Erasing someone from your memory

I'm going through an extremely bad situation with my (ex)girlfriend and we're at that stage that she's asking me for some space which means not talking to her, texting etc.

However, it really hurts to have someone be that big a part of my life and then just be expected to just let them go do their own thing until they have taken care of their personal problems. But since it is hurting so much, literally distracting me, causing me to cry, and other...bad things, I am just going to do us both a favor and eliminate her from my life entirely.

My friend gave me the best advice: To cut her off completely, try not to think about her, and just wait. Saying that either I will move on or she will come back. You guys got any better advice. Please anything should help.

-b

 

The answer is to stalk her on the internet, because that will prove to her how much you still care.

Either that or go to a titty bar.

 

it takes time, even a year or two. only advice i could give you is to find a hobby and stay busy/make different friends and enjoy your life as you choose to enjoy your situation.

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duct tape rules!

 

Light

And

Day


Is all that you'll say


Follow the sun!!

 

He could wake up all half-baked and, gooey and, and half-baked... mmm, that sounds sooo good. I'm hungry.

 

I've got two words for you:
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Believe me, I sympathize. I don't have any good advice (people rarely do), so I'll give some really bad advice.

One word: rebound. No, wait-- rebounds. Go through, like, six partners in three days. It's amazing how being bummed about a breakup attracts women.

Forget internet stalking. Hire a PI and he can do the stalking.

Figure out where the memory center of the brain is and jab an ice pick into it. Make sure to disinfect the ice pick first.

Booze. Lots of it.

And Ambien! Those two in combination can do WONDERS.

 

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i gots one of them things that they used in teh men in balkc mobies that erases minds. cool story, bro

 

The odd thing about trying really hard not to think about something or someone is that you'll more than likely want to think about that someone even more as a result ("don't think about her, don't think about her, don't think about her"). Rather than thinking of it as "Cutting her off" or "erasing" her, simply think about other things (this can be difficult because it's emotionally painful to let go sometimes--however try to be brave, because you can do it).

The trick is to focus on things which allow you to naturally leave her out of your head--so less purposeful "distractions" and more purposeful necessities and desires. Many people recommend exercise because it's healthy, makes it easier for you to control your emotions, and makes it harder for you to think about anything too hard when you're sweating and out of breath. It can be healthy to talk with your friends (keep their feelings in mind), or perhaps write about how you're feeling--just don't let these feelings define you no matter how strong they may be: you are in control. Also sometimes "getting back up" is not what you might envision--it doesn't mean that you will suddenly feel better, and all your dreams will come true. Getting back up hurts--it's a process, but it will get better. I hope you can find something constructive in my post--if not, I hope you at least feel better and are able to recognize this as just one more event out of a long chain--there will be better moments.

 

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You should take up WoW.

 

Sad thing is, like everyone will say, it really does take time and you will have to just go through it. Distractions as AofG said are very good and doing new things as well as it won't bring up memories of things you did with her can help.

 

You should drink bleach.

 

Know what you're going through man. Break ups are tough. Just leave her be, try to move on as best you can. It worked for me. And now my ex and I are friends....(nowhere near as close as we were before we went out but, all in all, it was salvageable.).

Give it time, have some fun, try to keep your mind off it.

 

That doesn't sound like eliminating her from your life. Sounds like she already cut you off completely and you're letting her influence what you do while cut off.

For once I agree with Darth_Guy. Go out and get laid.

 

If your decision has been made with consideration and reflection on your part with that outcome being what you feel is the best to allow you to continue living your life - then do it.

A relationship ending is like a death,there's all the classic stages of human reaction in a relationship ending as there is in losing a loved one.

This way too you are not wrapping yourself up in cotton wool thus not allowing the "wound" to heal.

With a cut or injury to the body there's an appropriate amount of time to dress the wound with bandages,then comes the time for them to come off so that the body's systems can begin the scabbing which will lead to the skin replacing itself and perhaps a scar will remain.

Scar or not there's functioning tissue once more and you are hale and whole.

7 billion people on the earth means the odds of feeling this love (not this specific and exact love for the person you speak of per se) but the kind of love you are mourning is out there and you will find it - so long as you get back into the swing of things.

It's hard to let go but sometimes it is also necessary.


Good Luck and best wishes.

 

This. And lots of exercise.

 

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You'll never be able to let go of her 100% if you loved her, but you can let yourself do other things and care about other people.

That is the hard part. Make sure to give yourself permission to do this or that fun thing, be with that friend, etc. Sometimes you feel badly about doing it because you want to be with someone else, or you think you should stay home to be sad. Continue living your life, even if you have to force yourself to do certain things, and it will get easier over time.

Now I still on random occasions have dreams about people I've attempted to "erase from my memory," some even from 10+ years ago, so that is not to say that they will be forever gone. They'll still pop up once in awhile when you let your guard down. But you'll have moved on and won't need them anymore.

 

This.

Really, just distract yourself. With hobbies, other people, other girls. She cut you off, its her loss. No reason for you to wallow in misery because of it.

Will distractions work? It's hard to say. Odds are it won't (didn't work in my case, and occasionally people from my past still pop into my head when I least expect it and often I wonder how they're doing even if the relationship ended ages ago). However, the pain of that loss will subside with time, because, after all, Time does heal all wounds. You just have to give yourself a bit of that time.

 

Sleep with all of her friends.

You get revenge, you get laid, your mind is occupied. It's the perfect solution.

 

This is a solid solution.

Trying to bang her mom to get closer to her is a good approach, too.

 

Oh yeah, and her sisters too.

 

Now that she's single, can I have her number?