Erasing someone from your memory

Is there no problem the JCC can't solve?

 

Ed/ Nahhhh.... on second thought, I don't think that would help.

Ed1.1/ Nooo... that either.

 

She's not single, she's out ******* other men. Why? Because that's what women do. They don't break up with you because they need space, or need to think, or whatever ******** reason they give you, they do it because they want to **** someone else. Don't believe ANY of the lies she's feeding you in order to make you think otherwise.

Listen to Darth_Guy, block, BLACKJEBUS, Quixotic_Sith, and myself. We know what's best.

And in all seriousness, try to bang at least ONE of her friends, just to piss her off. She deserves it.

 

1) Drink whiskey yes, and lots of it.
2) Listen to the Polyphonic Spree.
3) Play WoW
4) Have endless phone sex with people you meet on WoW from far away lands. That way if she comes back you can honestly say you weren't with anyone else, or if not you can truthfully tell her you have like 6 girlfriends.
5) Mood stablizers. (optional)

you could also get a pet.

 

expand your horizons - romance the dead!

best decision i ever made.

 

lobotomy

 

partial or complete, though?

 

mostly

 

From past personal experience, yeah, that is usually the case. My one significant (as in ver ugly, very painful) breakup involved just a scenario. Granted our relationship didn't start out well enough and it fizzled out shortly to the point we had just become exes with priviledges, but eventually it came to a point when she started not being there and looking for excuses not to be with me anymore. I eventually found out it was because she was shacking up with someone else but didn't want to tell me so as to "not hurt me" (riiight). After wallowing in misery for a bit I decided I had to stop thinking about her and go on the rebound. Even though that wasn't succesful, it's the only thing you CAN do so as to (1) forget you're lonely, (2) stop thinking about that person or even MISSING those good memories/feelings/emotions involving that person.

 

After seeing many friends and siblings withstand years of destructive, dysfunctional relationships with people they should have simply ended, I have rounded up a lot of breakup advice through the terrible mistakes of others.

First off, rather than wallow in self pity thinking about all the good times you had with that person, you need to focus on the bad things for a little while. Every time you get nostalgic, sentimental, or yearn for that person you need to remind yourself why the relationship is in the state it is in. Clearly, a need for space and an uncertain future implies something is broken. Try to find out what that is or remind yourself. I know it sucks, but you just gotta focus on the bad.

Additionally, rather than sit around wishing you could do activities with your former partner, spend this times really enjoying doing the things that you couldn't do with that person. It could be as simple as cooking a meal your partner wouldn't enjoy eating, going to a certain restaurant, handing out with friends, playing video games or watching a certain movie. It is enjoyable to finally spend a little "me" time without having to worry about accommodating another person's needs. Revel in it. Remind yourself how nice it is to just...do exactly what it is that you feel like doing.

The ONLY way to move on or achieve space is by ceasing ALL forms of contact...yes, I mean Facebook, too. No, but really. Hide her or delete her from Facebook. You will find yourself in moments of vulnerability picking up that phone to send her a txt. It's ok--we have all been there. Put down the phone.

In order for some of my friends to achieve moving on emotionally is by really re-arranging their daily schedules for a time. I had a friend who was a night owl, but she knew that staying up by herself at night were the times she felt the worst and the weakest. To combat this, she dedicated herself to waking up and going to bed earlier for a few weeks.

Picking up a hobby or activity is always good. Rediscover things that you used to do but stopped making time for when you got into the relationship.

Lastly, truly try to know and understand that you are an individual possessing your own strength, and that your identity and ability to function has never and will never have ANYTHING to do with who you choose to date and love. Don't get trapped thinking, "I can't do it without you", or "I can't imagine my life without you in it". *Slaps across the face*--yes you can, of course you can! You are not helpless! You have your own thoughts, interests, perspectives, and personality. You will be just fine operating without another person, even though it is sad. Besides, if you were *really* in a relationship where you were that dependent on someone else for your happiness and self-esteem, don't you think that shows the relationship was unhealthy to begin with?

Just food for thought. Maybe not all my advice will apply to you, but maybe you can take from it what ya can. Hang in there! And the JCC is always here, lol!

 

I'm glad this resolved itself peacefully, being that I generally agree with your posts.

 

Hey, at least you didn't erroneously call me a virgin. That in itself is an improvement over the typical responses I get.

 

I'm glad someone else said it.

 

Pffft...you're a chump if you think otherwise.