Mysteries of the female orgasm

The Female Orgasm Explained

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Q: Is it possible for a woman to have an orgasm and not make that much noise?

A: Yes. Women?and men?don't always make audible sounds during orgasm.



Q: Is sex enjoyable for her if she doesn't orgasm?

A: Women, more often than men, report that they find sex to be pleasurable even if they do not orgasm. In addition to the fact that it feels pleasurable to be touched, many women enjoy the intimacy that sex provides, the kissing, touching, closeness, etc.



Q: Is there an average time to her orgasm?

A: It depends in what way she's stimulated. Masturbation with a vibrator is the quickest route to orgasm, while intercourse tends to take more time, for the majority of women. But it varies so much not only but from sex act to sex act, but also from woman to woman.



Q: How can a guy bring a woman to orgasm faster?

A: Women sometimes find it easier to orgasm if they are relaxed and feel comfortable with their partner. Orgasm is more likely with a regular relationship partner than a casual partner. Help her relax by addressing any relationship conflicts, and talking about (and trying to meet) her needs for affection and intimacy. Be positive and complimentary about issues she's anxious about, such as her appearance or weight.



Also, make sure she is sufficiently aroused prior to trying to have an orgasm from oral sex, intercourse, or hand stimulation. There is no magic cue to tell, so talk to her! Certainly sexual excitement is often accompanied by an increase in heart rate and breathing, and becoming warmer and lubricated?but that may be as good as it gets as far as physical signs go.



Q: Can he bring her to orgasm during a quickie?

A: It depends how quick the quickie is. There are few women who can orgasm in less than 5 minutes, but some can. More often, though, the answer is no.



Q: How can a guy give a woman multiple orgasms?

A: Not all women report ever having had multiple orgasms. In some studies, it seems that less than half of women have reported this. That doesn't mean that they aren't capable of multiple orgasms, but it does mean that we don't know how many are.



For women who want multiple orgasms?and that is key, guys?try to maintain stimulation through the first orgasm so that she can keep going. For women who are neutral about multiples or don't care, don't pressure her (and yes, trying too hard counts as pressure) because pressure and orgasm rarely mix.



Q: What is the best position for her orgasm?

A: There is no such thing: It depends on the woman. Again, not all women can orgasm during intercourse. Some orgasm more easily from stimulation of the front wall of the vagina, others more easily from direct stimulation of the clitoris. Missionary and rear entry are among the more common positions and probably for a reason: Each provides either clitoral or front-wall stimulation, making them good bets for many women.



Q: Is oral sex best?

A: No, but the direct stimulation of the clitoral glans does make it easier for many women to orgasm.



Q: How can a guy tell if he really is her "best ever"?

A: If she tells you that.



Q: What about women achieving orgasm through fantasy alone?

A: We know that it is possible, but relatively rare. Orgasms resulting from waking fantasies are not at all common, and dreams during sleep are somewhat common.



Q: And what's this about a nipple orgasm?

A: We don't even really understand how clitoral/vaginal orgasms work, let alone how nipple-stimulated orgasms work. We have various theories, but no one really knows. All we know is that some women (that is, the minority) have had this experience.



I wouldn't encourage a guy to try to give a woman these types of orgasms because that can result in too much pressure, frustration, and dissatisfaction?and that wouldn't provide a service to either party.



Discuss

 

Mysteries? Aren't most of those obvious?

 

This thread is irrelevant until Carmen picks it apart.

 

Only to those who've ... well ... done their homework before taking a tumble in the sack.

 

Q: Is the female orgasm a myth?

A: Yes.

 

I lol'd at that

 

lol

Well, I don't think it's too hard to figure out the answers that are variations of "depends on the woman."

 

Sadly, this does qualify as a mystery for a lot of men.

 

There are few women who can orgasm in less than 5 minutes, but some can.

Really? Are they talking about just from sex, or orgasming in general?

 

You're the female, you tell us.

 

Well, I can only talk about my experience, not the experience of women as a whole, which is why I'm curious.

 

True ... though some people neglect to use what's between their ears when it comes to using what's between their legs.

 

i already knew all that

question to thread author: have you ever gotten laid?

 

It has been so long that I might as well say no, but yes I have indeed been laid many times.

 

It seems like a disproportionate amount of hetero men talk about how great they are with stimulating female orgasms compared to how many actually ARE when it comes down to it.

But really, I think both partners' orgasms are more of a group effort. I don't think it's fair to hold the other person solely accountable for your pleasure . . .
(Of course, if someone's going to brag about how great they are . . . heh.)

edit. zas cant pluralize

 

Then I suggest you re-read on multiple orgasms

 

o ****. I brought that on myself.

 

Well that was a good read.

 

I hated that sack race on field day.

 

I'll be in my bunk.



Go n-ithe an cat thú, is go n-ithe an diabhal an cat.

 

That article seems like it was written by a man with limited experience.

 

*Fixed

 

Hahaha, took the words right outta my brain

 

And thus, why guys don't bother to try

 

Hooray sexual incompetence?