e-mail about finding the "girl that I've been looking for", and she said, "You should come to my youthgroup, I have a feeling she'll be there...".

Was this "girl that I've been looking for" referring to your search for a girlfriend, to this "impossible" girl you can't get over, or to her in specific? Can you determine the context?

 

Asking the JC is the first bad move!

 

Actually, do nothing. Stop chatting with the girl, and she'll give up. But don't tell the freind or he'll be mad at you despite all logic and you doing the right thing. It's too hard to admit that a girl that isn't into you is into one of your freinds.

Or, sleep with her. Forbidden fruit is the sweetest!

 

Obviously don't listen to BOBAFETISH.

 

Wow two peices of advice to try out,completely opposite eachother.

 

I'm sure you'll find great advice on getting that near impossible chick on the JCC. Good luck.

 

Talk to your friend, tell him what happened. At least you won't be going behind his back....

Well, read on. I'll get to this under Boba's post...

Maybe she just wants to introduce you to her dateless best friend? Y'know, the one that has braces and everyone calls pizza face...

Dear, Sweet God, I hope not.

Was this "girl that I've been looking for" referring to your search for a girlfriend, to this "impossible" girl you can't get over, or to her in specific? Can you determine the context?

Referring to the impossible one that I'm trying to get over. What context?

Asking the JC is the first bad move!

Knew it was coming.

Actually, do nothing. Stop chatting with the girl, and she'll give up. But don't tell the freind or he'll be mad at you despite all logic and you doing the right thing. It's too hard to admit that a girl that isn't into you is into one of your freinds.

He's already been semi-depressed that she talks to me more than him on the Internet. I don't think he'd be the type to get really angry with me (but I don't know his moods THAT well), just extremely butt-hurt over the whole thing.

Or, sleep with her. Forbidden fruit is the sweetest!

Eh, maybe later.

Edit: I'm sure you'll find great advice on getting that near impossible chick on the JCC. Good luck.

What did I say?

 

My first bit of advice is solid. The second is a joke, but is true.

 

Referring to the impossible one that I'm trying to get over. What context?


That was the context. Unfortunately, you seem to have misinterpreted that into "the biggest, most unignorable thing she possibly could have without coming right out and saying it" in terms of her liking you, herself. In truth, she's just trying to help you out. This does not exclude the possibility that she does like you, but it's hardly what you set it out to be.

I hope that has clarified some things for you for now.

Like I have said, just do nothing and see what further develops. Go to this youth group, however. It'll provide you with more opportunities to observe what's going on.

 

Your buddy had eyes for this chick first. Dont do anything with her if you want to keep your friendship with your buddy there. If things progress between you and this chick IE she gets gets more aggressive in her hints of liking you and such and you like her and want to start something then go for it. But let your buddy know if it's ok.

And dont go out with this girl for the sole fact that it'll help you get over the impossible girl. Dont settle for second best mate!

 

Dont settle for second best mate!

*waits for SecondBest to post*

 

Ack, this is awkward.

Whoa, for a second there, I thought you were talking to me.




//ego

 

"Ack, this is awkward.

Whoa, for a second there, I thought you were talking to me."


LOL! I gotta say I think AcklayComeHome is one of the funniest names on the board.

 

In truth, she's just trying to help you out. This does not exclude the possibility that she does like you, but it's hardly what you set it out to be.

??? Such as her e-mailing me in the morning, afternoon, and night? Asking for my cell number? Sending me pictures of her every day and asking me to send her some of me?

And dont go out with this girl for the sole fact that it'll help you get over the impossible girl. Dont settle for second best mate!

I wouldn't. It's an interesting situation, but I wouldn't use someone in that way.

Edit: Whoa, for a second there, I thought you were talking to me.

Not this time. But I still you from whatever thread it was where you said that thing that made me like you. I can't remember.

 

"And dont go out with this girl for the sole fact that it'll help you get over the impossible girl. Dont settle for second best mate!

I wouldn't. It's an interesting situation, but I wouldn't use someone in that way."


Good boy. It's not cool to use women that way. Or guys for that matter. Whatever floats your boat.

 

??? Such as her e-mailing me in the morning, afternoon, and night? Asking for my cell number? Sending me pictures of her every day and asking me to send her some of me?

Okay, you should have said that earlier. That has "I like you" written over it more than her invitation to a youth group to see the other girl. In that case, she's most likely very in to you. But still, let more developments arrise first before you make any big move.

If, however, you want to be sly, talk to your friend about hanging out sometime, then bring up later inviting the girl, in a manner that suggests mutual friend. If you're going to get with her without your friend getting mad at you, let him see the slow transition to your relationship himself, then get your then-girlfriend to set him up with her hot friends.

 

Send her a picture of someobe ugly. Like Acklay, for instance.

 

But I still you from whatever thread it was where you said that thing that made me like you. I can't remember.

omg, that was you?! "60652"



Thanks Estranged.


Like Acklay, for instance.

Yeah. Turn her off of guys for life.

 

Send her this picture and tell her that you are the one with the bulge!