Girl's Oppinion On "Pick Up" Lines...

Hey, I was wondering, what do girls think when a complete stranger, a guy, walks up to them and starts talking to them?

I know its pretty much all in the approach and stuff, but just in general?

And, what would be the best way to go about doing this? Just go up and say "hey" and spark a convo?

I figure asking you girls would be better than asking another guy, heh...

 

IMO, I'd say that going up to her and complimenting her or making a joke are good conversation starters...stalking isn't a good thing...but compliments and jokes are usually good!


God bless!

-Malz

 

Yes, stalking is bad.

"pick up" lines are stupid and annoying, but I don't think that you were talking about the 'real' pick up lines.

Anyway, it depends on where you are. If you're in a class, you can probably joke about the teacher or something. Just try to be funny.

 

One thing I've often wondered is how about is what about if a guy says one of the awful pick up lines but in a self mocking way? Obviously knowing it's BS, but using it as a first thing to say... ?

 

"One thing I've often wondered is how about is what about if a guy says one of the awful pick up lines but in a self mocking way? Obviously knowing it's BS, but using it as a first thing to say..."

Then we get all insecure and assume your mocking tone is directed at us.

Actually, I take them as not being serious- at all? Like just being friendly with no romantic interest anywhere at all?

 

I guess now I can stop wondering. At least I've learned not to try it.

 

ah and so GMT learns

in public strike off the convo with a joke, offer to take her out for coffee on the weekend to get to know her better. Show her that your interested, intelligent convos work better

 

Pick up lines are for losers. Walking around nude in front of women in public is my style, not that I've ever gotten anyone yet

 

Depends on your definiton of a pick up line. Cheezy one liners are stupid but, just going up to a girl and talking is not stupid.

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umm I wonder why you haven't picked up a girl yet maybe putting on some pants might help with that problem

 

Falcon, there's no need to sound so surprised!

 

*coughs*
Erm...
Okay, so no I didnt mean the cheezy one liners, I just meant going up to a girl and talking to her.
And I wondered if girls find that weird at all... And how to spark a convo... And how to tell if the girl is trying to hint for you to go away

 

If a girl is unresponsive and/or if she looks like she's laughing at your jokes out of pity, she probably wants you to go away. Not to sound harsh or anything

 

Hah, well, I figured that much...

 

I'd just once like to see some lesbian pick up lines. Maybe, "I'm gonna get you really drunk or something"

 

Most communication is non-verbal, so go run with that.

 

It depends a little bit on where you are. This is just my own opinion but I feel that I'd be much more receptive to some random guy talking to me at school or somewhere I go a lot, because that way it's more likely they recognize me even if I don't recognize them. Whereas, I'd get a bit creeped out if some guy just approached me in the produce section of the grocery store. In a situation like that, if you happen to really want to talk to the girl and you've seen her a lot, then I'd suggest starting with "Hi, I see you a lot here . . ." Then she may feel like you're more familiar even if she never noticed you. However, if it's just a random girl in a random place she might (at least I would) feel like you're a bit sleazy. She may be flattered still, but without familiarity she'll KNOW the only reason you're talking to her is because of the way she looks so she may not trust your intentions right away. That trust would be something you earn.

All right, so how do you earn trust? Read on for Teniel's guide to trust! (aren't you EXCITED?! Yeah, I knew you would be. )

1.) Don't be pushy. You could ask for her phone number and then . . . call her as soon as you POSSIBLY can. This waiting nonsense to look cool was invented by morons. She'll either be impressed or you'll find she gave you the number to the local pizza place (see the "So she doesn't want you. . ." section) Either way you've made progress so you can move on to either a hot date or another lonely night in front of TV with the small satisfaction that you at least tried and, through process of elimination have eliminated one of a many million possible "soul mates." She didn't deserve you anyway.

2.) Be honest. Yeah, wow, honesty earns trust. It's amazing isn't it?

Yeah, that's all I've got on trust. Yeah, it's sad, I know. I'm sorry. If you have specific questions feel free to PM me. I know you all must be crumbling without my expert guidance.

Now onto "So she doesn't want you . . .

This is difficult because there are many different forms of body language and personalities but here's the general look at things.

A frank girl will simply tell you to leave. This is simple enough. It means leave.

If she's polite but wants you to leave she may smile and nod a lot. However, this is also the reaction with shy girls in some cases so you may want to wait a while before you give up and leave. Give her a chance to warm to the conversation because some girls need time before they feel comfortable chatting. If a girl actually begins to have a conversation with you then you shouldn't need to be in this section. Few girls (though some are suckers for punishment) will make the commitment of a real conversation with someone they don't like or are uncomfortable with.

If she shows signs of discomfort throughout and doesn't start talking with you that means she doesn't like you or is disturbed by you in some way. Don't make the situation worse. Just make a graceful exit.

There you are! Have fun! Now a disclaimer for anyone with the patience to read this far. You deserve to know. I will do the customary fast-talk Iamnotresponsibleinanywayforinjuriesor
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Thank you.

 

"Most communication is non-verbal, so go run with that."

I agree with Spike. Inappropriate hand gestures is the way to go.

Amazing.

 

Thats some good advice Teniel Djo!
*goes and reads it again*

So, you seemed to be implying that someone should go up to someone that is a complete stranger unless he is really smooth and can get trust well, right?

Oi, that is gonna be a fun experience if I ever get the nerve up to talk to a random (but good looking) girl at a random place...

 

Does "pull my finger" still work?

 

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I'm glad you liked my advice.

And your summation is pretty much it. But I was also generally advising against approaching a random girl. You've got a better chance with a girl in your general acquaintance. You don't even have to have spoken to her, like I said before. As long as you've seen her more than once, (100 points if it's more than twice). Hopefully, there are some nice girls that fit this bill. If not then, no offense, but you need to get out more.

Another thing that I forgot to say is, if you feel comfortable talking to someone, that's also important. The first conversation's always a bit awkward but it SHOULD get easier. If it doesn't then YOU'RE not comfortable around this person and that's just as bad as if they were uncomfortable around you.