How do you view age differences and dating co-workers?

I try to refrain from dating co-workers which is hard for me as most people I know are from work and I am a manager, so most people are under me and asking any girl out would cause some sort of jeopardy in some way. On top of that, most are at least five years younger than I am and I really don't want to do the proverbial "cradle robbing."

Here is the kicker. My former roommate who is 35 years old (I'm 27) and about to start dating a 20 year old girl! Okay, he did say that he was entering a "shallow" stage after about a year and a half of being single, and that since he waits tables for a living and she is at the same level as him, it more or less makes it okay to date a co-worker in that instance. On the up side, I got offered several jobs at a time when he couldn't find one. He said that I seem to have the ability to get jobs while he has a better ability to pick up women. So I guess I have the upper hand overall, depending on how you look at it.
I guess the age difference is what gets me. I actually find myself digging older women as I age, and he finds himself craving younger women the older he gets. Should I change my attitude and try to chase 18 to 23 year olds? OR, should I just give it up and watch my Battlestar Galactica and WWE DVDs like the geek I am?

 

1. Don't date a co-worker. If it really doesn't work out and you two work closely together, one of you may end up having to find another job.

2. Age matters. However, you should date the age you are most comfortable with. Most people are around the same maturity as people their own age. Age difference can be a strain on a relationship. However, it can work out and it shouldn't stop you from having a relationship. Just be aware that it will be an issue at some point.

 

From my own personal experience Id tell you its probably best to avoid dating co-workers, even more so if you are a manager, but sometimes these things just have a tendency to happen. I know that all too well.

As far as age goes, well, it definitely does make a difference, IMO. Hate to say it, but there's no way youre friend and this twenty year old will last. There's way too much of a gap there and theyre probably not even close on a mental wavelegnth.

 

i'm almost 20 and i have a huge crush on a 30 year old woman i work with.


well...you are 27, i dont think a 23 year old would too far out of reach for you.

but, if you dont think you'd have a problem with it...if she likes ya, she likes ya

 

Never date Co-workers and I try to stay within a

+ or - 10 year age difference

so being 28 you could date 18-38 year olds

fun!

 

It would be really hard to date a co-worker, if you break up things can get ugly so I wouldn't recomend it. And depending on the couple I don't think age really matters once you're over the age of 18...

 

i think dating a co-worker wouldn't be a good idea..as flamingsword said...if it doesn't work out..then you are forced to still work w/ eachother and it could get ugly.

i wouldn't say, though, that someone in their early twenties would be too young for you. it'd be different if it were someone younger than 20 or 21 dating a 27 year old. a 22 or 23 year old dating someone that's 27 isn't that big of a gap, though.

 

23 and 27 isn't that big of a gap. I'm 23 and I'm dating a 28-year-old. He sometimes reminds me of the cutest little boy though. I've also almost dated a 26-year-old, but he seemed too mature for me. Age matters, but maturity matters more.

 

I'm all for dating younger guys! as long as they are over 22. as for dating co-workers, I wouldn't do it.

 

I'm mature FlamingSword, wanna go out on a date?

 

That depends, Valkor. Do we work at the same company?

 

Anywhere between 18 and 49 is ok with me.

 

Inter-office relations are a BAD idea. Unless you don't care about your job avoid them at all costs.

 

I dated a guy 8 years younger than me. Trust me, age does matter. He was really annoying, but he couldn't help it. Guys in their very early 20's still are in that obnoxious stage.

 

Not really into age differences. Though I prefer around the same age as myself. And I'd never date a co-worker -
Don't date a co-worker. If it really doesn't work out and you two work closely together, one of you may end up having to find another job.
Agreed, I had to do that once. Some guys have an ego problem and just can't accept the fact that they got dumped.

 

I had a relationship with a co-worker who was 38, and I was 20. She was smokin hot and we had lots of fun.

We still to this day (2 years later) flirt with each other but dont continue the sexual stuff as I have a new girlfriend.

 

If she has a kid with the same name as you, time to hit the road.

Some guy in....India? just recently married his grandmother. Best part? No teeth.

 

I am not the one who believes in dating co-workers, and my friend says that he thinks it's unethical and risky UNLESS they are at the same level as you. Since I am a manager, I really have to call off all attempts.
In terms of the relationship not lasting, he isn't looking for it to and neither is she. She made it abundantly clear to him that she was tired of being deprived of sex and he said the feeling was mutual. My friend lets every woman know up front he isn't looking for commitment, so I guess that frees him up to do whatever he wants.

 

Personally speaking, I think it's best not to mix work and pleasure. I don't mind hanging out with friends from work (be they guys or girls), but I'm not really interested in starting a relationship with a guy from work. Which I might actually get asked sometime soon, if I'm reading a coworker correctly. And he's a nice guy, I'm just not interested.

 

Personally, I wouldn't date a co-worker, it could get messy.


As for age, since I'm 21, I think for me, anything between 18 and 26 works for me. I like them older.

 

Well, the whole dating the co-worker thing, I never had a problem with it. And the whole age difference, LOL! Well, I'm 21 I've had a 37 year old woman want to date me. But I had someone. And dating younger girls, Just don't do anything to put you in jail.

 

I have no problem with dating co-workers.

As far as age goes.....on the younger end, 18+ is absolutely necessary, but I'd prefer someone in their 20's. At the other end....well, as long as they're not old enough to be my mother, they're okay.

 

I have had relationships with a few work colleagues through the years and have never had any problems, you just have to be adult about the whole thing. To me it is just the same as seeing someone you know from college, the pub, a social club etc. The only rule I do have with dating a work colleague is work is work and the relationship is not visited in the work place, more due to the feelings, opinions, reactions of other co-workers. Obviously once the working day has finished and all other staff have left the building anything is fair game.
As for age differences, again I have no real problems with the exception of a) there should be no breaking of the law, b) you should not be of the same age as your partners parents. Anyway I am engaged to a girl whom is 7 years my junior and we have not found any problems with regards the age gap. Whilst I was at university I dated a woman 12 years my senior and again there were no age gap related problems just psychotic but that?s another story.

 

I agree with the general consensus here. If you mix work and pleasure and then the relationship fails, it could end up hurting your job, or hers.

If you're 27 dating a 23 year old that wouldn't be that bad. That's about as low (age wise) as I would go if I was 27. I don't really see an age limit on dating people older than you. It's just the younger ones you should worry about. The main problem with it is that guys who are the same age as the girl you are dating, or are trying to date, get really annoyed by the fact that you are "in their kool-aid", meaning you are taking away from the supply of girls their age. Yes, its universal that females always want to date someone older than them and that males want to date someone youger, but most of the time it doesn't work out in the long run. The female realizes that the guy is way too mature for them and that he's looking to settle down and start a family when they are just getting out to explore on their own. I'm speaking from experience. I know I'm about to contradict myself big time here but its a long story.

I like this girl I work with, she's 21, I'm 21, and that is like huge for me cause usually I only like girls who are 18 or 19. No, I'm not a pervert ladies. Anyway, Jessika (girl at work) has been dating this gorilla for 4 years. He's 30, soon to be 31. I'm pissed because he's in MY Kool-Aid when he should be out looking for girls closer to his age. I've met the guy a few times and he seems alright but sometimes just thinking about their relationship and how this grandfather is going nowhere in life and that he is doing nothing to move the relationship forward gets me pissed off (maybe I just have some personal issues). Shoot, if you're gonna date someone for four years when you are 30 you might as well marry them. Quit wasting her time and your time. Either marry the girl or break up with her and move on. What really disturbs me is how this guy has got Jessika head over heels for him and I know that if they got married it wouldn't last but two years, and that is being optimistic. The result of that marriage is that you now have a girl who hates you, and herself, because she wasted so much of her life with you/him. AArrgghhh!! Don't be "that" guy. So basically, I'm just trying to say be careful what you choose. You don't want to be looked on as a "grandfather" by the girls peers.

The Cloner

 

I'm 32 and my last boyfriend was 20.. it was fun and all that, but nothing that could be serious. I do think age matters in a lot of ways. If you prefer woman your own age or older than I think you should stay there, older women are awesome.

Oh and I dont date co-workers because I wouldnt want to see my boyfriend every day. Plus most of the guys that work here are gay. If you are in a management position then I think it would be a big no no to date one of your employees