My dad just threatened to kill me... again

I'm sorry, I just need to vent a little. He was yelling and yelling, he threated to beat me and it seemed like he would. He kept calling me stupid and *********. This isn't new. I hate him more than I've ever hated anything in my life. Sorry to bother you all.

edit: everyone needs to vent, but you gotta watch the language.

 

I know what you mean I get that everyday, with my mom and dad.

 

Your dad threatened to kill you? Usually, parents are not being literal when they say that.

If you are in an abusive situation, for real, you should get some help.

 

Your dad threatened to kill you? Usually, parents are not being literal when they say that

Doesn't need to be literal to be inappropriate (or abusive).

 

sorry to hear that

 

He never touches me. He's just verbally abusive. Sometimes it looks like he really will hit me like now. I know I'm to weak to fight him to. I don't know if it was because he just woke up or if he was a little drunk. This was 20 minutes ago and I'm still shaking a lot.

I think he took my CD Player an bashed it into many amny pieces.

cbjedi: Sorry about that, not thinking clearlly.

 

If he's being serious, you really do need to tell someone Trell!


God bless!

-Malz

 

Um, if this is legit then you should call the cops or someone who can look into this. Nobody should have to put up with that kind of emotional abuse and last time I checked, threatening to kill someone (in a non-joking manner) is illegal.

 

Whether he touches your or not, threatening to kill you isn't ok. Where is your mom? If she isn't around I'm sure somewhere there is someone you can talk to who can help you with this.

 

My dad just threatened to kill me... again


Agian? dude thats bad. I'm sorry for ya how can I help?

 

Well, I would teach him a lesson. Or even two!

 

I've thought about it, but I'm not sure there's anything really I can do. So far it's all verbal. If I graduate from high school I'm off to a dorm next September.

He did break the CD Player I just saw, I snuck downstairs and could see it's rubble all over the floor.

 

At least in my state, that would be reportable.

Here is the New York State Office of Children and Family Services web site. Check that out. The hotline number is on there, too.

 

I will talk to anyone who needs to vent. I have these great big things called ears! and they like to listen. so please pm me if you need to talk.

 

I'd contact a school counselor you know is knowledgable (assuming there's one like that there) and ask for advice. You seem to be living in a stressful, difficult situation, and that's not okay.

 

I agree with cbjedi.

 

Oh Trell, I'm sorry man. I had no idea.

that sucks.

College will set you free though. I guarantee.

 

If he is threatening to deal you physical harm, then you should seek help - when people resort to words like those, they don't often "improve" on their own. And besides, you don't deserve that kind of verbal abuse - no one does.

 

Verbal abuse is abuse Trell, and he's threatened you...It's just my opinion, but I think you should tell someone! People don't have the right to tell you things like that!


God bless!

-Malz

 

Trell - I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems at home ... especially with your parents, who are the ones that we turn to for love, encouragement, and support. Abuse, in any form (physical or verbal), is not right. You do have options that you should consider in order to protect yourself. You will be in my prayers. Know that you are not alone and that there are people here who are concerned for your safety, well-being, and happiness.

I wish there was more that I could do to help you. Hang in there, Honey!!! Lots of "cyber-hugs" coming your way ....

DM10

 

My Dad used to kick my ass pretty regularly until I kicked his. I suggest giving him a good punch in the mouth. Most bullies will back down when they realize they can be hurt themselves.

As for going to a counselor...It will probably not result in your immediate removal from your home, and will likely be seen as a betrayal by your Dad, and may result in a beating. I say punch him in the face. You'll feel better anyway, even if he slaps you around after, because you'll have stood up to him. He may think twice next time as well...

 

Not a good way to go, Boba.

Bullies often have problems of their own, and take them out on other people (bullies have often been treated poorly in the past themselves).

As for going to a counselor...It will probably not result in your immediate removal from your home, and will likely be seen as a betrayal by your Dad, and may result in a beating.

Which might result in jail time if charges were pressed, and would solidify any abuse case. Such behavior is unacceptable, and ought to be reported to the proper authorities.

The problem won't be solved with more violence (at least not in the vast majority of cases).

 

I understand where you come from, BOBA. My dad was a good man, but he drunk like a fish. One time he was making fun of my face {while drunk, he used to cry after it wore off about what he done to me}, and he started to poke at my scar. I couldn't take it so I lashed out. I hurt him pretty bad, I'm much taller than he is. {well, now he's almost sixty, but still I'm much taller".


You know, sometimes when you can't take it anymore, you must fight back. Kick his ass, if it means that he'll stop.

 

Hey, Knightwriter. I hear what you are saying, but it did work for me. How did you deal with bullies in school? Did you tell on them? Did that change them?

I'm not saying that doing it your way couldn't work, just that most bullies that I have dealt with, including my Dad, only understand force.

For evidence of this, see how many people get the crap beat out of them by the very person they have a restraining order against.

 

seems all to familar for many of us.